Safewords - assigned or selected?

[Ebonyfire]

rebecca
Back on topic I would suggest that it would be more likely a submissive might hold back a little on using a safe word than a Dominant/Top ever ignore one.

Not any of submissives would do that. I am very observant and I pretty much know them so that if they do not safeword, there are consequences. But that is just Me.

Eb

 

[Shankara20]

Not any of submissives would do that. I am very observant and I pretty much know them so that if they do not safeword, there are consequences. But that is just Me.

Eb

I don't fully embrace this idea, but I sorta feel that my bottom calls safeword it is an indication of a failure on my part as Top. When I Top I want to stay so connected to bottom that I know more about where they are then they do. I am only talking about myself, not judging other Tops, but then I tend to be harsh on myself.

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

Not any of submissives would do that. I am very observant and I pretty much know them so that if they do not safeword, there are consequences. But that is just Me.

Eb

EB Ma'am I think its best I qualify a little more here. I did not mean a submissive would not use a safe-word . When I said 'hold back' I meant the real exploration of can I go a few more seconds/degrees before I actually call safe-word.

I can think of actual situations exploring new areas particularly with pain where the recovery has been quick that I have wondered perhaps another.......... Continuance has not been up to me cessation has been. Perhaps prolonging the time and as I said this may just be a matter of seconds.

 

[Ebonyfire]

I don't fully embrace this idea, but I sorta feel that my bottom calls safeword it is an indication of a failure on my part as Top. When I Top I want to stay so connected to bottom that I know more about where they are then they do. I am only talking about myself, not judging other Tops, but then I tend to be harsh on myself.

Understood.

 

[Ebonyfire]

EB Ma'am I think its best I qualify a little more here. I did not mean a submissive would not use a safe-word . When I said 'hold back' I meant the real exploration of can I go a few more seconds/degrees before I actually call safe-word.

I can think of actual situations exploring new areas particularly with pain where the recovery has been quick that I have wondered perhaps another.......... Continuance has not been up to me cessation has been. Perhaps prolonging the time and as I said this may just be a matter of seconds.

Understood. I was just talking about my favorite subject Me, lol.

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

Understood. I was just talking about my favorite subject Me, lol.

laughs.......well thats

 

[Daddyslilpet]

I Hate to use my safewords. I always feel like a failure when I have to. I don't recall ever using "Red" but I could've once, "Yellow" I've used a number of times and always feel bad about it.

Yes I know that's what they are for. Yes I know He expects me to use them if I need to, and when I've used them I really needed to. However, I'm very hard on myself, so all the logic in the world won't change how it makes me feel when I safeword.

Just so y'all know, Daddy is very supportive and always listens to the safeword. He even checks on me many times during our play, because He knows me so well.

 

[stageleft]

safe

my g/f applies an action as opposed to safe word.
this was applied as she has an insatiable love for deepthroating.her thrill is enhanced when i press the top of her head firmly down & hold her head rigidly in position.
as a consequence a double handed slap applied to any region is a safe signal.
works well with all scenarios.

 

[chris9]

my g/f applies an action as opposed to safe word.
this was applied as she has an insatiable love for deepthroating.her thrill is enhanced when i press the top of her head firmly down & hold her head rigidly in position.
as a consequence a double handed slap applied to any region is a safe signal.
works well with all scenarios.

With all scenarios except when hands are bound. It's a good idea though.

 

[chris9]

I like to ask him to stop, and his refusal is a big turn-on, so at least asking to stop won't work for us. That said for bad things happening (arms fallings asleep, leg cramps etc) it works just fine stating what's happening. That, to me, is no safewords situation.
Now that I say it, it comes to mind that he does check on me exceptionally well. Last time, I had my arms tied on my back with a belt, lying on my side and thus on one arm, he untied me in exactly the moment I would have said something about the arm falling asleep. He told me later that he constantly checked my fingers.

 

[satin_coals]

looking very smooth indeed in that AV , shanky

you're so photogentic! go shanky, go!

 

[Shankara20]

looking very smooth indeed in that AV , shanky

you're so photogentic! go shanky, go!

*blush*

 

[callinectes]

I Hate to use my safewords. I always feel like a failure when I have to. I don't recall ever using "Red" but I could've once, "Yellow" I've used a number of times and always feel bad about it.

Yes I know that's what they are for. Yes I know He expects me to use them if I need to, and when I've used them I really needed to. However, I'm very hard on myself, so all the logic in the world won't change how it makes me feel when I safeword.

Just so y'all know, Daddy is very supportive and always listens to the safeword. He even checks on me many times during our play, because He knows me so well.

I can so relate. I called yellow in our first session and it made me feel so inadequate. He didn't make me feel that way, it's something I did to myself. Like you, all of the logic in the world won't change the way I feel about it.