Umm..Cock size (Blushing)
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Bubblebuns
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Hello Ladies, I just wanted to try and respond to this thread as best that I could. But first a question--I've noticed that a few times the descriptions of the penis has come up such as 6 inches by 2.5inches around---is that accurate or do they really mean 2.5 inches WIDE? I'm no huge wonder, and I think that we tend to feel small in regards to size by the size of the adult stars, I measure 6.75 long and 7 inches AROUND, ( my wife and I did the measurements together one night).
Now on to the question at hand, I personally think that it's true what they say about, "it's not the size of the board, it's the motion of the ocean", if the man will concentrate on satisfying the woman he will be a very happy man. Now I know that some women are deeper than others, but my wife tells me that she just loves the feeling of a nice thick penis, one that really fills her up (and I guess I pass her test, and that's all that matters to me).
So I would have to say that a nice size would be 6.5 long and 6 inches around. LOL
Thanks for listening,
Bubblebuns
Oh by the way---my wife has already posted pics of my 'MANHOOD' on literotica...
Now on to the question at hand, I personally think that it's true what they say about, "it's not the size of the board, it's the motion of the ocean", if the man will concentrate on satisfying the woman he will be a very happy man. Now I know that some women are deeper than others, but my wife tells me that she just loves the feeling of a nice thick penis, one that really fills her up (and I guess I pass her test, and that's all that matters to me).
So I would have to say that a nice size would be 6.5 long and 6 inches around. LOL
Thanks for listening,
Bubblebuns
Oh by the way---my wife has already posted pics of my 'MANHOOD' on literotica...
I think there are a few points that are being overlooked in this discussion.
Most straight men have only a rough idea of how "big" their penises are and know almost nothing about how large anyone else's is when erect. The only real feedback they get comes from two sources: the porn stars they have seen, and the comments of the their female friends. The former, whose tools range from impressive to absurd in size (and in stamina, natch) can only plant seeds of doubt in all but the largest. The latter have a variety of responses, but I suspect that many of them are at a minimum unintentionally discouraging.
Part of the problem is that even supportive women can come across as patronizing or at least ego-massaging; they may not mean to be, but that is how the message is often received. For example, it is almost axiomatic that when asked about their preference women will say, "It's not the size -- it's how you use it." That's all well and good, but it begs the question of whether a skillful lover who ALSO has a larger penis is preferable. The ideal size may vary from women to woman, but the answer to that is obviously yes; men know this, and have their fears validated. It may well be that men with very large penises can be so taken with their own magnificence (akin to stunningly attractive women) that they become lousy lovers, but that doesn't change the central issue.
I don't know this has a similar effect, but I have also noticed that whenever this subject comes up, women invariably have stories of The Big Ones they have "known." The women usually say that they're glad that their current partners are more manageable in size, but not without a wistful sigh or far-away gaze. It's as though they were recounting the story of some particularly wild youthful adventure; they might not want to trade that past experience for their grown-up lives, but they look back at them fondly and in a sense as a" high-water mark ," if you will, of their sexual histories. As a result, men generally assume that all women have been with larger men in the past and particularly enjoyed the experience.
Also remember that while men are perhaps less sensitive than women to most "social" body image standards, we are awash in a sea of public judgement on this uniquely sensitive subject. Most women may not be tuned to notice, but rest assured that men are constantly hearing comments ranging from the direct "stud/stallion/hung" to the more discreet but ultimately equivalent "impressive/nothing to be ashamed of"; to say nothing of the insults (e.g., "pencil dick"). In this context, "size doesn't matter" smacks of political correctness at best. What would a man say if a women asked him if he thought that a gorgeous blonde with large breasts and an appetite for wild sex was attractive? What would she think about his answer (regardless of its honesty)?
It all boils down to three points. First, the measurements are moot, because they are not the basis for male self-image. Second is that how women actually feel on the subject is not really germane -- the male perception is all that ultimately registers. Third, men with doubts about the "worth" of their penises will find ample evidence to fuel their fears.
I do have three additional thoughts:
• What do gay men (who are presumably have far more informed comparisons, and probably different valuations) say on the subject? Their input is not much in evidence on the board.
• How one measures things makes a difference. I recall reading (and please correct me if I am mistaken) that the scientific standard is to measure from the "near" side base, not the point farthest from the body. This tends to reduce the measurement, but since one never knows how everyone else is measuring, it has the net effect of rendering the comparisons even more irrelevant.
• Not to throw fuel on the fire, but here's a short geometry lesson: the circumference of a circle is 2 * pi * radius, or pi * diameter. In other words, the girth is about 3.14 times the measured cross section; thus, something 2" across is about 6 1/4" around. This is simple enough, but people seem to have gotten a little fuzzy on the math.
[This message has been edited by felix (edited 05-23-2000).]
Most straight men have only a rough idea of how "big" their penises are and know almost nothing about how large anyone else's is when erect. The only real feedback they get comes from two sources: the porn stars they have seen, and the comments of the their female friends. The former, whose tools range from impressive to absurd in size (and in stamina, natch) can only plant seeds of doubt in all but the largest. The latter have a variety of responses, but I suspect that many of them are at a minimum unintentionally discouraging.
Part of the problem is that even supportive women can come across as patronizing or at least ego-massaging; they may not mean to be, but that is how the message is often received. For example, it is almost axiomatic that when asked about their preference women will say, "It's not the size -- it's how you use it." That's all well and good, but it begs the question of whether a skillful lover who ALSO has a larger penis is preferable. The ideal size may vary from women to woman, but the answer to that is obviously yes; men know this, and have their fears validated. It may well be that men with very large penises can be so taken with their own magnificence (akin to stunningly attractive women) that they become lousy lovers, but that doesn't change the central issue.
I don't know this has a similar effect, but I have also noticed that whenever this subject comes up, women invariably have stories of The Big Ones they have "known." The women usually say that they're glad that their current partners are more manageable in size, but not without a wistful sigh or far-away gaze. It's as though they were recounting the story of some particularly wild youthful adventure; they might not want to trade that past experience for their grown-up lives, but they look back at them fondly and in a sense as a" high-water mark ," if you will, of their sexual histories. As a result, men generally assume that all women have been with larger men in the past and particularly enjoyed the experience.
Also remember that while men are perhaps less sensitive than women to most "social" body image standards, we are awash in a sea of public judgement on this uniquely sensitive subject. Most women may not be tuned to notice, but rest assured that men are constantly hearing comments ranging from the direct "stud/stallion/hung" to the more discreet but ultimately equivalent "impressive/nothing to be ashamed of"; to say nothing of the insults (e.g., "pencil dick"). In this context, "size doesn't matter" smacks of political correctness at best. What would a man say if a women asked him if he thought that a gorgeous blonde with large breasts and an appetite for wild sex was attractive? What would she think about his answer (regardless of its honesty)?
It all boils down to three points. First, the measurements are moot, because they are not the basis for male self-image. Second is that how women actually feel on the subject is not really germane -- the male perception is all that ultimately registers. Third, men with doubts about the "worth" of their penises will find ample evidence to fuel their fears.
I do have three additional thoughts:
• What do gay men (who are presumably have far more informed comparisons, and probably different valuations) say on the subject? Their input is not much in evidence on the board.
• How one measures things makes a difference. I recall reading (and please correct me if I am mistaken) that the scientific standard is to measure from the "near" side base, not the point farthest from the body. This tends to reduce the measurement, but since one never knows how everyone else is measuring, it has the net effect of rendering the comparisons even more irrelevant.
• Not to throw fuel on the fire, but here's a short geometry lesson: the circumference of a circle is 2 * pi * radius, or pi * diameter. In other words, the girth is about 3.14 times the measured cross section; thus, something 2" across is about 6 1/4" around. This is simple enough, but people seem to have gotten a little fuzzy on the math.
[This message has been edited by felix (edited 05-23-2000).]
Lovely Latina
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Well you're in luck guys (and gals)!
Below is a link to the most exhaustive penis size survey conducted to date. Questions concerning everything from actual penis dimensions to the possible correlation between size and other parts of the body, to "owner" satisfaction have been asked in a serious attempt to dissect penis fact from "phallic fallacy". With a combined adolescent/adult sample size in excess of 3,100 subjects, a high degree of statistical precision has been achieved.
Wonder no more!
I just found this really interesting, and there's even a section on another part of the site with over 300 illustrations of penises ranging from monster 1-inch cocks to cervix-busting 12-inchers. Ummmm...ouch?
You're welcome.
LL
http://www.connection.com/~dickie/result.html
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Lajo...you "sexless cutie", you!
WAAAAASSSSSSUUUUUUUUUUP!?!
(Sorry...didn't see the couple of threads where you said "hi" to me until tonight...didn't want ya to think I was snuffin' ya, hon.
)
WAAAAASSSSSSUUUUUUUUUUP!?!
(Sorry...didn't see the couple of threads where you said "hi" to me until tonight...didn't want ya to think I was snuffin' ya, hon.
Ok...first of all...who cares? Not to you Nikki, to the men. I mean, if you are satisfying your partner, she's satisfied. Why does that take so long to understand.
NEVER has any man asked me if he was "good enough" or "big enough" ... furthermore, I have never insulted, degraded, or immortalized (don't know if that is the word I'm looking for) any man's cock. I don't care. And I'm sure most women don't care. There is more to a man than his dick. And generally, if a man is sensitive to my needs, respects me, etc...I can look past a cock that may not be as large as the last one I was with. Ugh...It does tend to frustrate.
Get some self-esteem. Get a backbone. No one will ever be the same as you, some will be better, some will be worse.
Ok...enough.
SJ
NEVER has any man asked me if he was "good enough" or "big enough" ... furthermore, I have never insulted, degraded, or immortalized (don't know if that is the word I'm looking for) any man's cock. I don't care. And I'm sure most women don't care. There is more to a man than his dick. And generally, if a man is sensitive to my needs, respects me, etc...I can look past a cock that may not be as large as the last one I was with. Ugh...It does tend to frustrate.
Get some self-esteem. Get a backbone. No one will ever be the same as you, some will be better, some will be worse.
Ok...enough.
SJ
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Im bi.... doesn't my opinion count for anything felix? 5 inches when I'm drunk... less when I'm not
There are two difficulties with that otherwise-sensible approach. The first is that these issues arise at puberty (if not sooner) -- long before men have entered committed relationships. By the time men get to you, whatever fears they have will be well established.
The second is that men are far less likely than women to define themselves in terms their relationships. In this context, that means that a guy who splits his extra-narrow girlfriend in half can still think he's too small. I didn't say it was rational, only entirely possible.
YOU may not care about penis size, but my point was that WE ALL, male and female alike, reinforce these concerns, if only unwittingly. Regardless, if you only get shot by every hundredth/thousandth/millionth person you meet, you still get wounded.
Let me give you a small tip on male psychology: men are unlikely to ask people directly about their deepest fears and insecurities. Just because people have not asked you about it outright doesn't mean that they did not have concerns, and your not having said something explicitly doesn't mean that they didn't think they got SOME sort of feedback from you.
Sammyjo, I believe you when you say you don't care about the size of a man's penis. I really do think that you are frustrated with the fact that that men carry on so about it.
That's why when you say, "I can look past a cock that may not be as large as the last one I was with," you make my point with an eloquence and credibility that I could never have. Think about it.
You know, this is very sound advice, and I hope that at some point or another everyone takes it to heart. We would all live in a better world it we did.
I have to have to tell you, though, that if I were to say that to the next woman who worried if her chest were too flat/butt too big/arms too flabby/ankles too thick/nose too crooked/waist too thick/sex drive too low, you would probably be as shocked and angry as she. It is still excellent advice, and would probably do her a world of good, but somehow I don't think it would be viewed as constructive.
Is it really any different in this context?
Sammyjo, I am not trying to bait or criticize. I think that we all agree that being insecure about something such as this is unnecessary and even pernicious. My point has been that this IS a fear men can have, and that their anxious minds can find ample reinforcement from even well-meaning people. Fears may be foolish, but they are no less real for it.
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Am I missing something here? I took the original question on this thread as regarding preference in size, nothing more, nothing less. It didn't read "how important is size to you in a relationship?" I'm not a shallow person and I don't prioritize my relationships based on how well hung a man is. But the way this thread has gone, my original comment on size seems to be out of place. Just wondered if I missed the boat on this one??
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Yes and no. You missed the intent of the original question, but your first reply was appropriate anyway.
The question was about men's perception of what size women preferred rather than what size women actually prefer. However, like almost every other topic here, it has mutated as people respond to responses.
Actually this has reminded me that I've got a story planned about a woman searching for 'The Perfect Fit'. Latina, (the author, not Lovely Latina the soon to be author,) makes a big point in all of her stories about how well her husband Frank fits her and how she was never truly satisified until she met him.
I think that somewhere there is the perfect cock for every pussy and vice versa. Those who find that perfect fit combined with a perfect soulmate are truly blessed. The rest of us have to make do with just finding someone compatible.
Chef.....
I have never been drunk....(have thought of trying though) is that really what happens to a GUY when he is though??
WH: I try not to look at the pics in the members area (no offense to anyone) what with all the %s of people that lie on the internet and all.
Therefore I just try not to judge at all and if I DO perchance, at least I can know it is "character" that I am judging to some degree.
~Jade
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Felix, I would have emailed you, but there was no address. I just wanted to compliment you on the thoughtful nature of your posts. Your clarity is refreshing.
This particular "problem" (penis size) is probably never going to disappear. I think that Felix is correct. It all boils down to the man's personal, inner feelings about size and how he measures up.
For example, I think my breasts are adequate. My husband has certainly never complained. However, if I was in line and God asked me what kind of tits would I'd like, I'd probably opt for a pair that was just a tad larger. Intellectually, I know that larger breasts don't necessarily make me a more attractive person, just as a man knows a big cock doesn't mean he is better in bed. But in my mind there is that little niggling doubt, that mythological suspicion that life would be "better" in some way if my body were different.
There is no way to remedy this. It's human nature. Some lucky people out there are completely satisfied with their bodies, but I think most of us harbor a wish that something about them were different.
This particular "problem" (penis size) is probably never going to disappear. I think that Felix is correct. It all boils down to the man's personal, inner feelings about size and how he measures up.
For example, I think my breasts are adequate. My husband has certainly never complained. However, if I was in line and God asked me what kind of tits would I'd like, I'd probably opt for a pair that was just a tad larger. Intellectually, I know that larger breasts don't necessarily make me a more attractive person, just as a man knows a big cock doesn't mean he is better in bed. But in my mind there is that little niggling doubt, that mythological suspicion that life would be "better" in some way if my body were different.
There is no way to remedy this. It's human nature. Some lucky people out there are completely satisfied with their bodies, but I think most of us harbor a wish that something about them were different.
Thank you, whispersecret. I would blush, but I think I'll leave the emoticons and smilies to those better suited. I have lurked long enough to appreciate the value of your compliment.
As for the email, I apologize. I currently in the process of reworking my mail accounts, and didn't have one handy when a different thread compelled me to make a registered post. Of course, I then decided to jump in here, and next thing I know you've caught me with my figurative drawers down. I will get one rolling soon and keep you posted.
For my money, your summary is the perfect capstone to this surprisingly involved topic.
As for the email, I apologize. I currently in the process of reworking my mail accounts, and didn't have one handy when a different thread compelled me to make a registered post. Of course, I then decided to jump in here, and next thing I know you've caught me with my figurative drawers down. I will get one rolling soon and keep you posted.
For my money, your summary is the perfect capstone to this surprisingly involved topic.
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Originally posted by Nicole:
Okay guys, a theard in the How To Board got me to thinking
What I want to know is (mainly from all the sexy men on this Board) What size Cock do you "THINK" us women want?
It's just that you all seem to have this thing in your heads that we women are "ALL" looking for a man with an 8" cock.
Hey it ain't gonna happen ladies, I have been doing some reasearch (Oh what fun I have had, manipulating Family friends) and the average size is 5-6 inches. I would be happy with that, or is that Just me?
I would love some responses here. Thanks everyone
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Um absolutely nothing to me... it still gets hard, It must be a family trait though. My brother swears its a bad thing cause he gets in trouble that way. Being drunk just means I relax a little better is all...
Oh and just don't get too drunk like I did last night, my head still hurts!
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My belief always was that unless the penis was extremely small or extremely large, size didn't matter.
But that said, there are women out there looking for only really big penises. I haven't heard of any looking for really small ones, though.
But that said, there are women out there looking for only really big penises. I haven't heard of any looking for really small ones, though.
