Sex on the side?

[twodogs]

very good

Dingman,
Put out ads in places like Yahoo personals and Digitalcity. Word the ads to attract the ladies. Always tell the truth, there are lots of ladies that aren't getting enough sex too. They just need to know that they can trust you and that you will be honest. One screen name that I used was mwmlooking4funtimes and it worked. I let them know right away that I was married, large but that I was a nice guy and they could trust me. If an ad doen't get response in a couple days, pull it and write another one. Remember, you are writing to ladies so don't word it like you are writing to guys. At the same time, you will only help things if you stay honest. Have fun.

Now that says it all , but remember like a lady told me sometime back ,don't just do it for them you are in this to and you got want's and needs .
You know it takes this old dog awhile for things to soak in ,but thinking back to what she said pissed me off bad but like i said the soaking in got there and now i know where she was coming from .
If you are going to be happy you got to be around happy people.
It's not fair for one to be the giver all the time and not get in return.
Being honest is the only way to go with a relationship, and build trust, but when they are hurt that's all they think is this another round at the hurt farm ,so be real carefull people lot on the lineout there.
Now young lady you know who i'm talking about we met a long time ago thank you , i will always remember you

 

[mayi]

Re: very good

Now that says it all , but remember like a lady told me sometime back ,don't just do it for them you are in this to and you got want's and needs .
If you are going to be happy you got to be around happy people.
It's not fair for one to be the giver all the time and not get in return.

looking for that happy person

mayi

 

[BigGuyinBigEasy]

Of course you are after some things for yourself. For me, sex has always been part giving and part receiving. I love to please and I've found with almost all women, if you please them, they will please you. I've had get togethers where I didn't even get intercourse, but that was fine with me. I love being with a woman. I love touching a woman. I love kissing and hugging a woman. So whatever I was offered, I enjoyed. This world is made up of all kinds of people and its fun getting to know them. And when you have sex with someone, you get to know them a little. For me the get together was fun in itself. There was the not knowing what was going to happen next. How far would you be able to go. All of these things add to the excitement. Then you give pleasure and enjoy too. A woman's body is a playground and I love to play.

 

[goodgoodgirl]

I just have to weigh in on this! I have never had sex outside my marraige...but I really do not think it would be so bad. If we both agreed, and rules were set. Right now, I have a huge sex drive, and frankly, my hubby is to busy to meet my needs. I ahve asked him if maybe w could discuss this......I really need more sex!!! He isnt as open minded as I, but I hold out hope!!

 

[twodogs]

rules

Yes mam you will need to set some rules and stick to them ,i didn't but the horse was dead at home so it does not matter.
But for other people you better have the rules cause you will get rapped up in something you don't want to let go ,i know

 

[BigGuyinBigEasy]

I just have to weigh in on this! I have never had sex outside my marraige...but I really do not think it would be so bad. If we both agreed, and rules were set. Right now, I have a huge sex drive, and frankly, my hubby is to busy to meet my needs. I ahve asked him if maybe w could discuss this......I really need more sex!!! He isnt as open minded as I, but I hold out hope!!

Goodgoodgirl,
I'm 52 years old, I've been married 31 years and I'm still very much in love with my wife. We talk all the time. I've always had the advantage in that I knew that I would not lose my wife if I got caught straying. This is a big advantage. Some spouses will never forgive if they catch their mate screwing around. They can forgive but will they? Everyone's different. You must weigh what you could lose if you get caught. Its easy to get away with it most of the time but there is always the chance that you'd get caught. Permanent damage can occur with your marriage if you get caught. Even the best laid plans go astray. But there is fun in fantasy, reading stories, writing stories, chatting and masterbating. But for me there is nothing like a warm blooded female next to me. And the excitement is through the roof if she isn't my wife. I love my wife and sex with her is the greatest but you can't beat the excitement of sex with someone new. But is it worth it if you get caught? Like I said, I'm lucky to have the woman that I have. We talked about me fucking other women just two nights ago. She said its okay as long as I don't fall in love with them or allow them to lure me away from her. Also, I don't take very much time away from my marriage to go and have fun. I love being with my wife. Being retired does give me plenty of time to look for other sex partners and choose the ones that will be the most fun and yet not take away from my home life. Whatever you do, think about what you could lose first. Don't decide while in the heat of passion. And be careful.

 

[wetkitten]

I've had sex outside of marriage 4 times, but all with hubby knowing about it. And once with another woman with my husband participating. Sex outside of marriage is ok as long as both partners have no problems with it. But if there is any jealousy or second thoughts about it, then no, because the problems after aren't worth it.

 

[goodgoodgirl]

Thanks so much for the input! I would never take a lover unless I knew that my hubby was OK with it. Sometimes he just takes a while to come around. Like when I began cybering. I told him about it, and he was fine, then about 6 days later, he realized that I was having sex with other men!!! Yikes!! I tried to explain that it was totally sepaaraate from him, but to much anger. Now a couple of months later, he has discovered the fun of cybersex, he understands that it can enhance out sex.... Even our relationship, I feel so good that I can meet fun men and they enjoy me.... So, as I said, maybe there is hope!!!

 

[MarMar]

sex on the side ........

I think the first question you have to ask yourself is how would you honestly feel if you're spouse was getting sex on the side?

 

[pawonderer]

on the side

I think sex on the side is great. At home theres nothing so thats the only outlet. I just keep things safe is all.
Anyone in pennsylvania feel free to write me

 

[BigGuyinBigEasy]

Re: sex on the side ........

I think the first question you have to ask yourself is how would you honestly feel if you're spouse was getting sex on the side?

My wife can have sex on the side. All I ask is that I know about it. We even have a day planned in a couple of weeks where an old friend of ours is coming over. I'm going to watch as they make love. I'm looking forward to the visit. I did offer to stay out of the room and allow them privacy but they both said that they wanted me to watch. They know I love to watch. My friend doesn't like threesomes or we'd go for that. But I will be happy seeing my wife receive pleasure. Plus she said that I'll have my turn when he leaves. I guess you could call our marriage an open marriage but my wife rarely indulges with outside interests. We are older now and she says that she's happy with what she gets at home. We'll see how the visit of my friend works out. If all of us have fun, my wife might want to do that more. And I'm fine with that.

 

[goodgoodgirl]

I would hope that I would be OK with him having a lover...as long as he was following our rules..I would hope!