spanking scene question

[KinkyKiki7]

The panty idea is definitely a good one. I love figuring out sexy panties to surprise my Master. That way you can tell if she is thinking about you first thing when she wakes up too. You can go either way like said above- if they're sexy or granny. I have also had the name attached. If I didn't call my Master by his title he would give me a spank or a pinch of the thigh to remind me. I learned very quickly to attach "Master" at the end of every sentence. Two other reasons for spanking include, if there is something you want her to learn to do or not to do...apologizing, talking too much/not enough, use of toys...and the last reason for spanking is obviously just because you can. Enjoy!

 

[DarkLover]

More good ideas. Thanks, everyone!

To answer what someone was wondering--no, we're not really lifestylers; we just play with some bondage and spanking occasionally. I already told her I would be checking her panties each day this week. I also told her to go buy some if she doesn't have anything sexy enough.

DarkLover

 

[serijules]

Not that you are not welcome here (you certainly are!) but I thought you might enjoy this board....if you ask this same question there, I'm betting you will get a LOT of really varied answers. They are a good group of people that focus especially on spanking and "discipline" from either a playful manner to a more serious one.

http://www.spankingclassics.com/cgi-bin/discus/discus.cgi

I know the owners of the site and they are fantastic people.

 

[twysted73]

[QUOTE\] I'm with you. I Wasn't disparaging it either, just presenting a different perspective. I'm of the "Whatever floats your boat" school. A lot of folks newly into the scene want some sort of excuse, be it play or real, for their predation. For some folks it helps, either with fantasy, or with dealing with lingering guilt issues.

Bottom line is to have fun.[/QUOTE]

I would surmise the reason they need excuses is because they aren't yet to a point they are comfortable with taking what they want yet. And it's slightly endearing in a virginal way.

Almost as if to say, "Aww...you really want this don't you? But you're still feeling guilty about asking I see. "

*but that's when you just make them feel even more guilty and raunchy and dirty for wanting it in the first place...*

grrrr.....WHY do I do this to myself? [/hijack}

 

[Netzach]

Sometimes people play the excuse game not because they have any hangups at all but because it's fun and hot.

I'm very much a "because I feel like it" person. But sometimes I feel like it because you just backtalked me or because the garbage is still not out or because your candidate lost.

 

[Homburg]

Sometimes people play the excuse game not because they have any hangups at all but because it's fun and hot.

I'm very much a "because I feel like it" person. But sometimes I feel like it because you just backtalked me or because the garbage is still not out or because your candidate lost.

Yup, agreed. I do the same thing occassionally. She'll get mouthy in a funny way (viv has a brilliant, and subtle, sense of humour) and I'll just bounce up with an "Aha, a mouthy girl gets the swattings!" or something equally goofy, and she gets spanked.

 

[DarkLover]

I think having a "reason" helps both of us ease into the scene a bit. Once we get into it, my wife does like to play the "smartass sub" role where she tries to resist me. But we both like the spanking part of it. (And the more smartass she acts, the rougher and hotter the sex is when I finally take her.)

DarkLover

 

[serijules]

Sometimes people play the excuse game not because they have any hangups at all but because it's fun and hot.

I'm very much a "because I feel like it" person. But sometimes I feel like it because you just backtalked me or because the garbage is still not out or because your candidate lost.

Exactly.

I would surmise the reason they need excuses is because they aren't yet to a point they are comfortable with taking what they want yet. And it's slightly endearing in a virginal way.

I was a part of the "spanko" community for many years. They are ALL about doing it because a) it feels good b) it's fun 3) it's erotic. Some of the people I met and played with and became good friends with had been spanking "with excuses" for 50 years. They were far from "virginal". Even the heavier BDSM players in our group loved to spend time simply playing fun, erotic, games....and some of those spankings got pretty damn hard and heavy!

 

[snowbyte]

With mine, she can't say "I'm sorry" or "No" to me. She has a bad habit of apologizing all of the time, almost by reflex. This needs to be fixed. She is naturally not allowed to say "No" to her Master. She has an adequate vocabulary that there is always some other to say it other than "No".

Other times, I just spank her because I'm in the mood.

 

[aNoYoNoMoUs]

don't know if this has been mentioned but you could always do a scenario?
like a naughty schoolgirl or something, don't know if that would work for you but it helps me..