Safewords. Does yours have a special meaning just for you?

[Evil_Geoff]

Regarding safewords:

When my home is open to others for a play party, the "House" safewords are "Red" or "Mayday" (pilots will know why! *grin*) and are enforced by the host/hostess/designated monitors/trusted friends.

Personally, janey and I agreed to use "Uncle!" (from our childood days) or "Mercy!" since I would recognize and respond to those even pretty far off in Top space. Uncle works very well for us because we both have known it means "I give up!" for ages... Having siblings/cousins to wrestle/fight with was a good thing in this case!

janey has safe'd out of a couple of scenes when they hit emotional landmines even though the play was not physically near her limits. No problem on my part, we talked the issues over, worked through them, and continue to play another time...

 

[LittleJade]

My safe word is RED. Simple. Though my partner stops the moment I whisper "stop"... he'll just pause for a moment... he knows I can take it, just need a minute to get used to it... and then continues... "red" means full-stop, back up, and don't touch me for a couple minutes.

 

[neonflux]

Exactly.

I was kinda grumpy last night, so I probably came across the wrong way, but you basically proved my point there. He knows if you can't handle anymore, even if you don't SAY anything. I think what I'm trying to say is that if you're physically in a place where you can't say anything or remember your safeword or whatever (and, yes, that's possible), he's not going to just keep whaling away on you on principle just because you haven't said your safeword.

Oh, Miss Neon, to answer your question, my official "safe sign" is to snap my fingers, but I've never had to use that one, either. I can make some spectacular noises behind a gag if necessary, so if I'm getting close to my tolerance of something, the other person will KNOW, LOL.

I have used/asked partners to use a "thumbs sideways" and "thumbs down" but have always wanted to find one that is less "ambiguous." I like the finger snap. Neon

 

[ecstaticsub]

Regarding safewords:

When my home is open to others for a play party, the "House" safewords are "Red" or "Mayday" (pilots will know why! *grin*) and are enforced by the host/hostess/designated monitors/trusted friends.

Personally, janey and I agreed to use "Uncle!" (from our childood days) or "Mercy!" since I would recognize and respond to those even pretty far off in Top space. Uncle works very well for us because we both have known it means "I give up!" for ages... Having siblings/cousins to wrestle/fight with was a good thing in this case!

janey has safe'd out of a couple of scenes when they hit emotional landmines even though the play was not physically near her limits. No problem on my part, we talked the issues over, worked through them, and continue to play another time...

I had to smile at you using Uncle. We use it too, but not as a safeword. We use it sort of jokingly for marathon all-day sex sessions when either of us need a break or a little sleep. It is usually me crying Uncle much more than him.