What do you do when it is over?

[Ebonyfire]

Re: Goddess ..

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I was wrongfully told that Artful and I had that SAME kind of BOND , he has proven to me and ALOT of others ,people who truly care about us both, by His Actions and lack of being here for me to help with the 'transition" that He indeed is NOT a man of His word,whether people here like it or not is irrelevant it is in the TRUTH the TRUTH i live with but perhaps even GREATER things await me,as I am not gonna shut myself off or out from ANY possibilities that arise ,I DESERVE BETTER than that..Artful was the best thing that ever happened to me but since it was HIS choice and NOT mine to end it ,that just proves to me that He Himself didnt think HE was the best for ME ,So i'll HURT like hell,heal and then begin my search anew..

Well, Dream, my situation I described was a RL skin-to-skin situation not LDR or online. Also, my submissive has always treated me with the utmost respect.

I think that considering the circumstances and how you have tried to manipulate Artful by humiliating him publicly you kinda tied his hands.

I personally would not lift one finger to help a boy who treating Me as callously as you have treated Artful.

Ebony

 

[Desdemona]

Well, I thought I'd just bump this up because my current relationship is over. Things just didn't work out and I needed to end it for my own well being. I have been struggling to make it right but you can not force the magic to be there if it isn't.

I gave him my best wishes for happiness. I will move on.

 

[cellis]

Des... I am sorry to hear of the demise of this relationship. I know you to be a most astute woman and I know that you have your reasons... Just know too that I am here for you...

Kisses

c

 

[Desdemona]

Cellis, thank you. I just had to face the fact that you can't force the magic to be there after it fades. It is ok and I am relieved to have it behind me.

 

[Ebonyfire]

Sorry Des

Well, I thought I'd just bump this up because my current relationship is over. Things just didn't work out and I needed to end it for my own well being. I have been struggling to make it right but you can not force the magic to be there if it isn't.

I gave him my best wishes for happiness. I will move on.

I can empathize, truly. I know your magic is out there.

Eb

 

[Desdemona]

Thanks Eb. I know you do. I will find it when the time is right.

 

[zipman]

Des,

Thanks Eb. I know you do. I will find it when the time is right.

I'm sorry that things did not work better for you. Regardsless, I'm glad you made a choice based on your needs.

I wish you the best, as always Des!

 

[Desdemona]

Thanks Zip. I appreciate the support.

 

[P. B. Walker]

Sorry to hear about your breakup Des. Hope ya feel better soon

PBW

 

[Desdemona]

Thanks PB. I actually feel ok with it. It was the right thing to do.

 

[P. B. Walker]

Thanks PB. I actually feel ok with it. It was the right thing to do.

That's cool...

Huggers,

PBW

 

[SexyChele]

Just wanted to join with others here in saying I'm sorry this wasn't the "one", but wish you well on your search.

 

[Desdemona]

Thanks Chele. I don't think I'm even gonna search for a while. I have a couple of friends who make wonderful play partners. When I'm ready, I'll look around again.

 

[Ebonyfire]

Dommes hurt too.

Sometimes a submissive abandons a Dominant too.

I had this privilege earlier this year.

Lucky for Me I had my part-time submissives who quickly jumped in and boistered my spirits.

I post on other lists, and I have heard what some other female dominants have had to say on the subject.


What I found out was that the more devastating breakups were those where the dominant was in love with the submissive.

Note, I said "in love". That dreamy romantic state that makes you crazy and breaks your heart.

To me, being in love with a sub, shifts the power exchange, how much it shifts really depends on the two people involved.

let's just say, I am very cautious now. I hold my heart out of reach.

Because you never really get over a broken heart. You just learn to live with the pain and move on.

Eb

 

[Desdemona]

Re: Dommes hurt too.

Because you never really get over a broken heart. You just learn to live with the pain and move on.

Eb

My friend, you just said a mouthful.

Personally, I think we need to plan a ritual for those of us with broken hearts to help us purge some of the pain and anger. I suggest that it involve dancing naked around a bonfire while we burn tokens of the lost relationship.

 

[Goddess Helena]

Des, wonderful idea.
I'm in. Let me know when and where. I'm bring the marshmallows.


Helena

 

[Desdemona]

Des, wonderful idea.
I'm in. Let me know when and where. I'm bring the marshmallows.


Helena

It definitely sounds like something we need to plan.

 

[TantaLiza]

Sorry Des...just as I've been told again and again...it'll happen when it's time!!! Hugs to you!!

Hey Ladies(and gentlemen, too).... Let's build a big ass fire and dance til the moon goes away!!! Maybe that will help!!!

Liza

 

[Desdemona]

Thanks Liza. I really am fine and I'm not looking at this time.




Are you coming to Charlotte in a few weeks?

 

[TantaLiza]

Are you coming to Charlotte in a few weeks?

You know I'm really hopin to but it mostly depends on financial stuff...workin hard but nothing seems to be clickin since my sis got married...everything is pilin up on me at once...I'll do my best tho...maybe I could ride up with someone?? I'll let ya know...

Liza

 

[Ebonyfire]

Re: Re: Dommes hurt too.

My friend, you just said a mouthful.

Personally, I think we need to plan a ritual for those of us with broken hearts to help us purge some of the pain and anger. I suggest that it involve dancing naked around a bonfire while we burn tokens of the lost relationship.

It works for Me, I would be there, and I will bring the hot links (instead of wieners).

Eb