The Appeal of Pain

[naxalite0906]

I've had that fleeting thought before, as well. I've never been a cutter, I'm not a cutter now, I'll never be a cutter- in part because I've always understood the mentality behind cutting to be very destructive/tied up in self-loathing (hence why many cutters hide their activies) or an inability to release oneself from "thinking too much" in an acceptable and healthy way.

Yes, pain takes me out of my head, probably in a similar manner as it does with a cutter, but I have a lot of other coping mechanisims to accomplish the same thing. I control how I deal with those tightly wound feelings- journaling, exercise, talking with a friend, ice cream, therapy, BDSM... each are tools I may occasionally use for dealing with life's stress; however, the vast majority of the time, pleasureable pain is just pleasureable pain.

As always CM, you make a valid point

Just to make it clear, I was not accusing anyone of being a cutter, I just wanted to make a point. Thank you CM for responding

 

[CutieMouse]

As always CM, you make a valid point

Just to make it clear, I was not accusing anyone of being a cutter, I just wanted to make a point. Thank you CM for responding

Oh I didn't think you were... the same connection flitted through my head when I typed out that sometimes I use pain to "get out of my head" (A split second of self-analysis occured at that point, too. )

 

[Blushing Bottom]

Funny I don't experience impact or clamping play as pain...just sensation...sometimes good...sometimes bad and sometimes great.

That's just me though. The only real pain for me is the emotional and the unwell body pain.

I know call me strange.

 

[lostsavage]

I think my signature says it all, and yes I enjoy being on the receiving end of pain. I am not in any type of mood right now to elaborate. but suffice it to say that pain and I are very good friends.

Lost

 

[Byakuya]

lots of interesting discussion here! thanks to everyone who responded! it seems like it's different for different people.. some are like me who would only enjoy pain if it is turning someone on.. but some seem to enjoy pain regardless of the source of the pain..

just to clarify my own thoughts on this.. I don't think I would enjoy the pain itself.. but I think would enjoy the rush of knowing that the person administering my pain is getting turned on by inflicting pain on me.. I think that rush wouldn't necessarily make the pain itself enjoyable, but it would make it "worth it" for me.. so in that sense, I would welcome the pain..

a lot of this is just speculation for me though as I have yet to act out many of my fantasies.. I'm not purely submissive either.. the thought of administering pain is a turn-on for me as well..

 

[lostsavage]

I'm in a better mood now.

For me I live with pain every day. ( way too long of a story for here but it involves a 1978 Mercury 2 door Montego, 2 big hills and 10 days in the hospital) Arthritis and lots of sprains and strains later. I wake up every day to some thing hurting. It does not help matters that i still play goalie in hockey, snow board and bike ride similar to the x games stuff from time to time.

I am the kind of person who when something hurts i move it just to feel the pain. As far as the sexual side of it I like it from both knowing the person inflicting it in enjoying it and seeing how far I can take it. It does not make my release any more enjoyable but it make the ride to get there more memorable.

but that is my view on pain. take it for what it is worth.

Lost

 

[neonflux]

What does the experience of pain give me? Each type not only seems to create a different sensation but also a different emotional response. Flogging de-stresses, is cathartic - I have never found my limit with it. For some reason, wax play is relaxing, regardless of which end I am on. I don't enjoy spanking, but endure it - get a macho thrill from seeing how far I can push myself. Piercing brings intimacy - I have done "energy pulls" with joint piercings - both as Top and bottom that enhanced intimacy and general energy exchange in ways that are difficult to explain. I have not done anything with real cutting, but like the sensation of feeling like I am being cut - again, it seems to enhance intimacy. With all forms of pain, there is a spiritual element when the energy exchange is right. The trust, the endorphins, etc. take me to a space where my body disappears - makes sense - sex is often spiritual for me and most spiritual traditions have some sort of rituals in which pain brings one to altered states of consciousness.

I am a very greedy bottom - I obey, I am respectful and don't "top from the bottom," I know I can be fun to Top because I can take a great deal and am very responsive, but... ultimately bottoming is a very selfish act for me. I am much more likely to experience deep affection when I am being sadistic than when feeding my masochistic side - in fact performing sadistic acts make me feel profoundly loving (I don't fall in love with my Tops, I always do a little with someone who bottoms to me, even when we don't have a "genital" relationship).

I have never asked anyone to Top me who didn't get profound enjoyment out of it, so I cannot answer the other part of your question, however, I do not believe that I would get any enjoyment out of it. I don't generally enjoy asking anyone to be anything than what and who they are...

Neon

Oh, P.S., having just had a horrible two-day hangover, i can attest to the fact that like others who have posted, I don't generally enjoy pain that is the result if illness, either, although I get a perverse sense of pleasure from seeing how far I can go during dental procedures without asking for anaesthesia. Strangely then, I have never been attracted to medical play.

 

[mfstl]

Extreme PS

I am an extreme ps I love it. I have had needles used on me before and just loved the stinging burning sensation they cause. I love the burning of a good catheter being removed and have to piss. Pearls inserted under the skin of my cock was intense as I watched him prep with an 11-blade scalpel, I must admit it is a cold steely extreme paper cutting feeling when someone takes a scalpel to you.

Anyway Looking for a good BDSM CBT forum to join. Looking to you all for help as I am out of it these days. Need one that post pics for free.

 

[SunshineLdy]

I hate pain!
It's the stingy warm feeling afterward, I LOVE..it's a means to an end, maybe.

He starts spanking, and instanly I want to say no...but my body's reaction disconnets my voice. Inside I'm screaming no, it just isn't allowed out. Then he makes a sound because he finds it inticing, and I whimper, and he's gone, and then I don't have that voice in my head that says stop him!