Sex With A Cheating wife/gf

[policywank]

Depends on your general psychology. If you are very competitive, you might be excited to know that you are better than hubby

In my experience and based upon other women I have talked to who have cheated, trying to find a "better" man is pretty far down the list of reasons for cheating. And it frequently does not turn out to be the case anyway.

There seems to be this notion that if a woman were being satisfied at home she wouldn't be cheating. While that may be the case it is far from the only reason women cheat. Nor is her being "satisfied" a simple matter of his sexual prowess. And even if she is "not satisfied" at home it may well be because she craves variety or things have become stale in the bedroom or there are other relationship problems or she simply wishes to let loose. None of those factors suggest the other man is "better" only that he is "other".

It is a curious thing to me the way men assume women are so much different in this regard. It is broadly accepted that given the opportunity some men will seek sexual relations with as many different women as appeal to them and that in no way implies they are seeking "better". The idea that all women are somehow wired so differently that we couldn't feel the same way is just a made up notion that helps assuage male insecurities and contributes to the suppression of women.

When Tiger Woods cheated on his gorgeous wife I don't recall anyone saying that it must have been because the the other women were better or more beautiful. Most simply understood that he cheated because the opportunity was there - it is human nature to want to have his cake and eat it too. Yes it was selfish but even people who would like to believe that they would not have done likewise don't need to infer negative things about his wife to comprehend why he did it.

IMO a lot more people would cheat on their SO if attractive opportunities to do so were being thrown at them. And reality is that attractive women are presented with abundant opportunities.

 

[hp185810]

In my experience and based upon other women I have talked to who have cheated, trying to find a "better" man is pretty far down the list of reasons for cheating. And it frequently does not turn out to be the case anyway.

There seems to be this notion that if a woman were being satisfied at home she wouldn't be cheating. While that may be the case it is far from the only reason women cheat. Nor is her being "satisfied" a simple matter of his sexual prowess. And even if she is "not satisfied" at home it may well be because she craves variety or things have become stale in the bedroom or there are other relationship problems or she simply wishes to let loose. None of those factors suggest the other man is "better" only that he is "other".

It is a curious thing to me the way men assume women are so much different in this regard. It is broadly accepted that given the opportunity some men will seek sexual relations with as many different women as appeal to them and that in no way implies they are seeking "better". The idea that all women are somehow wired so differently that we couldn't feel the same way is just a made up notion that helps assuage male insecurities and contributes to the suppression of women.

When Tiger Woods cheated on his gorgeous wife I don't recall anyone saying that it must have been because the the other women were better or more beautiful. Most simply understood that he cheated because the opportunity was there - it is human nature to want to have his cake and eat it too. Yes it was selfish but even people who would like to believe that they would not have done likewise don't need to infer negative things about his wife to comprehend why he did it.

IMO a lot more people would cheat on their SO if attractive opportunities to do so were being thrown at them. And reality is that attractive women are presented with abundant opportunities.

Thats a really interesting read. I completely agree for me its about the attractive opportunity not finding someone better. Having a staleness in a relationship certainly contributes as it makes other things seem more attractive. From the other point as a guy when ive been with a cheating GF it hasnt been about oh I am better but there is certainly an attraction in the fact that she is choosing to do this whilst she does have a loving partner. Like it makes you feel wanted which adds to the whole experience.

 

[Justfantasies]

Thats a really interesting read. I completely agree for me its about the attractive opportunity not finding someone better. Having a staleness in a relationship certainly contributes as it makes other things seem more attractive. From the other point as a guy when ive been with a cheating GF it hasnt been about oh I am better but there is certainly an attraction in the fact that she is choosing to do this whilst she does have a loving partner. Like it makes you feel wanted which adds to the whole experience.

Yes I have had those feelings too. But having sex has always seemed a nice friendly thing to do and if my wife needs more than me that seems natural and necessary

 

[Creative_Juices]

This has been an interesting thread to read. Lit is a little different in that it seems a lot of people here are involved in open sexual relationships…I know that’s a growing trend but not one I’ve encountered IRL. Cheating wives I’ve encountered for the most part have been looking for variety but also in almost all cases their husbands are not showing interest. As someone living in the stereotypical wife has little interest in affection or sex, I know that’s hard (can’t resist the pun). I think it can be even more difficult for a woman operating under the generalities of “men want sex” so why doesn’t he want me? Finding a man who appreciates the sexual woman in them seems to be a great passionate fire starter. I also think the points made about it being easier to get your freak on for a non spouse lover (for both genders) are valid… Let those freak flags fly high and proud!

 

[The_shadow_rising]

I've always found that women who are cheating are hotter and it makes for wilder sex knowing she has someone. That's why I write about it - Keep up the fun tales, I am enjoying this thread.

 

[magicalmoments]

I have not cheated in years but have had some lovers with my husbands knowledge. There is a certain excitement and I do feel less inhibited with a casual lover than with a lifelong partner. Not sure why but perhaps just because it defies social norms and makes it a bit more exciting. Of course the cheating does add some excitement of its own. I remember the first guy that I cheated with and how aroused I would get. It also led me to take some risk that a sensible person would not have.

This would reflect my 1st wifes experience. Knowing she was defying social norms, that she had a secret of that magnitude she could hold over her friends was an enormous turn on. I remember her telling me how she would think "if only you knew that I had lovers when ever i felt the need" regularly when out with her girlfriends. I also remember how wet she used to get telling me about what she did with her lovers, far wetter than she ever got for me.

 

[rudrakshpathak]

BUMP

 

[vanquished005]

nothing hotter or more exciting and arousing than having sex with a married catholic woman whose loser husband ignores her, and it is the fist time she has ever been with another man.

 

[policywank]

This has been an interesting thread to read. Lit is a little different in that it seems a lot of people here are involved in open sexual relationships…I know that’s a growing trend but not one I’ve encountered IRL. Cheating wives I’ve encountered for the most part have been looking for variety but also in almost all cases their husbands are not showing interest. As someone living in the stereotypical wife has little interest in affection or sex, I know that’s hard (can’t resist the pun). I think it can be even more difficult for a woman operating under the generalities of “men want sex” so why doesn’t he want me? Finding a man who appreciates the sexual woman in them seems to be a great passionate fire starter. I also think the points made about it being easier to get your freak on for a non spouse lover (for both genders) are valid… Let those freak flags fly high and proud!

I think that the whole dynamic of "my husband is not showing sexual interest in me" is an interesting and complex one. We often tend to conjure up an image of a man who has lost interest in sex generally due his own physical decline or perhaps a man who is selfish and neglectful of his wife. In that context we see him as at fault for losing interest without ever really considering why he has lost interest.

Any couple who has been together for even a few years knows that the occasional slight, insult or criticism is par for the course. It need not be because either partner is nasty or difficult. We all have bad days and occasionally say or do things we wish hadn't. Sometimes an apology is not enough to undo the damage. And frequently people rely on the notion of "that isn't what I meant" as an excuse to dismiss or diminish the damage that their careless comment caused. But if you break a plate and apologize for it or make an excuse as to why it happened or why you didn't mean to do it, the plate remains broken doesn't it?

In the absence of exceptionally good communication these things can build up, fester and affect one's perception of their partner. Chances are that if a husband has lost interest in his wife that didn't happen in isolation. She may have contributed to it. Men are not simply walking hard-ons focussed solely on physical appeal. If a woman has undermined his confidence or even simply failed to make him feel attractive and wanted it is only natural that he will lose interest.

 

[2getin]

I've always found that women who are cheating are hotter and it makes for wilder sex knowing she has someone. That's why I write about it - Keep up the fun tales, I am enjoying this thread.

SO VERY TRUE

 

[lifeis2short2b]

Every time I've had sex with a lady who was cheating on her SO, it felt more primal and reached deeper within me than other times.
It aroused me to know that she was doing so behind the back of someone who was supposed to know.

Is there anyone else who felt the s

"Everytime you have sex with a lady who was cheating" ????? How often is this ? Do you specifically search out women who are in relationships ? You must be such a stud since you have been with so many women that are in and out of relationships that you can make such an observation
As far as the other guys on this thread I'm sure perhaps the once or twice you were with a woman in a relationship it was different for many reasons.
As far as the original poster your probably greatly exaggerating your numerous rendezvous. If not the odds are you will have some major hospital bills in your future.

 

[lc69hunter]

Every time I've had sex with a lady who was cheating on her SO, it felt more primal and reached deeper within me than other times.
It aroused me to know that she was doing so behind the back of someone who was supposed to know.

Is there anyone else who felt the same?

It is a male thing. Your cock gets harder, knowing that you are fucking another man's wife

 

[lc69hunter]

"Everytime you have sex with a lady who was cheating" ????? How often is this ? Do you specifically search out women who are in relationships ? You must be such a stud since you have been with so many women that are in and out of relationships that you can make such an observation
As far as the other guys on this thread I'm sure perhaps the once or twice you were with a woman in a relationship it was different for many reasons.
As far as the original poster your probably greatly exaggerating your numerous rendezvous. If not the odds are you will have some major hospital bills in your future.

Anyone who thinks that a woman, married or not, will not take advantage of opportunity, not looking for better, but maybe just some variety, is very naive. I am 73, with a body count in the low-mid 30's. Was sitting around drinking wine with a couple of old friends (Mary was a slut back in the day, and really liked sleeping with married men), and her current husband and several others, and in the counting, I realized that I have slept with almost as many married women as I have single women, including three by the time I was 18. Why? Married women in play have one agenda, sex, while single women quite often have agendas not favorable to the male of the species.

 

[gtnlynn]

My wife cheated on me regularly when we were dating and attended different colleges. One of her "lovers" was drunk and talking to me at a reunion. He knew from Lynn that I wasn't angry about their sex. He told me that it felt so much hotter to be with my cheating girlfriend than with his own girlfriend when he had one. He said he felt like he was stealing something from me and it felt good. I told him that he wasn't stealing, just borrowing for a while.

 

[soflabbwlvr]

I have been with some cheating wives, but in the three situations I can recall the marriages were already over and divorce soon followed. The women did not consider it cheating. Rather, it was a step toward independence. (At least one of the husbands felt differently, but they were soon divorced in any event).

Previously, there had been some cheating girlfriends, also. I have described one event here many times. I met her at a party, we ended up in my room, went down on each other, fucked, did anal, then parted ways. As she was leaving, said to me "let me go down first so my boyfriend doesn't see us together."

Later that same year I met one of my housemates' co-workers. She was a cute, sexy piece of dynamite from Kentucky. We fucked the night we met and 3-4 times a week afterward for the next three weeks. The sex was off the chain -- nothing kinky, just high energy, loud, enthusiastic, frequent and prolonged. But always at my place. One weekend she invited me over for dinner. While she was in the kitchen we heard the sound of a key in the door lock. She quickly had me hide in a closet. Her boyfriend had forgotten something and came home from work to get it. She got rid of him and we resumed our evening. We ate, fucked, and I left. That was our last time together. I was not interested in being her side piece.

Anyway, the point of this post is twofold. One, the sex was extremely hot in both instances. One was a one night stand while her boyfriend was at the same party, and the other was short term relationship she was carrying on behind her boyfriend's back. In both cases, the sex was memorable.

The other point is that in both cases the women were just as devious as men. Men are notorious for the deceptions they will perpetrate in the pursuit of sex. Well, women can be just as sneaky. I was not offended when the first woman told me she had a boyfriend, but to be honest, I was a little disappointed. I had hoped to see her again. The way she mentioned her boyfriend let me know this was a one time encounter.

The second situation did bother me. I thought we were becoming exclusive. I had no idea she was living with another guy. I would have approached the situation differently -- including not seeing her in his apartment. That situation could have escalated very easily.

 

[lifeis2short2b]

Anyone who thinks that a woman, married or not, will not take advantage of opportunity, not looking for better, but maybe just some variety, is very naive. I am 73, with a body count in the low-mid 30's. Was sitting around drinking wine with a couple of old friends (Mary was a slut back in the day, and really liked sleeping with married men), and her current husband and several others, and in the counting, I realized that I have slept with almost as many married women as I have single women, including three by the time I was 18. Why? Married women in play have one agenda, sex, while single women quite often have agendas not favorable to the male of the species.

While I'm sure in your trailer park this is a common occurrence. Like I stated earlier. I'll take my odds of living to 70 with unattached women. Than going down that road with an extremly pissed off guy.
Oh and by the way I've had a married woman. I had no idea she was till I was suspicious and asked her. Ended it immediately. I'm not spending my life looking over my shoulder.
" Would you give me 3 steps, give me 3 steps mister, give me 3 steps for that door. "

 

[lc69hunter]

While I'm sure in your trailer park this is a common occurrence. Like I stated earlier. I'll take my odds of living to 70 with unattached women. Than going down that road with an extremly pissed off guy.
Oh and by the way I've had a married woman. I had no idea she was till I was suspicious and asked her. Ended it immediately. I'm not spending my life looking over my shoulder.
" Would you give me 3 steps, give me 3 steps mister, give me 3 steps for that door. "

I do feel sorry for you, sir. As for your trailer park comment, I have to chuckle. I have a Master's Degree, and most of the women I have been with are professionals in their own right. In fact, the last one happens to be the CFO of one of the larger businesses in the city(her husband is an asshole politician). Trailer park women are generally not sophisticated enough for these kind of things. But hey, continue to believe what you will.

 

[lifeis2short2b]

I do feel sorry for you, sir. As for your trailer park comment, I have to chuckle. I have a Master's Degree, and most of the women I have been with are professionals in their own right. In fact, the last one happens to be the CFO of one of the larger businesses in the city(her husband is an asshole politician). Trailer park women are generally not sophisticated enough for these kind of things. But hey, continue to believe what you will.

Feel sorry for me. Don't make me laugh. I guess your Masters Degree didn't come with any morals or dignity. Stop trying to justify that your banging someone's wife behind his back. An education doesn't make you smart.

 

[lc69hunter]

Feel sorry for me. Don't make me laugh. I guess your Masters Degree didn't come with any morals or dignity. Stop trying to justify that your banging someone's wife behind his back. An education doesn't make you smart.

We will continue to disagree. So be it. Though I believe your misconception comes from the belief that weak minded married women are seduced by low lifes like me. That is rarely if ever, the case. Women, especially married women, have agency. They choose, and may you be the lucky one. If she needs an itch scratched, or just wants to sample a strange cock, it has absolutely nothing to do with her marriage, and her love for her husband and family. It is about her. If she offers, take what she offers and give her what she needs, and don't badmouth the husband. Kiss her and send her on her way. If you are discreet, it will happen again, because women talk.

 

[lifeis2short2b]

We will continue to disagree. So be it. Though I believe your misconception comes from the belief that weak minded married women are seduced by low lifes like me. That is rarely if ever, the case. Women, especially married women, have agency. They choose, and may you be the lucky one. If she needs an itch scratched, or just wants to sample a strange cock, it has absolutely nothing to do with her marriage, and her love for her husband and family. It is about her. If she offers, take what she offers and give her what she needs, and don't badmouth the husband. Kiss her and send her on her way. If you are discreet, it will happen again, because women talk.

Yes women ( actually everyone) talks.
So you and your guy friends are hanging out drinking your wine talking about your married conquests. Your women are inside dropping shots and talking about all the strange cock they've had.
A group of very unfriendly guys show up. Turns out somebody's been itching the wife/ girlfriend of a mob boss or drug cartel boss or even a politician with shady connections. It could even be a mild mannered husband who loses his mind. How is that going to turn out ?
And you think your the lucky guy ?
Sounds far fetched ? Maybe, but I know I'll never be in that situation.
Justify it all you want it's a dangerous game. I'm done

 

[markchamberlain]

There’s nothing hotter than a married woman getting laid in her marital bed by a man other than her husband!...

You have a good point there. I have cum several times inside a woman in the bed she shared with her husband, and it was spectacular. I didn't really know why. But now that you mention it, I think you're right. There's something exhilarating about ejaculating raw, deep inside her, right there in the marital nest. Extra spicy!

 

[Justfantasies]

A married friend dropped into my office and we ended up fucking the whole afternoon . . .

 

[rudrakshpathak]

"Everytime you have sex with a lady who was cheating" ????? How often is this ? Do you specifically search out women who are in relationships ? You must be such a stud since you have been with so many women that are in and out of relationships that you can make such an observation
As far as the other guys on this thread I'm sure perhaps the once or twice you were with a woman in a relationship it was different for many reasons.
As far as the original poster your probably greatly exaggerating your numerous rendezvous. If not the odds are you will have some major hospital bills in your future.

"Every Time" refers to every interaction. It may or may not be with many multiple partners. It can be many interactions with one such partner. Or a few interactions with not so many of them.
Either way, the trajectory of this is completely tangential to the OP's subject.

 

[Kenrychard]

In general I think cheating is trash behavior, but, sometimes the spouse deserves it. I had a relationship with a married woman years ago. A lovely and passionate young woman with a lot of sexual energy. She was seduced into marriage by an ass who then, once married, told her his wife was to be pure, and he only had sex with her to make another child. But he, he was an elder and his position required regular repentance. But to repent, you must do wrong. So he seduced other women, or paid for prostitutes. Took regular trips to Vegas to drink, gamble and whore ( all forbidden in his faith ). Basicly he was a great man, he sinned so much he was repenting constantly. His wife would get pent up and come visit, her ex husband was my best friends, sometimes she would fuck us both at the same time, sometimes one at a time, whatever she felt like. It was hard to feel guilty, her husband was an asswipe.

 

[Justfantasies]

My first wife cheated a lot and always sought my forgiveness by letting me fuck her afterwards -- it was a little game we played