Sex & Marriage

[sarongpartygal]

I think I need to explain more. Now that my urges are back to before meeting, I find myself wanting hot, and sweaty sex, the type that makes you wet thinking about it and I want to feel sexy again.

We've fallen into routines, he has never been good at flirting or romance, and is such a great friend and husband, just not the dirty hot sex in a hotel room lover my bloody lower region throbs for!

*hangs head*

 

[southfl_bicur]

I think I need to explain more. Now that my urges are back to before meeting, I find myself wanting hot, and sweaty sex, the type that makes you wet thinking about it and I want to feel sexy again.

We've fallen into routines, he has never been good at flirting or romance, and is such a great friend and husband, just not the dirty hot sex in a hotel room lover my bloody lower region throbs for!

*hangs head*

I see this alot and actually went through it too. Dont women peak around 50 where men peak much much earlier?

You definitely need to talk about it. I dont think he will ever be where you are but compromise is the answer to everything. Can you live with something in the middle?

 

[sarongpartygal]

I suppose I could

 

[southfl_bicur]

I suppose I could

You said hes a great father & husband but if he does not rise up to your level is it a deal breaker? Will you then go elsewhere to fulfill your needs?

 

[sarongpartygal]

We don't have children. But yes he is a lovely husband and I can't fault our marriage from an emotional point of view. I am really torn as I don't want to lose what we have. Maybe some flirting and getting it out of my system online may do the trick?

I would love to hear from people who have been in a similar situation

 

[zukethecuke]

We don't have children. But yes he is a lovely husband and I can't fault our marriage from an emotional point of view. I am really torn as I don't want to lose what we have. Maybe some flirting and getting it out of my system online may do the trick?

I would love to hear from people who have been in a similar situation

My situation if far from identical, but perhaps somewhat similar: a noticeable mismatch between libidos as we've gotten older. Not much to be done about it (if I want to stay married, as I do) except talk a bit and nudge a bit and hope for better times.

 

[DragonflySong]

I'm in my 40's too and I found that it's like a switch got turned on! You mentioned that you've been writing - does your husband read your stories? I find it spices things up when my partner reads mine...sort of inspires us to shake things up a bit. Communication is really important - but has to start somewhere. Is he around the same as as you or older?

 

[scott6251]

bump - this was an interesting thread