That occasional slap to the face to keep her in line...

[MasterTennessee]

Yes, I have used it before. For me, it has a dual purpose:

1. It reminds her of her place; and
2. It pleases me to do it.

 

[intothewoods]

My PYL is fond of the face slap, but it's not like a soap opera face slap and it doesn't even hurt that much. It's more of a snap to attention, and it's quite small as a movement overall.

 

[Roleplay_Mom]

this thread could use a bump

 

[Honed_Hunger]

Within scene..........face slapping could be a huge turn-on. { If such act was previously expressed via checklist that it was desired, or at least permitted by my sub }

Outside of scene.........I'd never slap another's face, period. If I was forced to slap another in the face to regain control in the event of an argument/emotional meltdown, I really would be in control of her or myself, now would I?

 

[richard_daily]

File under: duh.

 

[sb2009]

i'm not sure if i replied...mine does pinches. It's a carryover from his (much indulged) childhood. His mom was a pincher...it was a way to get his attention.

So when I'm acting like a total cunt (or a partial one) i get a pinch or two. The severity of my bitchyness rates the number and harshness of the pinches.

I was totally fucking with him yesterday. I was making a ton of double ententre jokes about wood when I was playing a game on Facebook and kept getting more and more on his nerves...he reached behind him (he was sitting on the floor and I was behind him) and pinched my pussy lips so hard it took everything not to squeal and slap him away.

Mind you, this is how we do things. He wants me to be feisty and mouthy and he likes to be mouthy back. And I want him to pinch and slap me because it's hot and is a way for him to tell me he's in charge without totally bringing me down.

 

[sb2009]

OH, ONE time he did slap my face! I was pregnant with my first, and some serious shit had happend at work, and it looked like iI was going to get into some seriousl military trouble (much blown out of proportion) and I was sitting on our couch having a complete break. Totally freaking out. Not even on this planet. He said he slapped me twice, one on each cheek, and told me to get it together for the baby. I don't remember that, just remember sobbing in his arms and falling asleep.

I"m so glad I got out of the army LOL they sucked.

 

[Soumis]

Hard limit, gigantic mind fuck, in a bad way.

 

[ImOnIt]

"I'm the only man in the world who can get away with that."

This. Heh!

 

[cs218996130]

slap to face and cunny

Daddy slapped my face once when we were having sex but it was only after I slapped his face. Usually when he is taking for ever to get off he will say cuss me or choke me" but I thought that he would like the slap, well he didn't because I got knocked the fuck out after that. This was actually before I became his slave, it was during our vanilla time. One thing that does hurt like hell and that makes me super wet is when he slaps my cunny!

 

[VelvetSin]

Hah, this thread bump is so timely. On Friday, B slapped me. I had a really bad week at work and was in "me" mode still when we got to the hotel late Friday afternoon for a fun get-away weekend. He was in play mode the whole time and didn't hit me hard, if I had been in the right frame of mind I doubt I would have felt it. It definitely got my attention. I don't think my reaction was exactly what he was looking for, I slapped him back. It put *Him* in the right frame of mind though which immediately dropped my attitude level a few dozen notches.

It's not something I would tolerate much or often and it really pissed me off but everything he did after that solved the issue I was having.

 

[Submissive_Salena]

I love being reminded of who is in charge...

it sends me into a wonderfully submissive feeling, a sharp crack to get my attention and then a soft floating off into that special place.

 

[CeriseNin]

it sends me into a wonderfully submissive feeling, a sharp crack to get my attention and then a soft floating off into that special place.

Same for me unless it's used too often, then it loses its special something.

 

[Red_and_Mackie]

He grinned his little sarcastic smile and said, "I'm the only man in the world who can get away with that."

A thousand times YES.

I have done this only once. Her reaction was instant and complete. Until that moment I had no idea how deeply submissive she could be. Once I knew it opened up a whole new dynamic for us.

I might do it again at some point but never "just because." It should always add to the experience and not become a "because I can" thing.

 

[Earthgoddess]

shivers

A quick tap during oral servitude, yes-omg-yes. Anywhere else will get you slapped back faster than you can blink.

 

[Ravenwind]

My Husband does it because he knows I love it. To me, it serves as a reminder that "he's in charge", and it's an attention-grabber... at that moment, I know exactly what he wants, or it's as a reinforced understanding that, "I really should do what it is he wants, so I can be rewarded later" (like doing the laundry... which reminds me, I've buttons to repair...). He never does it hard at all, but he's somehow perfected making the lightest touch sting like crazy.

 

[jane_spitteler]

I love how so many feel the slap almost like an "on switch" to their submissive personalities. I feel that night and day difference between my 'normal' self and then my submissive side, somehow I was afraid I was the only one, but I can see it's probably a pretty standard thing.

 

[trail_runner]

It's a "yes-omg-yes" for me. I enjoyed reading the responses about why this does/doesn't work for others - I never bothered to consider why I enjoyed it so much until now.

 

[sweepthefloor]

If only, he would have slapped my face just once, I would have never left.

 

[Dearelliot]

I havent ever but..it does sound interesting. I wonder how it would work in public..but I couldnt see a man doing it to a woman in public...the other way around okay. Or what I would like to see is 2 couples and one woman slapping the other woman in the face to remind her she is the sub.."Well sweetheart why are you standing up?"

 

[Bandit58]

Hard limit here, not just to me but Him as well.

Just thought I'd clarify my earlier post (nothing's changed it's still a hard limit). It reeks too much of abuse. Plus I have a "thing" about my face, nose and eyes. I'm very protective of them I've had a bad nosebleed in the past and am paranoid of it happening again.

I also hate being gagged but don't mind a blindfold....go figure

We've found a quick pinch or finger flick to the forehead works to "keep me in line"

 

[john_and_mima]

i hate my face being slapped,although we have tryed it. when someone who is supposed to love and care for me slaps or hits me round the face, it really scares and upsets me. a slap anywhere else such as ass,breasts or pussy is a turn on but not my face mima x

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

I don't mind a light smack. In fact, sometimes I even really like it.

However, Mr can hit *hard* and sometimes he forgets to check himself. Ouch.

 

[Unquiet_Play]

For me, the strike to the face crosses a bit of a line.

On the other hand, she can be brought VERY quickly to attention with a forceful and continuous touch. Reaching under her chin to grab her whole face: the control drives her wild. But i'll have to ask her about the whole "snap to attention" aspect of things.

The main thread I'm noticing in this discussion, though, is that it appears to have everything to do with personal preference, and particularly with what the person associates with face-slapping. Know your partner, know yourself -- no problems.