Sexless Marriages

One more thing I’ll offer that’s a bit personal..

He finally heard me. And he agreed to an open marriage for me to fill the needs I have that he does not and has no desire for in the future. He’s not open enough to want to know if I do or not... but at least he finally understands.

It may only be a bandage. Time will tell.
Rivvie, I will be happy to help. PM and let's see if we can help each other.
 
So I’m not married but long term live in relationship. His health has not only caused ED but total and complete lack of libido at only 57 years old. I’m not even 50 yet. He’s not touched me sexually in a year. It was bearable during my long term relationship on lit but it’s since ended many Months ago so now just here. lol thanks for reading my ramblings
Its hard isn't it. I long to feel desired and wanted. We still have sex very occassionally, but it's such a lottery and never from her.

I would love someone to see me and not be able to keep their hands off me......and it makes me low to think that will never happen again.
 
I know all about the health issues. My wife has them. That can be definitely frustrating.
Just dropped on this thread - what an eye opener. I am on Lit exactly for the same reason - intact sex drive and needs while my wife has lost hers and avoids sex. Would love to PM with any of you M or F
 
Just dropped on this thread - what an eye opener. I am on Lit exactly for the same reason - intact sex drive and needs while my wife has lost hers and avoids sex. Would love to PM with any of you M or F
I can relate. Lit is great. But you just can't beat the real thing once in a while.
 
I've been through it but I'm on the other side of it now since I'm divorced. If anybody needs to talk (help with issue included) shoot me a message.
 
Yep, nothing kills the mood than...."Honey can you hurry up and cum?"
....and shades of High School flash through my mind.....
Or when you've cum once, still hard and the wife doesn't want round 2
That happened to me this weekend. Finally had a weekend where we could at least have sex. I initiated in the middle of the night Saturday morning. She was asleep and I cupped her pussy with my hand so she woke up wet. When she moved I sucked a nipple. Finally got her to climax and hopped on as I know she isn't going to do that for me. I gave her another and got my nut. There I was pushed off to go to sleep. Sunday morning she wanted it. Started good playing with me really hard and the sex part was boring kind of. She couldn't cum? Was wet different than normal. When I was on top it was like she wasn't participating. I don't know. Odd. Did you come yet was her words. I felt like I was jerking off. Then this morning all was well. She got on for her ride she likes. I got on top and got her another before I did. Then I stayed close and was ready to enter for round two and I was rebuffed. She did have to go to work. Maybe I was making her late.
 
Sexless here also, my wife has never really liked or enjoyed sex. I finally just gave up a couple of years ago! 65 and still horny all the time so lots of masturbation for me! I need it about every day but sometimes don’t have the opportunity
 
Anyone else with this problem?
I have a high sex drive and the wife doesn't.
Looking for others with this problem, and possibly helping fill our needs.
In exactly the same position but this is due to her not being so well at the moment.
Been talking to someone I work with and she is very understanding, we are getting closer and as yet we've not done the deed there has been some very nice close touches.
 
So just an update after a post into giving cunnilingus without getting reciprocated.
Our marriage is still mostly sexless - I haven't actually had intercourse for almost a year. However had 2 intermate sessions lately.

3 weeks ago I used my usual trick of slowly using my wondering hands in bed to turn from a sort of massage - feel to brushing over her pussy. This usually causes a whisper of "no not now" or having my hand quickly removed. On the odd occasion i get away with then proceeding to massage her lovely pussy.

As I did so i could feel her pussy lips moisten. As I continued she gently placed her hand on the back of my head encouraging me as I kissed down her body. Needless to say I was then busily swirling my tongue around her pussy lips and clit. Now I do have a thing about analingus and as my tongue moved down to her anus he hand reached out and stroked my hardness.

I loved every moment of using my tongue and giving her a lovely orgasm. I didn't get one but loved the intimacy. This coupled with me giving her cunnilingus in to the weekend is showing glimers of her enjoying my attension.

I know she struggles with intercourse now and feels guilty about not giving me my horny needs - but I'm hoping she is beginning to trust that I want to keep the intimacy and that we have to go with the changes that we go through. She is right on the edge of menopause (and has been for some time) so I am hoping that she can still get pleasure and we can do more rather than just put up with a sexless marriage. WIll probably be back to nothing for a few months again but will keep you posted.

Still will find my horny release here on Lit or other places for the moment - its almost like a double life.
 
So just an update after a post into giving cunnilingus without getting reciprocated.
Our marriage is still mostly sexless - I haven't actually had intercourse for almost a year. However had 2 intermate sessions lately.

3 weeks ago I used my usual trick of slowly using my wondering hands in bed to turn from a sort of massage - feel to brushing over her pussy. This usually causes a whisper of "no not now" or having my hand quickly removed. On the odd occasion i get away with then proceeding to massage her lovely pussy.

As I did so i could feel her pussy lips moisten. As I continued she gently placed her hand on the back of my head encouraging me as I kissed down her body. Needless to say I was then busily swirling my tongue around her pussy lips and clit. Now I do have a thing about analingus and as my tongue moved down to her anus he hand reached out and stroked my hardness.

I loved every moment of using my tongue and giving her a lovely orgasm. I didn't get one but loved the intimacy. This coupled with me giving her cunnilingus in to the weekend is showing glimers of her enjoying my attension.

I know she struggles with intercourse now and feels guilty about not giving me my horny needs - but I'm hoping she is beginning to trust that I want to keep the intimacy and that we have to go with the changes that we go through. She is right on the edge of menopause (and has been for some time) so I am hoping that she can still get pleasure and we can do more rather than just put up with a sexless marriage. WIll probably be back to nothing for a few months again but will keep you posted.

Still will find my horny release here on Lit or other places for the moment - its almost like a double life.
You should convince to go for a 69, at least both of you get off!
 
It is tough living without sex. There are so many on Lit that are experiencing this. It is a terrible club to be a member of. It's been 3 years for me. He still wanted to hug and kiss hello sometimes but it was actually too hard for me to have a tiny bit of affection and never having anything else at all. It is emotionally draining. Sigh
We are all in this crazy thing together... But look across the Literotica dialogues and there’s so much sadness and frustration as relationships are tested to the limits. Behind all the fantastic exploits and explicit scenarios there's so much unhappiness too. Women who are not getting the satisfaction they need from insensitive partners. Men who ache for better sex lives than they’re getting from unresponsive wives. The loneliness of people who are denied rewarding relationships at all. And we all fret over those missed opportunities and failed loves in our past, when things went wrong and fell apart.
There’s no answer. Negotiating our gender needs is a minefield. We get to live just once. When we fuck up we seldom get another chance to put it right.
 
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