Evil_Geoff
Equal Opportunity Sadist
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- Aug 23, 2005
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Good evening Incompleteidea,
Please call me Geoff (or EG), all my friends do.
Let's save the simple "Evil" for sometime _after_ we've played... 
And would you prefer being addressed as Incomplete, idea, or perhaps Ii for short?Does it matter when the surrender comes? Depends on who I'm with and what we are doing. For most of the people I do SM play with, their surrender to the pain will come during the scene. I don't expect "obedience" or "submission" from them beyond the negotiated limits of the play. But I like to take my time, ramp up the intensity gradually, kind of like putting the frog in lukewarm water and slowly bringing it to a boil... they never really understand just how far I've taken them until they come down and see and feel where they've gone. Yummy!
With janey, my girl, every day, with each instruction, each command, either given directly or within the scope of her household duties, she is presented with the option to obey, to submit, or not. I hold her surrender most dearly because she knows she has that choice. And she chooses to follow my lead. That is sweet indeed, knowing that she is at my side, not because of threats or fear, but out of love and devotion.
No, there are no specific acts that do it for me more than others in that situation. Having the dishes done, my clothes laundered, the house cleaned, my meals prepared (unless I feel like cooking, of course!
), are all valued and appreciated by me.Hope that helps.
