Shameless boast, no apologies.

[caela]

So, Master and I have been chatting to a lovely woman online who wants to meet up with us for drinks with a view to seeing if she'd like to play with us. She's not a Litster, so no guessing games. I'm really excited about this for obvious reasons but at the same time, opening up the relationship and including other play partners is a new thing for us.

As I know people here have done similar things and are therefore wiser than I, what are the pitfalls when it comes to threesomes? It's not something that can be taken back or undone and naturally, I want it to be a really positive experience and draw us together rather than create issues.

We have both fantasised about this for a long time and while I think it would be hot to see him dominate and fuck another woman, am I going to be upset at all when it actually happens or afterwards? Hopefully not but one never knows and our prospective play partner is very pretty.

All insights gratefully received.

Good luck on the meeting!

Beyond that I would say there has already been a lot of great advice given in this thread. You already sound like you're open to the idea that things could move forward with this woman, just remember to be open to the flip side as well and don't beat yourself up if you feel the need to shut things down with her too. She may just not be the right one for you and your Master to go down this road with and if not it's better to speak up quickly than have it be less than pleasant for all of you.

Like others have said, be prepared for insecurities and the green-eyed beastie to crop up but if they don't...enjoy and try not to overthink it if you don't have those reactions. She may be a good match for the two of you and you may feel very comfortable with her right from the start.

No matter what happens, be safe and enjoy exploring this path you and your Master are starting down!

 

[the_mgp]

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[twysted73]

set asside things that are only yours to have between you and your Sir. Set boundries. Respect them.
It's integral that these areas rtemain yours. It allows you to venture forth into as much uncharted territory knowing the "sacreds" are safe.

I...have had a few too many aaaand I nee to sleep

 

[ecstaticsub]

set asside things that are only yours to have between you and your Sir. Set boundries. Respect them.
It's integral that these areas rtemain yours. It allows you to venture forth into as much uncharted territory knowing the "sacreds" are safe.

I...have had a few too many aaaand I nee to sleep

I 100% agree with this. It doesn't have to be big things. But I believe it to be important to have things that only you will only do with your PYL and he will only do with you.

Similiar to how a lot of swingers in the vanilla world won't kiss the person they are swinging with.

 

[desertslave]

I just wanted to wish you congratulations and good luck! This is something Master and I talk about and would like to achieve someday. Life is a bit complicated right now (teenagers, gotta love 'em!) but maybe someday we'll have our very own lives.

 

[Netzach]

I 100% agree with this. It doesn't have to be big things. But I believe it to be important to have things that only you will only do with your PYL and he will only do with you.

Similiar to how a lot of swingers in the vanilla world won't kiss the person they are swinging with.

OR - in some cases the opposite. M doesn't do humiliation, or does extremlely *limited* humiliation. M isn't a giant muscley alpha type who can switch with me, and doesn't want to be. It's patently clear, via a huge difference (sometimes genitals) that I'm not replacing my primary in any way, but doing *other*.

 

[lil_slave_rose]

my ex husband and i had two threesomes. we were not life style (not that that makes a difference really) i'm a jealous person and after doing it i had EXTREME feelings of jealousy, mistrust, i always felt like maybe he liked them better. yea i know sounds stupid really but for someone who is already insecure this didn't help matters at all. i'm not saying it's like this for everyone, but be careful and know the boundries up front before you even begin to play like this.

i just seen a story play out at work with this exact thing happening. husband /wife decied to have a threesome with someone else from work. they do it a few times every things fine until one day husband decides he's leaving wife for "the other woman" now, they all three still work at the same place and EVERYONE knows what happened. i'm not trying to scare you, i'm just saying i think when you put someone else into the equation you can NEVER really be 100% sure how it's going to go.

when MP and i were talking about this (we talked about it often) it was something that would always leave me with jealous feelings. i wanted to do it because the fantasies we played out were exciting but if it had happened in "real time" i don't think i would have been as ok with it all. BUT not everyone has the amount of insecurities and mistrust that i have. good luck to you and remember BOUNDRIES BOUNDRIES BOUNDRIES!!

 

[VelvetDarkness]

Thanks LSR.

I'm kind of equanimitous about things like that. If L and I include another woman and he falls for her, something must be awry in our own relationship. If he leaves me for her, then good bloody luck to him because I won't be waiting around to be claimed once things have gone sour over on the greener grass. In short, if he wants me, he wants me. If he doesn't, then I don't want him either.

Neither of us would be happy hooking up with one of our colleagues (though we don't work together) you don't shit where you eat and all that. We really don't need that kind of hassle.

Poly would be a different matter entirely. Although I don't imagine he'd seek a poly situation with somebody I couldn't stand, it is ultimately his decision if and when to take on another pyl. Although I'm a slave, another pyl wouldn't necessarily be required to sign themselves away if it wasn't right for them.

It also remains to be seen if playing with this girl might become a regular thing and although seeking lots of casual partners is risky, anything 'casual but regular/frequent' makes me feel a little uneasy in principle. That's where lines can become blurred and issues can lie latent until something flings open Pandora's box.

 

[naxalite0906]

I cant offer advice, but I can wish you all the best.... I hope you have lots of fun

 

[BiBunny]

I'm kind of equanimitous about things like that. If L and I include another woman and he falls for her, something must be awry in our own relationship. If he leaves me for her, then good bloody luck to him because I won't be waiting around to be claimed once things have gone sour over on the greener grass. In short, if he wants me, he wants me. If he doesn't, then I don't want him either.

*Faints* OMG! There's someone else in the world who feels the same way I do about it!

Seriously, I think this is a sensible way to approach it. Velvet, you're a smart woman, and you have a good head on your shoulders. You and your Master will be just fine.

I do, however, demand details.

 

[unfoundiamond]

So, Master and I have been chatting to a lovely woman online who wants to meet up with us for drinks with a view to seeing if she'd like to play with us. She's not a Litster, so no guessing games. I'm really excited about this for obvious reasons but at the same time, opening up the relationship and including other play partners is a new thing for us.

As I know people here have done similar things and are therefore wiser than I, what are the pitfalls when it comes to threesomes? It's not something that can be taken back or undone and naturally, I want it to be a really positive experience and draw us together rather than create issues.

We have both fantasised about this for a long time and while I think it would be hot to see him dominate and fuck another woman, am I going to be upset at all when it actually happens or afterwards? Hopefully not but one never knows and our prospective play partner is very pretty.

All insights gratefully received.

I just had to sit with Daddys new girlfriend, and it was a terrible feeling, I know its not the same, but, when you know someones there to fuck your dominant... it can leave you with a shitty feeling.

I have had threesomes with my partners before... and if everyone communicates and is upfront it seems to work out.

I have had a good expirience with my ex and then I have felt so uncomfortable with another woman I had to leave and her and I didn't do anything...

I have to say youlle just have to feel it out, and go slow.

I think someone on here related multiples in a relationship as two being in a bulls eye and allowing more people as ring in the bulls eye, but the people in the center have veto power and are the core,

 

[Homburg]

I've yet to have a porn style threesome where everything flowe dperfectly. I'm always too busy working to make sure everything is moving properly and everybody is getting attention to think about flow. By and large, I agree with F's comments that Cat posted about threesomes being work. They are, or at least have been for me. This is not to say that they weren't enjoyable, bt they are more work than one on one.

And, wow, bunny was right when she said that the first time is gonna be awkward.

 

[LadyC]

I've yet to have a porn style threesome where everything flowe dperfectly. I'm always too busy working to make sure everything is moving properly and everybody is getting attention to think about flow. By and large, I agree with F's comments that Cat posted about threesomes being work. They are, or at least have been for me. This is not to say that they weren't enjoyable, bt they are more work than one on one.

And, wow, bunny was right when she said that the first time is gonna be awkward.

Face it, porn goes by a script and can be reshot; in reality, you make mistakes and enjoy what you have....and most of the time it is good.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

Update

Well, we met the lady and everything went really well. We have had a drink and a meal together and she was a thoroughly nice person - to our utter amazement, as we kind of assumed that we'd be weirdo magnets.

So plans are afoot for a meet to play and that should hopefully happen within the next few weeks, real life permitting.

I'm all excited now. Keep smiling to myself.

 

[the_mgp]

**********

 

[sexycaz22]

Cool! Glad to hear that.

Hope all goes well for you all

 

[catalina_francisco]

It is good to hear you met and have a positive feel about it...keeping my fingers crossed for you that all continues to flow nicely.

Catalina

 

[Netzach]

I've yet to have a porn style threesome where everything flowe dperfectly. I'm always too busy working to make sure everything is moving properly and everybody is getting attention to think about flow. By and large, I agree with F's comments that Cat posted about threesomes being work. They are, or at least have been for me. This is not to say that they weren't enjoyable, bt they are more work than one on one.

And, wow, bunny was right when she said that the first time is gonna be awkward.

My first one was totally not. It flowed. It was great.

It was me and a gf and her friend, a long term fuckfriend with a rather impressive endowment. It was a "you gotta try this" thing.

It was clear as day that the guy was there to pleasure us with his massive dick and amusing antics, and politely leave when the moment arose. We just knew when it was.

Maybe it was luck, but I think having these very clear roles and boundaries helped.