That was terribly kind of you. I hope you and your husband didn't miss enjoying the pool together much.
So my question to you people of Lit…has your spouse or SO every disclosed a fantasy to you and how did you receive it? Did it turn you on? Turn off? Did you share your fantasy with them and what was their reaction? (Side note: my disclosure of fantasies with her have not always gone this well.)
This is great. Thank you for sharing.My wife is quite self-conscious about sex. She's technically ACE and has little sex drive of her own to speak of, but she certainly enjoys sex and I have no problem getting her off. She's also clearly submissive, but she has to completely internalize it during sex, so I can't really play into it much most of the time, alas. Still, she's quite attentive during foreplay and we sync up well and often climax together, so our sex life is fun - just mostly vanilla.
She also never talks about her internal fantasies, except for one time...
One day quite a while back, I guess I must have caught her in a weird mood and she actually started telling me about some of the things she fantasizes about when we're having sex and... whoo boy. It was revelatory.
She'd previously hinted a number of times that she might have some kind of bondage fetish to go with her submissive tendencies previously. But now here she was admitting that she's basically almost always fantasizing about being tied up or something similar when we're having sex, so that's quite something to learn right? Pretty hot. That's what I thought too.
But that is when the conversation took an abrupt u-turn from the pedestrian realms of regular kink into the outlands of sexual deviancy when she suddenly asks:
"What do you think it would be like to have sex with a dragon?"
Wait... what?
Holy shit. My jaw hit the floor. Hard. I wasn't sure I'd heard that right, but no, I totally did as she went on.
My quiet wife was out of the blue suddenly revealing that she'd been fantasizing about fucking a dragon (among other things) while we were having sex!
Now we are both avid fantasy/sci-fi gamers and we've discussed thousands of related topics - in largely non-sexual contexts - including our preferred ideal of a dragon, so I knew immediately that she's not talking about some sexy anime half-dragon guy, or some cute little dragon pokemon. No. Her idea of a proper dragon is very much on the huge, intimidating monster end of the dragon scale. Big, scaly, firebreathing, majestic, etc.
She then continued, stuttering in obvious embarrassment through a few thoughts she'd had regarding the difficult logistics of the size differences such an act would entail, while I just sat there gobsmacked. My 'vanilla' wife was describing a sexual fantasy about being tied up and fucked by a massive fire breathing reptile! Insert the modem processing noise here and you'll have an excellent picture of my state of mind at that moment.
Now god knows I've watched enough hentai to be familiar with monster tropes - but she never has. She somehow just got there under her own power, apparently. I think I blame Anne McCaffrey.
I have to admit, I almost came right then and there just sitting there and listening to her talk. I have a few kinks, but my biggest one is hearing about a woman's own kinks and fetishes. So the idea that a woman is revealing or engaging in some kind of deviant kink of her own is a huge turn on for me - and this? This was amazing, utterly mind-blowing. I was intensely turned on to discover that my own wife had such deeply strange and crazy fantasies of her own, so needless to say I was happy to encourage her in any way she desired.
Alas, whatever strange mood took her that afternoon, she's never been able to confide in me to such a degree again. I suspect she almost blew a mental gasket doing it that one time, poor thing. Probably lucky she didn't self-combust on the spot.
Anyway, now whenever we're having sex and I want to spice it up for myself a bit, I may try to imagine what kind of perverse dark-fantasy bondage scenario my wife might be thinking about - because it turns out that she is doing exactly that, even if she can't bring herself to reveal the details.
So, that was definitely the most intense bit of fantasy sharing we've ever had, and it put a lot of things in a different context than I'd understood previously, particularly that, yes, real, normal women can definitely have fantasies that are every bit as fucked up and weird as guys fantasies, and sometimes even darker.
Oh, and yes, that it probably is true that it's the quiet ones you need to keep your eye on.
My wife as well, but I know she's lying. Many moons ago we experimented with swapping couples. Early on we met one couple where she was turned off the guy from the get go. She just never clicked with him. At one point on the evening of our first and only meeting he asked her, "what is your biggest fantasy?" She replied, "winning the lottery."
