what did you hate about your ex?

[HoHoBomb]

Lies

Liars

 

[lingersold]

#1 - The way she used sex as a weapon. Her lack of forgiveness. The way she could say passionately how much she loved me during what was essentially a booty call, then the next day assert that we were no more than friends to anyone who would listen. The way she could quench the creative fire with a single backhanded question. The cold and calculating measurement of whether I was good enough for her that I could always see going on behind her eyes when our clothes were on. The way that even to this day I find myself wondering whether I should try to go back to her. *stabs self in thigh with nearby sharp object* (On a brighter note, I do still love the way my female friends always scrunch their noses and say "...her? Her??" when I point this ex out in pictures)

#2 - The way she lost any and all inhibition (NOT just talking sexual here) when she got drunk, the moment she started drinking. The way no matter how many times she said she was sorry, she couldn't stop hitting and/or clawing at me whenever she was angry. The way she would throw her shoes at my bedroom window when I ignored her knocking and scream up at me in the middle of the night until I had to call the cops to haul her away. The complete and total lack of respect she had for herself sexually. Other than these things, she was a wonderful woman and a lot of fun. If she could have dealt with these things, I think there might have been a future there. (Only for the purposes of comparing to #1)

 

[notalwaysweak]

he was a manipulative, emotionally and physically abusive ass that made me fell as if nobody else would want me, i was always bad, and i was not worth keeping. he is the cause for my PTSD, my nightmares, and the unreasonable fears that still haunt me.

and i am pretty sure he was cheating on me.

This. In every detail. It stinks that there are more than one of this arsehole out there.

We have some amazingly strong people here on this forum who've gone through so much shit. Y'all are awesome. *hugs* and for all.

 

[Adakgirl]

damn! I just typed out a long post and leaned on some key..lost the site. I will re-type it all tomorrow. Gosh I hate it when I do that!

 

[Missgeorgi]

pure lack of passion. For anything thing....

 

[CwgrlKat]

hmm besides the fact he tried to murder our unborn child and was sleeping with the neighbor,,i try not to think of him really

 

[rosco rathbone]

I don't hate anything about her. She just wasn't a perverse freak who needed to be abused, objectified and sexually disciplined with a strong hand.

 

[ataxia.girl]

sexually disciplined

That made me giggle. Is that disciplined with sex, disciplined for having sex, or disciplined to be better at sex? Its very confusing. i vote for the first one.

Oh and i hate my ex because he didn't bring me a present. Daddy brought me ice cream last time =D

 

[daddiespet]

that she wasnt as honest with me as i was with her.

 

[RuReal]

Wow at first I thought I had something good to add with being manipulated and taken advantage of, but you all remind me why I think there is so much evil in the world. I take my hat off to you and feel for you I guess there is always hope you seem to have all made it out of some shitty relationships.

 

[Nymphomaniacal]

Most recently- I hate how passive he was. Dominance at least to an extent I need in a relationship and he just....wasnt.
I hate how he'd come home after doing nothing and fall asleep.
I hate how he wouldn't shower or brush his teeth, even if I said I wouldnt let him come near me.
I hate how he "forgot" to put the condom on...
I cant even talk about why else I hate this one. Too personal and im pretty sure hes on here.

2) I hate how he never officially called me his girlfriend, but claims to love me
I hate how he mindfucked me over and over into loving him
I hate how he wouldnt let me talk to his ex that he was still saying he loved.
I hate that when me and her became friends, and he had both of us he still cheated
I hate that I was one of 23 girls he cheated on with her
I hate that when I pulled away he threatened to kill me.
I hate that he thinks we can be friends now...

3) I hate that I was so naive to think he loved me
I hate that he so easily manipulated me into thinking I was the reason he hit me
I hate how his "play fights" turned to bruises
I hate that I dont think he ever really loved me
I hate that I promised him everything and got nothing
I hate that I couldnt help him out of his dark time, and got hell for it.
I hate that he was nearly my first everything but love that he never got my cherry.

Mmmkay. I think im done now

 

[drinkmeup83]

• I hate that he was so competitive that it was impossible to play games with him and just have fun.
• I hate that he wouldn’t speak up and stand up for himself.
• I hate that he was able to live in the same house as me for six months and act as if I didn’t even exist for most of it.
• I hate that we never laughed together until we were crying.
• I hate that he felt he couldn’t talk to me.
• I hate that he hated animals.
• I hate that he couldn’t laugh at himself.
• I hate that he was so “stuff” oriented. Its annoying having a house full of stuff that you are scared to touch like you are five years old.
• I hate that he couldn’t appreciate my independence and didn’t understand how different wanting someone around because you love them is versus having to have someone around because you need them.
• Most of all (and I would never admit this) I hate that I still miss him and still think about him as much as I do.

 

[curvacious]

---hate that he cheated on me and I was stupid enough to take him back. Hate that he killed him self and destroyed the dream we had been building. Hate that he helped make it harder to me to trust other people and to get close to them and show them my true feelings.

---hated his skinny body since his hips would dig into mine making sex painful

--hate that i wasn't cute enough/perfect enough/wasn't mom's cup of tea but that he loved sex with me

--hate that he lied to me about quiting smoking. hate that he wasn't raising his daughter (his parent's were and he claimed he was). hate that he didn't get it when i told him my sisters were raped

--hate that he didn't seem that concerned with his health when i was with him

 

[sister76]

Wow, it is too funny to read this stuff written on Lit since when I was going through a bad time people on here just shit on me (on Literotica) to no end. I guess I don't feel so bad since my ex is a relatively nice guy and our breakup wasn't the end of the world, although it seemed so at the time we were divorcing.

I am surprised no one is on this thread making fun of those posting, since that seems to be the mainstay on Lit and they did that to me when I was going through the worst episode in my life.

Personally, I am sorry to hear anyone's tragedy and have to say there is always hope and a better future.

 

[Netzach]

Wow, it is too funny to read this stuff written on Lit since when I was going through a bad time people on here just shit on me (on Literotica) to no end. I guess I don't feel so bad since my ex is a relatively nice guy and our breakup wasn't the end of the world, although it seemed so at the time we were divorcing.

I am surprised no one is on this thread making fun of those posting, since that seems to be the mainstay on Lit and they did that to me when I was going through the worst episode in my life.

Personally, I am sorry to hear anyone's tragedy and have to say there is always hope and a better future.

I'm not saying this as an us-vs. them GB sucks thing, but was it on here or the GB? The board cultures are very different. People can be really mean here too, but just in a different way and for different reasons, I just don't see a lot of you suck when there are breakups.