The need to be used...

[chelleb]

Do you think this a common fantasy among the female population? Do you ever just think about letting go, and letting your partner do whatever it is that he wants to do to you? Does the thought of turning him on, turn you on, or is it always a give-take situation for you...?

I think about letting go and letting someone else be in control all the time. I see it as a way to escape day-to-day reality for a while. It's not an every day, long term fantasy, but it comes and goes. It's something I would definitely like from time to time.

My birthday is coming up in a few weeks, and I would like to give myself a present, rather than asking for one......giving myself to him to do with as he wishes for the day.

 

[palemoon2035]

I don't know how common it is, but being used is the most arousing thing for me.

Being undressed, taken gently or forcefully with no consideration on the part of my partner, with no apparent thought for my satisfaction gets me there quicker than any other way.

I have no idea why but the cave man approach just works, in fact the more selfish the better.

This seems to go against the popular idea of a considerate, modern man unfortunately, since finding a partner willing to behave like this is challenging. Currently they seem to be rarer than rocking horse droppings.

Where are you?

Ah, m dear Collette. How I dream of using yoi and controlling you.

 

[laceNlthrgrrl]

I love being used and often offer myself to my husband to do with as he wants. He's eager and enthusiastic but not that inspired. That makes me a bit sad.

At least you get the enthusiasm. Mine seems to be totally indifferent these days. His PC turns him on, or so it seems, in ways I apparently can't. It makes my heart hurt.

 

[Roamme]

I'm sorry but...

I don't know how common it is, but being used is the most arousing thing for me.

Being undressed, taken gently or forcefully with no consideration on the part of my partner, with no apparent thought for my satisfaction gets me there quicker than any other way.

I have no idea why but the cave man approach just works, in fact the more selfish the better.

This seems to go against the popular idea of a considerate, modern man unfortunately, since finding a partner willing to behave like this is challenging. Currently they seem to be rarer than rocking horse droppings.

Where are you?

I agree with her too

 

[switchbitch]

As a switch I enjoy both being used and using others

I'm a male though.

I too am a switch, though female. And using and being used is one of my strongest kinks. When someone wants to use me so badly that they are willing to strip away the facade of the socially respectable and force me to please them in any way they want that is an incredible turn on, and turns me into the most voraciously attentive slut.
when I feel the need to use someone for my pleasure and whim it puts a growl in the back of my throat and electricity up my spine and turns me into an extremely demanding libidinous woman.
I think the key for me in both cases is unfettered want and need.

 

[TarevaChine]

Do you think this a common fantasy among the female population? Do you ever just think about letting go, and letting your partner do whatever it is that he wants to do to you? Does the thought of turning him on, turn you on, or is it always a give-take situation for you...?

This is more than a fantasy for me. I am not truly satisfied unless a man is in control. Even when I tease and get him turned on, I need for him to take that control from me.

I don't know about the female population as a whole, but I'd say there are more than a few that feel that way. Why do women swoon over a man with muscles if they didn't want a powerful lover? Why do women like tall men, taller than they are, if they didn't want someone who could overpower them. When the trust is strong in a relationship, a powerful lover also makes them feel safe.

A lot of the unspoken appeal in the sexual chemistry is the woman wants to be desired. She wants to be wanted. She wants to be the focus of a man's every sexual thought. This makes her feel pretty. This makes her feel sexy.

And if he gets a little overbearing in his lust, she knows that lust is directed at her...it's her body that is fueling his lust. She wants him to ravage her, but she also wants him to be sweet at times, too. She wants to be rode hard and put up wet, but she also needs his sensitive side, too.

I'd say that a lot of women would say they desire a strong willed lover. A woman does want to be attractive for her lover. She want him to have sexual thoughts for her, when he sees her...sexual desires. She wants him to have nasty and kinky thoughts...dirty sexual thoughts, but only about her. But she'll only tell these things to her closest friends.

To everybody else, she'll just say she wants the basic desires in a man. A good provider, a loving husband and if kids ever come, a good father. You have to read between the lines when you hear some things. That's part of the mystic of a woman.

YES! YES! YES!

 

[destined]

I don't know how common it is, but being used is the most arousing thing for me.

Being undressed, taken gently or forcefully with no consideration on the part of my partner, with no apparent thought for my satisfaction gets me there quicker than any other way.

I have no idea why but the cave man approach just works, in fact the more selfish the better.

This seems to go against the popular idea of a considerate, modern man unfortunately, since finding a partner willing to behave like this is challenging. Currently they seem to be rarer than rocking horse droppings.

Where are you?

I feel the same sentiments.... there are times that I absolutely crave being taken by a man who looks at me and sees me only as a sex toy for his desires. Fortunately, my husband can sometimes be that sort of man too!

 

[gregy70]

I too am a switch, though female. And using and being used is one of my strongest kinks. When someone wants to use me so badly that they are willing to strip the facade of socially respectable and force me to please them in any way they want that is an incredible turn on, and turns me into the most voraciously attentive slut.
when I feel the need to use someone for my pleasure and whim it puts a growl in the back of my throat and electricity up my spine and turns me into an extremely demanding libidinous woman.
I think the key for me in both cases is unfettered want and need.

I love your use of words Switch: voraciously attentive slut...demanding libidinous woman...unfettered want & need.
I've always liked this about you & always will.
You have always ozzed sex appeal & Class!
Greg xxoo

 

[Pandorica]

I don't know how common it is, but being used is the most arousing thing for me.

Being undressed, taken gently or forcefully with no consideration on the part of my partner, with no apparent thought for my satisfaction gets me there quicker than any other way.

I have no idea why but the cave man approach just works, in fact the more selfish the better.

This seems to go against the popular idea of a considerate, modern man unfortunately, since finding a partner willing to behave like this is challenging. Currently they seem to be rarer than rocking horse droppings.

I'm like this too. Currently I'm experiencing a caveman drought though.

 

[YourCaptor]

Wouldn't it be nice.

 

[abby4u2]

.....

 

[jonicaswift]

I too am a switch, though female. And using and being used is one of my strongest kinks. When someone wants to use me so badly that they are willing to strip the facade of socially respectable and force me to please them in any way they want that is an incredible turn on, and turns me into the most voraciously attentive slut.
when I feel the need to use someone for my pleasure and whim it puts a growl in the back of my throat and electricity up my spine and turns me into an extremely demanding libidinous woman.
I think the key for me in both cases is unfettered want and need.

I love the way you put this.

 

[switchbitch]

I love your use of words Switch: voraciously attentive slut...demanding libidinous woman...unfettered want & need.
I've always liked this about you & always will.
You have always ozzed sex appeal & Class!
Greg xxoo

I love the way you put this.

thank you both am glad you like it. but the words are merely a very poor second to the feelings they are meant to describe.

 

[OutLaw_In_Hiding]

my 2 cents

My first wife was like old school,, friday night between 10 and 11, on her back, are we done yet, roll over and go to sleep......

My current wife of 5 years is the most erotic, sexual, hot, romantic woman i have ever met. Becuase she was afraid i would be mad, it took her awhile to let me know how much she enjoyed being dominated in bed. She gave me ideas of things to make in my "Man Shed" as she calls it. by the time i have her stripped, bound, blind folded, gaged and totally under my control, all i have to do is run my fingers down her body, and it is instant flame on. She is ready to cum and cum hard and often.

 

[PrettyProse]

This seems to go against the popular idea of a considerate, modern man unfortunately, since finding a partner willing to behave like this is challenging. Currently they seem to be rarer than rocking horse droppings.

Where are you?

THIS!!! XD I laughed so hard when I read that last part. Thank you for making my whole day. Oh god, that was awesome. XD


And yes, I like to be used. I would have to say that about eighty percent of the time, I like to be forcefully taken by my partner or coerced. The other ten percent, I'm the one who does all that. I love the feeling that I'm the source of my man's pleasure and he knows he can do whatever he wants with me, whenever he feels the need to do it. He respects me and respects my desires to be taken. (And he's a natural dominant person in the bedroom. I've been introducing the BDSM world to him slowly. It's been nice to explore it with him. Now my fantasies are becoming reality.)

I don't know if this fantasy is normal among most women. But I have noticed that my female friends share the same fantasies as I do. Not exactly, but the need to be taken and used is a common theme. (Not to be confused with rape at all.)

 

[Hislittlesub]

xxxxx

 

[CuteBrat]

For me, it is a definite NEED to be used. Not just a desire. Being taken hard clears my head, knowing I'm just a toy being used makes me feel contained.

A Dominant man (or woman) who just comes up and TAKES me....makes me feel alive, makes me feel useful.

The hardest part of being released after being owned for years is the flailing around without that structure, that containment. While I'm certainly not ready for 24/7 again, the men (and one special Mommy) who HAVE used me have helped me reset....it let's me exhale, if that makes sense.

 

[Goodgirl4him]

I don't know how common it is, but being used is the most arousing thing for me.

Being undressed, taken gently or forcefully with no consideration on the part of my partner, with no apparent thought for my satisfaction gets me there quicker than any other way.

I have no idea why but the cave man approach just works, in fact the more selfish the better.

This seems to go against the popular idea of a considerate, modern man unfortunately, since finding a partner willing to behave like this is challenging. Currently they seem to be rarer than rocking horse droppings.

Where are you?

Completely agree. Problem is finding a decent guy who can balance both sides. Cave man approach only works for me if i already know that he has complete respect and love for me first.

 

[Tom Bishop]

Not just women

It took me a long time to get the first Young man to use me to understand that he was the boss
I was older I was bigger and on job sites I was his boss but in a motel room or his apartment or even the front seat of his car I wanted him to take control At first he could not get his head around the fact that it made me feel good to give up control to him That it was so far out of the norm for me to want to be used as his cock sucking old bitch . Not to pretend to be a women but to be a man that got off pleasing him by doing all the Kinky things he had me doing on his command After he used me for almost 7 years completely on his terms he would call me I could not make contact with him about a play time as he called our times together . Even if we were on the same job site I could not make any reference to him using me
Sitting across from him at a job meeting Knowing I have sucked his cock Kissed his ass even got my tounge as far up his ass as I could really is a humbling feeling When Ken had to move far away for work he Gave me away to his friend another younger man I had a choice Ken gave my playtime number to him and told me if I wanted another cock to suck just answer the phone at an exact time well I answered on first ring and 3 hrs later I was sucking my new young mans cock I like being told what to do and giveing up control