Seducing the male submissive (and vice versa)

[Softouch911]

OT question

Sorry to intrude, not a thread hijack:

What's generally the best place to find out about local group meetings? The local alternative paper? Is there a way to find out ahead of time if they're at a level you will be comfortable at, or is it just a matter of experiencing it?

So as to not lead the thread OT, if you have suggestions, please feel free to PM them to me. TIA.

 

[AAkasha]

Sorry to intrude, not a thread hijack:

What's generally the best place to find out about local group meetings? The local alternative paper? Is there a way to find out ahead of time if they're at a level you will be comfortable at, or is it just a matter of experiencing it?

So as to not lead the thread OT, if you have suggestions, please feel free to PM them to me. TIA.

Try google. Type your city name + bdsm + munch.

Usually that will get you to some sort of a listing of local bdsm get togethers, their particulars and sometimes a web site. Make sure it is still active. Most "munches" are in public places where people dress normal -- it's not a play thing. But the listing should clarify.

Akasha

 

[SweetDommes]

Lol, I'm actually surprised that we have like five threads active now, we had none a few weeks ago.

5?? where are the other 3?

 

[SweetDommes]

Sorry to intrude, not a thread hijack:

What's generally the best place to find out about local group meetings? The local alternative paper? Is there a way to find out ahead of time if they're at a level you will be comfortable at, or is it just a matter of experiencing it?

So as to not lead the thread OT, if you have suggestions, please feel free to PM them to me. TIA.

try searching for your city, state here and here - the listings overlap, but not completely - join the lists and start introducing yourself.

 

[Aeroil]

try searching for your city, state here and here - the listings overlap, but not completely - join the lists and start introducing yourself.

"From down under", "seducing the male submissive", "ok, you male subs" are three, there's a few other pseudo F/m threads that I think we can cobble into one whole, so I was only one off I guess
*ahem* but enormous hijack aside......

 

[Xelebes]

You can't forget the Strap-on threads.

I'm gonna keep up with the hope that with me hanging around the hardcore parties and the goth bar I might have some luck with someone around my age.

But I still hang around the bdsm club because they are a fun bunch too.

 

[Her sissy slave]

seduction?

if Dommes anywhere "seduce" males it is news to me personally.

do i enjoy searching?...no! i do not enjoy it but it has been a have-to.. i have only been found by 2 so called dommes so far since 1998.....
it is usually me looking...and that is how i found my present Goddess i am under consideration to..
as to ideal? i never gave it a thought actually.. being seduced? sounds interesting but so far there are far too many snobs for dommes. all playing this hloier than thou attitude..and we all get the same 6 by 6 by 3 space at the end of our time...

ah well. people. go figure.

thanks
and btw?
i LUV YOUR stories......You are SO good at writing..

 

[AAkasha]

if Dommes anywhere "seduce" males it is news to me personally.

do i enjoy searching?...no! i do not enjoy it but it has been a have-to.. i have only been found by 2 so called dommes so far since 1998.....
it is usually me looking...and that is how i found my present Goddess i am under consideration to..
as to ideal? i never gave it a thought actually.. being seduced? sounds interesting but so far there are far too many snobs for dommes. all playing this hloier than thou attitude..and we all get the same 6 by 6 by 3 space at the end of our time...

ah well. people. go figure.

thanks
and btw?
i LUV YOUR stories......You are SO good at writing..

I don't think it is unheard of that femdoms have used seduction to find partners -- especially if in any period of their life they were mostly with vanilla men. Seduction is part of the thrill of dominance. For femdoms like me, the thrill of seduction and conquer is core to the dominant experience -- not all femdoms just like to sit back and go through all the countless propositions they receive. They like to identify and pursue their prey.

Thank you for the compliment on my stories.

Akasha

 

[HTG]

I find it interestting that everyone seems to have taken seduction as a dominant act. I've always thought of seduction as deliberatly being attractive, or doing things to encourage someone else to want you. So I believe that a sub can seduce a domme, mainly by being attractively submissive.

 

[Her sissy slave]

seduction

i'd give my left arm to have 1 Domme seduce ME.

 

[ghosst_K&H]

I have an outgoing personality, and have no problem initiating contacts, but I wouldn't call myself seductive, just open and honest. Some (SweetDommes's for instance) are drawn to my honesty, and that, and some light banter about a spanking for bratty boys is how I earned and invitation to meet Holly and Karen.

 

[Cherrysweetdeal]

from a female sub...

I honestly don't have a whole lot of experience in submission but part of me is a bit feisty and I do like to control my life and if someone pushes me I push back. So I guess that means I have some dominant tendencies...not sure yet which side i'd play for though.

As a sub for both female and male dom/mesI'd like to be seduced for the most part sometimes it's fun to have someone just take what they want but part of my personality wants to be independent. That is how I feel about myself.

I think that it depends on the person, how shy the person is and the attitude of the person on top because no one person will be the same, each have a unique style, attitude and personality. I hope noone minds me posting but that is my opinion.

cherry

 

[Seduce]

Suppose I should post something here considering my nickname (have no idea why the heck I picked it up in the first place).

I dont do much, but I have that trick just looking at man. Some say I have very emphatic eyes.

I look him in the eyes quite long, and when I sense he is going to react, I avert my eyes like I was not interested at all and look at something else. But I keep watching him with just corners of my eyes.
When he stops looking at me too, I do the same thing again.

Takes me usually one to three of those staring to get him to come to me and start conversation.
Never fails.

 

[onceburned]

Takes me usually one to three of those staring to get him to come to me and start conversation.
Never fails.

Nice trick! I am going to have to try that.

 

[Seduce]

Nice trick! I am going to have to try that.

It works, believe me.
Just dont smile, be very very serious and sort of burry your eyes into his, but still like you dont see him (like when you stare at something).
And then act like you have never noticed him.

Its funny..... they start to wriggle and cannot resist coming, even the most stuffed and arrogant ones

 

[Her sissy slave]

seduction

It works, believe me.
Just dont smile, be very very serious and sort of burry your eyes into his, but still like you dont see him (like when you stare at something).
And then act like you have never noticed him.

Its funny..... they start to wriggle and cannot resist coming, even the most stuffed and arrogant ones

i understand, some Ladies like the art of it,..i just wish ALL did. it would make being submissive to a Lady much more pleasant. it's enough, women claim they want to be seduced..(as if i knew how on a screen) but it would be so nice to feel like some one actually is interested in more than what you can give them(service etc)--to feel warmed by someone's wording that you were actually special. this line of..She takes care of Her property' yeah? like feeding the dog and take him for a walk? be nice to feel you are more human and have feelings.
ah i digress.

thanks for my 2 cents

a slave

 

[Seduce]

i understand, some Ladies like the art of it,..i just wish ALL did. it would make being submissive to a Lady much more pleasant. it's enough, women claim they want to be seduced..(as if i knew how on a screen) but it would be so nice to feel like some one actually is interested in more than what you can give them(service etc)--to feel warmed by someone's wording that you were actually special. this line of..She takes care of Her property' yeah? like feeding the dog and take him for a walk? be nice to feel you are more human and have feelings.
ah i digress.

thanks for my 2 cents

a slave

For me erotica without any art would be the worst kind of pornography.
Women have their ways of seducing men, in fact I think they are the ones pulling all the strings actually.
On screen like off screen - be special, be smart,be funny, make yourself interesting and not easy to catch.

 

[Cherrysweetdeal]

On screen like off screen - be special, be smart,be funny, make yourself interesting and not easy to catch.

Good advice to both males and females in the world.

cherry

 

[landcruisergal]

It works, believe me.
Just dont smile, be very very serious and sort of burry your eyes into his, but still like you dont see him (like when you stare at something).
And then act like you have never noticed him.

Its funny..... they start to wriggle and cannot resist coming, even the most stuffed and arrogant ones

I just know this technique works! I have been doing this since I was an adolescent, I am not good at small talk, have never considered myself pretty, so make my eyes do the work. A fuck buddy and I used to play it at clubs we used to frequent. If there was nothing better on offer, we would start this eye contact game....

 

[Her sissy slave]

reply

Good advice to both males and females in the world.

cherry

yeah right. like "i" am going to play hard to get? uh huh..as if.

Ladies know darn well it is not going to happen in this lifetime.
i am too easy. all a Lady has to do, is give me that-look...or like i have a vision of,,,put one hand on a hip, turn toward me so i know it is me She is looking at directly, and the other hand gimme that c'mere finger...
hard to get? LMAO....giggling so hard it hurts.....

i have never played hard to get. Ladies, vanilla/ D/s..doesn't matter....
i am just too easy......never gonna happen. not this lil gray duck.

 

[Seduce]

yeah right. like "i" am going to play hard to get? uh huh..as if.

Ladies know darn well it is not going to happen in this lifetime.
i am too easy. all a Lady has to do, is give me that-look...or like i have a vision of,,,put one hand on a hip, turn toward me so i know it is me She is looking at directly, and the other hand gimme that c'mere finger...
hard to get? LMAO....giggling so hard it hurts.....

i have never played hard to get. Ladies, vanilla/ D/s..doesn't matter....
i am just too easy......never gonna happen. not this lil gray duck.

Well, I think I should warn you - some people dont like things they get for nothing. They dont appriciate something they got too easily.

Like someone here said in one post - "I dont go around with just everyone", and I felt the price of that man was rising in my mind.
Dont say I was right, maybe it was just a trick to gain attention...... but it worked. Guy knows how to play the game.

As a matter of fact, I would never say you were easy, you seem to be very stubborn person, and those may be easy to get but hard to go on with.
Just my opinion, no offense ment.

 

[roosterado9]

For me erotica without any art would be the worst kind of pornography.
Women have their ways of seducing men, in fact I think they are the ones pulling all the strings actually.
On screen like off screen - be special, be smart,be funny, make yourself interesting and not easy to catch.

Not easy to catch is easy Unless I love the woman then i'll scare her oof so fast it'll be all over but my tears

 

[just a thing]

Ooh, I like this thread!

 

[Her sissy slave]

offense

Well, I think I should warn you - some people dont like things they get for nothing. They dont appriciate something they got too easily.

Like someone here said in one post - "I dont go around with just everyone", and I felt the price of that man was rising in my mind.
Dont say I was right, maybe it was just a trick to gain attention...... but it worked. Guy knows how to play the game.

As a matter of fact, I would never say you were easy, you seem to be very stubborn person, and those may be easy to get but hard to go on with.
Just my opinion, no offense ment.

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i take no offense. i realize at times a lot of folks do not understand..but i am a teddy bear inside.
and as to "guys know the game"...THIS ONE doesn't! i never play games with people. i am straight forward off the hip take it or leave it.
i was taught very very young games are for kids. i became a man at 10 when my father(not dad---he was never a dad ) burned everything i had outside in the trash burner......
no more toys boy....be a man now! so i left home at 16 when i was thrown out.

so i guess i may be gruff on the edges..to a lot of folks. but it comes from being macho male all my life..moreso than most i have known.
"i couldnt do that..i dont have the guts for it." and i say, why, aint man enough? still a boy huh?


ah well
my soapbox.

i'm done.
thanks