Magic Merlin
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Unclebill,
That is very perceptive..Allowing others to see what we think of ourselves by the person whom we choose to love. I don't think I had ever quite thought of it in those terms..But it does make a lot of sense..
I know when I am in the company of the one I love, I sometimes notice my more positive qualities seem to be more evident to me. I am more aware of them.. And this makes me feel good about myself.. And this in effect, brings about more awareness on my part of who this person is, what she means to me and I think tends to reinforce or cause my love for her to grow..
But is this all just intellectual valuation, or is there another aspect to love besides the intellectual? I certainly agree with you that part of the love you feel for your SO is strictly based on the intellectual, but I don't think all of it is. I think there is another aspect of love that goes beyond the intellectual. A more spiritual facet (for lack of a better word at this time), something that extends beyond our ordinary abilities to comprehend. At least in a logical way. When I see couples that have been married 40, 50 or more years and their still holding hands with each other, I see much more than just an intellectual kind of love.
Now maybe I'm to much of a romantic, but there have been times when I've loved someone very deeply, that the bond with that person has taken me beyond any ability to reason the love I feel intellectually. Its way beyond..Now I do think this is a rare occurrence..I don't think most people experience this very often.. And even in those relationships that do experience it, I don't think it is something that is always readily accessible, but I do believe the experience is there.
Well, with all that being said, I find your definition very perceptive and thought provoking..I have never been able to put my feeling about love into what I have said here. That was only because of what you offered....I'm sure I will think about this even more..
Thanks Unclebill. A philosopher you are!!
Reading this back, I wonder if what I said makes much sense or has any clarity to it. Love is definately a hard concept to define. However, any thoughts you have to offer on what I wrote would be appreciated.
[This message has been edited by magic merlin (edited 05-14-2000).]
[This message has been edited by magic merlin (edited 05-14-2000).]
That is very perceptive..Allowing others to see what we think of ourselves by the person whom we choose to love. I don't think I had ever quite thought of it in those terms..But it does make a lot of sense..
I know when I am in the company of the one I love, I sometimes notice my more positive qualities seem to be more evident to me. I am more aware of them.. And this makes me feel good about myself.. And this in effect, brings about more awareness on my part of who this person is, what she means to me and I think tends to reinforce or cause my love for her to grow..
But is this all just intellectual valuation, or is there another aspect to love besides the intellectual? I certainly agree with you that part of the love you feel for your SO is strictly based on the intellectual, but I don't think all of it is. I think there is another aspect of love that goes beyond the intellectual. A more spiritual facet (for lack of a better word at this time), something that extends beyond our ordinary abilities to comprehend. At least in a logical way. When I see couples that have been married 40, 50 or more years and their still holding hands with each other, I see much more than just an intellectual kind of love.
Now maybe I'm to much of a romantic, but there have been times when I've loved someone very deeply, that the bond with that person has taken me beyond any ability to reason the love I feel intellectually. Its way beyond..Now I do think this is a rare occurrence..I don't think most people experience this very often.. And even in those relationships that do experience it, I don't think it is something that is always readily accessible, but I do believe the experience is there.
Well, with all that being said, I find your definition very perceptive and thought provoking..I have never been able to put my feeling about love into what I have said here. That was only because of what you offered....I'm sure I will think about this even more..
Thanks Unclebill. A philosopher you are!!
Reading this back, I wonder if what I said makes much sense or has any clarity to it. Love is definately a hard concept to define. However, any thoughts you have to offer on what I wrote would be appreciated.
[This message has been edited by magic merlin (edited 05-14-2000).]
[This message has been edited by magic merlin (edited 05-14-2000).]
