This one’s for the girls

[crazybbwgirl]

ahhh - congratulations to all of us for evolving, morphing, whatever! I started making major changes in my life about 5 years ago. Then 2 years ago the youngest daughter flew the nest. That's when I took a deep breath and stepped out on the ledge. Man - its been great and I've not looked back since. So much to learn, so much to experience........ sometimes I feel like I have to hurry to get it all in!

 

[silver_inari]

my second adolescence has been driven more by socioeconomic things -- it's a shrugging off of my role as the not employee of the month drudge.

I've not had a sexual shell to get stuck in.

but I can relate to the sentiments of the thread on that level. I have non-regulation extensions of purple and red in my black hair and I'm back to my college threads which have only a punk and poor chic and paint on a lot of them and I don't care.

This is more the state I find myself in, and longing for. I'm currently growing my hair out long and am thinking of such non regulation hair extensions too. If I could get away with dreads I would, but with the type of employment that I enjoy it wouldn't fly. Funky colored hair extensions I intend to work on.

Outside of work I am going for either more gothic type stuff, or sometimes the other end, classy and very girly. It is quite all about not letting myself get into a rut.

And to top it off, I have two companies bidding for me to come and work for them. *happy sigh* Life is turning ok finally, I think.

 

[CutieMouse]

*****

 

[playing_w_pixie_dust]

Just reading everything ya'll have been talking about has made me want to run outside and scream"this is me!! take me for who i am!!" I am 23, trying to divorce, but can't get him to, and dying to be the person i know is inside me, but would scare the hell out of this little town i live in. I chopped off my long hair and dyed it red, and had my tongue pierced for a day, (my soon to be ex took it out against my will) and i have been trying to find a fellow bi/les Dom woman to teach me what i long to know. i am a sub by nature, but still have my own mind about me, and i want to fin someone who will love me and let me be that person i long to be. so, thank ya'll for being yourselves, and inspiring me to find a way to be me.

 

[silver_inari]

Just reading everything ya'll have been talking about has made me want to run outside and scream"this is me!! take me for who i am!!" I am 23, trying to divorce, but can't get him to, and dying to be the person i know is inside me, but would scare the hell out of this little town i live in. I chopped off my long hair and dyed it red, and had my tongue pierced for a day, (my soon to be ex took it out against my will) and i have been trying to find a fellow bi/les Dom woman to teach me what i long to know. i am a sub by nature, but still have my own mind about me, and i want to fin someone who will love me and let me be that person i long to be. so, thank ya'll for being yourselves, and inspiring me to find a way to be me.

Ugh...my sister had to endure a year long separation period my north carolina law to get a divorce from her psycho ex husband. She weathered it fine though so I imagine you can handle it.

Here's what I found on the web page of a dallas family law practice web page:

In Texas, we have "no fault" divorce or "insupportability." A divorce will be granted if one, or both, parties, asserts that the marriage has become insupportable because of discord or conflict of personalities that destroys the legitimate ends of the marriage relationship, and there is no reasonable expectation of reconciliation.

Find a lawyer....***** is too short to let someone else controlling you when you don't want them to. As I've said before elsewhere, freedom is everything. Life means little without it.

 

[robynwildchild]

good for you

your doing most of the shit that a lot of people in my life tell me not to.

i go to bars in the city by myself..i've met some good people who have later helped me out .. flew to vancouver to meet a man i fell in love with, who is married (still) and has kids ... i've gotten lost in concerts/raves and made friends.. i talk to strangers... shock my friends with the things i say and do... wear clothing that is stylish yet sexual.. i've gone anal.. i've tried toys.. i'm not afraid to admit i like women or that i MASTURBATE.. man that was an embarrassing topic of choice back in the day..

i moved away from home and went to college and would go home from frat party's by myself or home to someone else's room... not always or even to have sex but... no one can contain me i am my own god... keep up the exploration of your self... but always be aware of your surroundings aight kiddo!

 

[Miss Diva]

CONGRATS TO ALL THE LADIES WHO HAVE LIBERATED THEMSELVES.

I was 40 and single and knew my life was not what I wanted. So I changed. A little at a time mind you but i changed. My wardrobe went from frumpy (baggy lose ill fitting clothes because I thought I was fat) to sexy (the clothes fit nicely to show off all my womanly curves). I changed hairdresser: I went from blond (which i hated) to chestnut colour with cool red highlights.

I joined a couple of dating sites and went on real dates and started to meet men and am closer to finding out what I want out of a man.

I will be 42 in January and I have a PYL who has also become a very trusted friend of mine.

I stand up for myself. I will not put up with crap! I am saying NO to my family for things that they want me to do at the last minutes (in the past my family you count on my to drop my life to accomodate them. NO MORE !)

I finally learned that being a good girl does not get you what you want. I cannot wait for 2005 as it promises to get better and better.

TO ALL OF I SAY: GOOD LUCK AND HAVE FUN! AND BE SAFE!

 

[snowy ciara]

You ladies ROCK

First off, it's great to see all you ass kickin' non doormat subs doing what you do. I think I'm going to book mark this thread so I can send it to all the stupid HNG wannabe PYL's tell me I'm not a "good" or "true" subbie. A person I respect a lot told me once that I'm a strong subbie. Way cool.

Any way, I'm seeing all you ladies "growing old disgracefully" and thank my lucky stars that I didn't have to go through this second adolescence. I'm lucky enough that I sort of figured out who (or what) I was before my 20's.

And I like purple! But clashes with my Uni colours, so I'll have to wait before I hit the purple hair thing..

 

[Desdemona]

Re: You ladies ROCK

First off, it's great to see all you ass kickin' non doormat subs doing what you do. I think I'm going to book mark this thread so I can send it to all the stupid HNG wannabe PYL's tell me I'm not a "good" or "true" subbie. A person I respect a lot told me once that I'm a strong subbie. Way cool.

Any way, I'm seeing all you ladies "growing old disgracefully" and thank my lucky stars that I didn't have to go through this second adolescence. I'm lucky enough that I sort of figured out who (or what) I was before my 20's.

And I like purple! But clashes with my Uni colours, so I'll have to wait before I hit the purple hair thing..

I don't know babe, a second adolescence is fun. You'll just have to find another way to spend time during your midlife crisis. Maybe you'll turn vanilla. ROTFLMAO.

Seriously, you gotta know that life and sexuality only get better with the passage of time. As good as it is for you now, you have wonderful things ahead of you. I'm glad you got to figure out your sexuality at a young age. That's a great gift. Just stay the strong woman that you are and be true to you.

 

[Netzach]

Re: You ladies ROCK

First off, it's great to see all you ass kickin' non doormat subs doing what you do. I think I'm going to book mark this thread so I can send it to all the stupid HNG wannabe PYL's tell me I'm not a "good" or "true" subbie. A person I respect a lot told me once that I'm a strong subbie. Way cool.

Any way, I'm seeing all you ladies "growing old disgracefully" and thank my lucky stars that I didn't have to go through this second adolescence. I'm lucky enough that I sort of figured out who (or what) I was before my 20's.

And I like purple! But clashes with my Uni colours, so I'll have to wait before I hit the purple hair thing..

I'm not a sub, but HNG's won't believe that anyway. I figured it all out in my 20's too. You will re-figure it out a few more times yet, wait till 30 hits you upside the head.

 

[CutieMouse]

Re: Re: You ladies ROCK

wait till 30 hits you upside the head.

heh heh heh.