Should age, or age difference ever count?

[Jeselynn]

age

If you look around you, then you will notice age doesn't matter
unless you make a case of it. Personally i don't think it should
matter unless it is a case of 'jailbait' I know that is prolly going
against everything.. but if a girl or guy in any case, is under17-18
years of age, I personally believe that until they are 18-19 that
they shoudd be dating in their age group. Anyone that tries,
dating should be aware of the persons parents feelings.

I have had problems with my mother because i choose to date
an older man. At the time I was 18(1 month short of 19) and had
been living on my own for a year. So I feel she had no right to
say anything. Now
after 16 months with him she thinks he is good for me and
supports my choice. I am 20 now and he is 32. My parents had
a difference of 8 years and his had a difference of over 20.



Happily ever after.

 

[SaxKitten]

Age is a factor that has to be dealt with, unfortunately. Sometimes, in some circumstances, it does matter. However, often this has to do with maturity and other, more important considerations, rather than just age. While these can be tied to age, they are not age exclusive.

Hell, I love older men, and normally, that's who I have fun and connect with. Really, nothing beyond that matters. Life is short, and it's the only one we have. So, have some fun, damnit.

Well, IMHO, that is

 

[enjoyingitall]

I know this has been said on here lots of times, but it's not so much the age difference as the life differences that matter.
I was married to a man 17 years older than me for 12 years. The age difference showed up in little ways, like when he would say, "remember when...." and all I could say was, "no, i wasn't born then."
There was little commonality in our life experiences because we grew up in different eras. I'm now married to someone my age, and we have those commonalities.
Suffice it to say, age alone can't break a relationship, and I know it varies with individual experiences, but from my vantage point, it was a factor in some of the hardships of my marriage.

 

[MissTaken]

Should age,or age difference ever count?

It counts only in as much as the two people involved feel it counts.

Two people who share common interests, common life experiences and common characteristics can make a connection over decades of differences.

If the connection is there, the numbers don't matter.

Realistically, if at 37, I connect with a man 20 or 30 years my senior, some thought must be given to the physical aspects of age. But, open minds and discussions can enhance and maintain the relationship.

If I see a 45 year old woman with a vibrant and intelligent 25 year old man, I applaud them for having found one another. I do not make negative remarks or resent either one of them.

Love can be found in the most unexpected places and packages.

Now, where did I put my Denturecream?

 

[snneze]

I am married to a man who is exactly 20 years older than me. We have been married for 10 years. I definitely say age matters. Our age difference is something we deal with everyday. When making plans for the future it is the first obstacle we attempt to overcome. The age difference is big and there are many things that we look at differently because of that. We always have to think about the others life experiences and remember that we grew up in totally different generations.

However, I love my husband and find him ver sexy. We have a lot of things in common and work very hard to maintain our passion.

So to answer your question, yes age and age difference matters.

Lisa

 

[DLA]

Other then my 1st wife who I met when we were just 18 Married for 20 years, all of my other wives (don't laugh), and girl friends have been no less then 10 years younger than I, some as much as 25 years difference.

It always makes a difference except in bed, it is much more fun and romance.

 

[lovemetender]

obviousily as long you have two of age consenting adults I see no problem...all relationships have obstacles & if you want to make age an issue then you have another one...can't see why you would want too though.
I always seem to date ladies 10 years & older then myself & find it extremely stimulating both mentally & physically

lifes short enjoy the journey & don't let numbers get in the way..

 

[DreamLoversMagic]

Should age, or age difference ever count?

Here were are speaking of our own personal thoughts of age, and if it is difference's counts. I know when I was younger, in my teens, I dated older guys, early 20's to early 30's, I felt more comfortable when they were older and felt them more mature then the Boys my own age.
Looking back and looking at the times now, It is illegal to mess with minors. I have learned a lot since then. I just can't say yes or no to it cause I cannot judge anyone for something I did myself at a young age. I only can speak for my self, I have been with men from the age of 18 up 66, in my life. Some I find I am showing them a few things and others where showing me some things I didn't know. It is how the 2 feel for one another that they can say. I have found with most there are things we have in common and others I didn't. For the most part for me is to keep an open mind to see how others would see it. We all have our own ways of seeing different things in all aspect. Its what we make out of it or do with it that matters. Learning what works for us personally and what doesn't.
DLM

 

[Dracoa]

So long as they are legal, age does not matter to me at all.

 

[just pet]

I agree with the general consensus, especially that the two be consulting ADULTS...
I was involved with a man 26 years younger than me for 2 years. We still love and respect each other, but I ended the relationship because we are in different stages of our lives.

He is building his career, wants to buy a house, get married ... Investing

I want to get rid of as much stuff as possible, live simply, travel (just came back from India and Nepal)... Divesting

I remember the what I was doing the first time I heard the song "Wild Thing" by the Troggs... his reference is Third Eye Blind...

Now I am dating a man my own age and I love the shared memories and richness of the experience... I mean we can make love to the strains of Deep Purple...

pet

 

[OldestMotive]

The original question was whether or not age should make a difference, and I really don't think that it should. However, as many have already acknowledged, it frequently does make a difference within the relationship. And, as many have experienced, it often makes a difference in how those around us perceive the relationship.

I'm nearing 50 and have enjoyed having a relationship with a woman nearly 30 years my junior. In addition to enjoying the physical relationship, we have become very good friends. Granted, we can't share much in the way of memories, but she is a delightful young woman and I appreciate her in so many ways. In fact, one of the things I enjoy most is being able to laugh with her. We have fun.