The Fine Line

[show_no_mercy]

I think I'll make a more subjective definition:

A dominant person is a person you like.

A domineering person is a person you don't like.

 

[Rox_shybutcurious]

Just my .02....

To me somebody that’s domineering tries to impose their will over somebody else without regard or respect to that person’s needs and/or wants. Also without understanding or caring how that attitude will affect whom they’re presenting it to.

Not having any particular experience with any Dominants beyond these boards I’m not sure that I can say what the difference would be exactly, but I can hope.

I can hope that there would be a quality of respect and even honor in receiving the trust of someone willing to follow their lead. And a knowledge of the complexities as well as the consequences of being in charge of someone and having them under their care and protection. I can hope that the attitudes and actions the Dominant displays would reflect that knowledge. That even when limits are pushed mentally and/or physically that it’s within the bounds of consent between the people involved and not a boundary to simply be coerced over by a stronger personality.

And I can hope that into that mix is thrown a little bit of humility. That they don't think, just because they’re dominant, that they’re better than anybody else and that they realize they're just human. They don’t know everything and they’re not always going to be the strongest or the best at something. They’re going to have bad days and good days. They going to occasionally get sick or hurt. In short they’re just like the rest of us. To think else wise indicates to me domineering and arrogant to boot.

Anyway for what it’s worth, in my opinion, those are some of the traits that would mark Dominant over domineering.

 

[Perpetual_Edge]

Is this another example, or do you really think you said something wrong? I'm not getting it because no one replied to your post, so I've no idea how you could get the impression you offended anyone.

As someone said (today, I think), forums aren't chat rooms, and it can take awhile to get responses. Threads just die a natural death, too; I think we've all wondered if we're "thread killers" at some point after we've posted to a couple of threads and they've died. A lack of response doesn't mean anything at all, and sometimes new people get fewer responses than veteran members because they're not known yet and lots of people make a couple of posts and never return. It's just the way it seems to work, and the best solution is to keep posting and getting to know the members.

Thanks for the clarification S.E. I keep forgetting that people are not aware of my alias.

 

[SweetErika]

Thanks for the clarification S.E. I keep forgetting that people are not aware of my alias.

I'm afraid you've lost me even more. Are you saying P_E is an alt, that you post here under another name as well? Or, am I missing the meaning of your username?