To stay or to go? Long post warning...

[CutieMouse]

If the grandchild's mother is genuinely incapable of raising her child, there is a third option- speak with a family law attorney about what is in the best interest of the grandchild, and act accordingly.

If the mother is that toxic, that abusive, the child is fucked - homeless or not.

 

[All_4_Love]

If the grandchild's mother is genuinely incapable of raising her child, there is a third option- speak with a family law attorney about what is in the best interest of the grandchild, and act accordingly.

If the mother is that toxic, that abusive, the child is fucked - homeless or not.

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I am deleting my comment for fear that I have shared too much information in a public forum. It is not my place to air these kinds of things about someone's family.

 

[All_4_Love]

I do realize that I have very high standards where the care and nurturing of children are concerned. This is one of the reasons why I am struggling here. I am really in no position to judge because someone doesn't raise their child according to my standards.

The child is not physically abused, nor do I see any chance of that in the future. She is taken care of, to the best of her mother's ability, I suppose. I am in no position to say her mother is not capable of raising the child. I am only self righteous in saying that she is not capable of raising her child the way that I would raise my children.

Nevertheless, you are right, CM. If the situation ever gets to a point that she is not capable of raising the child, then a family attorney would be in order.

 

[All_4_Love]

Posting an update for anyone that may be interested...

I made the decision to move out over the weekend. It is necessary to walk away from toxic situations if we want to save ourselves.

Thank you, again, to everyone who gave their advice, and more importantly, their encouragement for me to take a good, hard look at the truth and to do what was best for me.

I’m going to lay low for a while, lick my wounds, gain back my center, reflect on and be grateful for the lessons that need to be learned here, and reevaluate the direction of my life.

Time heals everything…

I appreciate all of you very much.

 

[subwannabe]

Good luck. You not only made a good decision but I wise one. Sometimes you have to be selfish and think about your own needs first sort of like a pilot that has to save himself first or the others are doomed anyway. You have the right to not live in such a toxic situation.

 

[All_4_Love]

Good luck. You not only made a good decision but I wise one. Sometimes you have to be selfish and think about your own needs first sort of like a pilot that has to save himself first or the others are doomed anyway. You have the right to not live in such a toxic situation.

Thank you.

My feelings are really all over the place right now. I keep vacillating between believing that I made a healthy decision to feeling that I gave up and caused pain to, not only to him, but his daughter. We are all 3 devastated from this.

I feel as though I was wrong for leaving. That I should have somehow done something different, stuck it out, been more assertive in defending myself against his daughter instead of being assertive in making a choice to leave. Then again, I'm disappointed that he did not protect myself and his daughter the way I felt he should have.

I have walked away from 3 relationships in my lifetime. I feel like a horrible woman. I'm so volatile right now, so confused. I pray for peace of mind to come.

 

[descentmuch]

Posting an update for anyone that may be interested...

I made the decision to move out over the weekend. It is necessary to walk away from toxic situations if we want to save ourselves.


Time heals everything…

I appreciate all of you very much.

I have been following this thread and did not post because i am very new here and why on earth would you want to hear me. However now that it seems you made your decision, i wanted to say i think you made the correct, nay, the only, decision. No one should live in misery.


Good luck, time does heal mostly everything... Use this thread to help the healing if needed , it's hard to do what you did; you might have that sinking feeling in your stomach even while that stone from your heart has lifted. Seems like you are not alone here.

 

[All_4_Love]

I have been following this thread and did not post because i am very new here and why on earth would you want to hear me. However now that it seems you made your decision, i wanted to say i think you made the correct, nay, the only, decision. No one should live in misery.


Good luck, time does heal mostly everything... Use this thread to help the healing if needed , it's hard to do what you did; you might have that sinking feeling in your stomach even while that stone from your heart has lifted. Seems like you are not alone here.

*hugs you tightly*

Thank you, so much.

 

[pensivepoet]

I think the 1st few days are the roughest, Love
Don't let guilt and self imposed shame trip up the facts.
You always know where to find me.
Peace n love

 

[All_4_Love]

Thank you, P-poet. I'm gonna do my best.

If all else fails, I got sunshine and Bacardi.

Peace & Love