Transitions... Changes... Moving Forward....

[incubus_dark]

Remember, another person's kids are allowed to hate you, they'll get over it if you don't let it bother you.

If you try to bribe, buy or otherwise cajole them into not hating you, they'll hate you for it, and that'll take alot longer for them to get over.

It's perfectly natural for you to hate the little beggars right back, in a lighthearted way, and you'd get over this in about the same amount of time it takes them to get over hating you. However, owners of the kids tend to frown on it since they almost always think they're progeny are little angels, and this is the thing that actively needs to be combatted. If everyone is allowed to feel how they feel without guilt or being expected to pretend otherwise, the feelings pass quickly, but they pass slowly if irritated by the thorn in the side of having to pretend otherwise.

With respect to your own changes, just relax and remember different can be fine, it's just longing for old routines that makes it feel worse.

 

[MasterPhoenix]

*grins* i love You! and i know that everything will work out, we've worked too hard and too long for it not to! all will be fine, and we've gotten some really good advice from everyone here.

our communication is huge. we have always been able to communicate anything to each other so i know we'll be just fine....what scares me the most is that everything will eventually become 'mundane' that we will get 'used to each other' this is what has happened to me in the past and has broken up all of my relationships, hopefully that makes sense to someone. maybe i just worry too much *shrugs* either way, i know we'll be ok......thank you everyone!

Well, babygirl... I am always on the lookout for new toys...

Seriously, I think that we are just odd enough it won't be a problem... We keep finding new ways to relate to one another...

 

[MasterPhoenix]

Remember, another person's kids are allowed to hate you, they'll get over it if you don't let it bother you.

If you try to bribe, buy or otherwise cajole them into not hating you, they'll hate you for it, and that'll take alot longer for them to get over.

It's perfectly natural for you to hate the little beggars right back, in a lighthearted way, and you'd get over this in about the same amount of time it takes them to get over hating you. However, owners of the kids tend to frown on it since they almost always think they're progeny are little angels, and this is the thing that actively needs to be combatted. If everyone is allowed to feel how they feel without guilt or being expected to pretend otherwise, the feelings pass quickly, but they pass slowly if irritated by the thorn in the side of having to pretend otherwise.

With respect to your own changes, just relax and remember different can be fine, it's just longing for old routines that makes it feel worse.

That advice on the kids was priceless... My stepdad came into my life at about the same age as her youngest son. I am not going to lie to everyone and say that it was smooth, or that he was a perfect saint... (Or I was perfect to him at times...) but as I look back I can see that I have a damn good role-model as to what a stepdad should be...

I am not stressed at the concept of change, or even the magnitude of the change because this is what I have been working for, hoping for, and praying for for the the last four years... But I do have a hell of a lot that I have to do on my side to have shit in order to move cross-country. I am now staring down the barrel of a time line... and its time to move from planning as I have been doing to action... Don't get me wrong, I wanted and needed the time line so that I can pout things on the schedule to happen...

I have to find another job to fill in for a month or two, so that I can quit my current job with enough time to get my 401k cashed to be my seed money... I have some work that I have to do to my car to make sure it gets there safe... I have to figure out how much of my shit I can get into my Mustang, (not a hatchback) and how much I will be taking... Basically time to figure out what I NEED... LOL

I am happy and excited about it... and like rose said, we will be fine... we love each other too damn much for it not to.

 

[EmpressFi]

Congratulations to you both, and I hope it all comes together smoothly for you

 

[subtleone]

Just wanted to add...

my congratulations to you both, good luck and enjoy each other

 

[MasterPhoenix]

I am getting jittery...

and I knwo that I am driving her nuts...

Shit.. still so much to do...