what do you like about BBW?

[DarkLover]

But can anyone explain to me why I have to go online to meet any guys who are willing to admit they like BBWs? I haven't had a real date in... oh... 15 years or so. Can't get a second look IRL, but I can meet them online. Do they just not want to admit to it?

Good question, Ladylight. I can't speak for all men--and I'm not even saying this is my view--but let my offer what I think is one possible answer.

The problem is that a young, immature guy sees a gf as a status symbol. Every guy in his early 20's wants to bring his gf to the bar for his buddies to meet, and he wants his buddies to see how hot she is and make them jealous. Then they'll buy him a congratulatory drink and tell him, "You da man" because he scored such a hot girl.

On the other hand if the same guy shows up with a BBW--even if he really loves her--he knows that his buddies will be polite to her, but as soon as she leaves and his back is turned, they're all going to say among themselves, "What the hell was he smoking when he met HER?"

So in part it may be a status thing. It's a lot harder for a guy to score points with his buddies if he's dating a BBW than if he's dating a supermodel.

So maybe for you the answer is to go for older guys? Or guys who are more mature and understand that beauty really is only skin-deep?

Just a thought from a guy.

DarkLover

 

[fasteddie1]

So many of my firsts were with BBW's. Anal sex. The first time I creamed in a woman's mouth. The first time I really tongued a woman's anus.

Now, I don't really look at any other kind of woman. All my sexual fantasies feature big gals. I could kick myself for the opportunities I missed. Later, reading women's recollection of their teen years, both I and lot of those fuller figured girls I went to school with went home and masturbated instead of having the real thing...

So, take heart, full figured women...you may get a lot of negative comment, but there's a sizable fraction of us males who are thinking of you, as come spurts from our pulsing, swollen cocks.

 

[MsTexas]

So many of my firsts were with BBW's. Anal sex. The first time I creamed in a woman's mouth. The first time I really tongued a woman's anus.

Now, I don't really look at any other kind of woman. All my sexual fantasies feature big gals. I could kick myself for the opportunities I missed. Later, reading women's recollection of their teen years, both I and lot of those fuller figured girls I went to school with went home and masturbated instead of having the real thing...

So, take heart, full figured women...you may get a lot of negative comment, but there's a sizable fraction of us males who are thinking of you, as come spurts from our pulsing, swollen cocks.

Well fuck!!

I loved that description.

 

[VaGentleOne]

Everything, and I don't even care what the attraction is, but as long as I have loved women, its always been large gals that really turn me on. I think they tend to have a different outlook and the willingness to go the extra distance to make you happy. Just my own opinion, and if you look back thru the ages, the images we are all used to seeing, they are all of voluptuous ladies, so give me my BBW.

 

[CheekyLady]

But can anyone explain to me why I have to go online to meet any guys who are willing to admit they like BBWs? I haven't had a real date in... oh... 15 years or so. Can't get a second look IRL, but I can meet them online. Do they just not want to admit to it?

Excellent question. I would love to understand this phenomenon better too.

 

[VaGentleOne]

I think the face is the first thing that catches my eyes. I love a nice smooth and round face, nice and soft with curves that match. Then you catch the twinkle in the eyes, wondering what is lying underneath, the mystery

 

[BigDonGStone]

I still say that it is generally a personal preference thing. I personally like a larger woman. I'm more comfortable around them. I like the look and feel of them.

Some people like chocolate. Others vanilla. Some like roses. Others daisies. Some people like the a cheerleader/model body style. Others, like myself, want a woman with plenty of curves and soft skin.

Maybe it's DNA or a chemical/hormone thing. Whatever it is I LIKE IT!!

 

[kentm]

It's one of those things that is hard to describe why. For me it's the curves of a woman, big, small or any other size. I've went through most of the threads here on Lit(pic ones anyway) and the variety of women here is astounding. Sometimes there's a physical reaction to one of the lovely ladies that is beyond explaining,(thank you EA and BabyBlue). What is it I often wonder? How to explain why we're attracted to one woman then not the next. Any thoughts?

 

[Luces]

Here's a thought. There are BBW's and then there are obese women.

Plain old obese women just don't give a crap about themselves, so neither should I. (I'm not talking about women whose weight is beyond their control due to health issues. I'm talking about women who put on tons of weight just because they lack the discipline to take care of themselves.)

Then I've seen BBW's that I just couldn't take my eyes off of. (Saw one yesterday at my son's soccer game. I couldn't resist standing near her.) I appreciate their curviness and their pretty faces, but with a BBW it goes beyond the physical. This is just a theory, but maybe BBW's are more creative and grasp the mental aspect of sex better? The typical hot thin woman doesn't have to use her head much to get noticed. She just flashes a little skin and makes us men all hot and bothered. The BBW on the other hand has to project a certain sexual confidence that comes from within, which makes us overlook the physical and draws us into her positive perception of herself. It's an art that takes more discipline than a thin woman is required to have. That's why I appreciate a BBW.

DarkLover

Well, I guess I should start advertising myself as an obese woman then. I guess there might be a small market for that? Maybe with the men who believe that large women give the best head because "they like to eat everything". >.< Oh well.

 

[goofyazzhell]

My two and a half cents worth

Before getting married, I dated quite a few women...well, quite a few times a few. It was never a concern of mine whether they were thin or not thin. Personally, I feel that there is a certain beauty in nearly every woman so it has never really been a concern as to what their weight or dress size might be.
As I got older, I noticed that I did have a particularly stronger attraction to larger women. In all honesty, and I hate to say this because it sounds rather shallow, large breasts are a turn on to me, so that certainly was an aspect, but I also noticed that all of the women that I was friends with, the ones that I truly enjoyed being around, were larger women. There is a casual lightheartedness, an ability to laugh...I just think that in a lot of ways, heavier women are more comfortable with WHO they are as opposed to what they look like.
Many women note that confidence in a man is a major turn on, well the same holds true of women.
Ladies, don't let anyone tell you who you should be or what you should look like. The rest of the world will never fit into it's ridiculous and unrealistic images of perfection and nor should you.

 

[BigDonGStone]

Luces is a prime example of what to like in a larger woman. Check out her threads and you'll see why. I know I check them out every chance I get!! Hi CG!!

Well, I guess I should start advertising myself as an obese woman then. I guess there might be a small market for that? Maybe with the men who believe that large women give the best head because "they like to eat everything". >.< Oh well.

 

[fasteddie1]

Well, I guess I should start advertising myself as an obese woman then. I guess there might be a small market for that? Maybe with the men who believe that large women give the best head because "they like to eat everything". >.< Oh well.

They also receive the best head. They have a sweet, musky taste that I like, they also seem to make more white vaginal cream, which I like. It coats my fingers that I'm penetrating them with, as I lick and suck their pussy lips and clitoris.

 

[primal_need]

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[braincum]

Here's what I like about big women, the bigger the better

Not only does each individual lady have her own reasons and own challenges relating to their size, my experience has taught me that each individual lady has developed their own marvelous beauty in dealing with not fitting into a cookie-cutter world.

Those of us lucky enough to have this beauty shared with us also are allowed to share the bountiful passions such intelligent (usually), sensuous (always) ladies possess.

The fantastic feeling of kneading endless expanses of heaving flesh is no deterrent, BTW.

 

[human_male]

Hmm, I'm not sure. Maybe I should go out with a few and then get back to you. Know any single ones?

 

[FukenDubbin]

I would definitely have to go with the comfort and security I feel with the soft curves they have. Oh, and the boobs definitely don't hurt the cause!

 

[gypsynthepalace]

BBWs Rock

I agree with the "comfort and security of their curves" theory, but there's more than that for me. In fact, it's less about their bodies and more about how they are in intimate situations. Most BBWs have been through a lot of confidence-killing situations growing up and, consequently, many have developed a sarcastic, yet wickedly humorous way of viewing the world and themselves. They are more willing to go out on a limb for a fantasy and get wild and crazy while laughing and having a good time. I just haven't found that with skinny or waifish women. For me, it's the BBW who has learned through hard knocks to be especially comfortable in her own skin that drives me wild. The best sex is often accompanied by the loudest laughs.

 

[VaGentleOne]

Everything, but mostly their personality and honest approach to life.

 

[luguy]

Everything, but mostly their personality and honest approach to life.

I for one much prefer BBWs to skinny women. But that is just my preference. Some women like tall guys, some women like short guys. It doesn't make it right. It's a matter of what you prefer.
BBW to me have the most beautiful curves and succulent bodies. They are not afraid to have fun and enjoy life. In every fashion!
I have also found them to be far more pleasing sexually and far more appreciative of the person that they are with. My experience with skinny women has been ok, but nothing compared to BBWs. Skinny women seem to think that they are doing you a favor by letting you fuck them. The BBWs I have been with have always been very responsive and damn quick to please sexually= and it is always reciprocated.

 

[LadyLight]

The BBWs I have been with have always been very responsive and damn quick to please sexually= and it is always reciprocated.

All of you guys... I've heard this a lot. Why do you think this is? Do you think it's because we're afraid we won't ever get another man to do that? Or because we actually care? Care about our partners having fun, care about everyone having fun?

 

[benthickat]

Good question, Ladylight. I can't speak for all men--and I'm not even saying this is my view--but let my offer what I think is one possible answer.

The problem is that a young, immature guy sees a gf as a status symbol. Every guy in his early 20's wants to bring his gf to the bar for his buddies to meet, and he wants his buddies to see how hot she is and make them jealous. Then they'll buy him a congratulatory drink and tell him, "You da man" because he scored such a hot girl.

On the other hand if the same guy shows up with a BBW--even if he really loves her--he knows that his buddies will be polite to her, but as soon as she leaves and his back is turned, they're all going to say among themselves, "What the hell was he smoking when he met HER?"

So in part it may be a status thing. It's a lot harder for a guy to score points with his buddies if he's dating a BBW than if he's dating a supermodel.

So maybe for you the answer is to go for older guys? Or guys who are more mature and understand that beauty really is only skin-deep?

Just a thought from a guy.

DarkLover

I hear you Ladylight (it was 10 yrs for me for sex or a date and I'm still single) and I like DarkLovers persepctive. I think unfortunately that it's pretty true. We can go into all the societal factors, but the reality is that many people think we are something to hide versus something to flaunt. Men cave to pressure, so do the women. And so do the bbw who have been hurt so much or are so afraid that they have a hard time holding their heads high.

For what it's worth, I LOVE this site because it has boosted my ego...even if completely evil and naughty in context *wink* it helps me to remember that some people can appreciate me just as I am.

 

[human_male]

All of you guys... I've heard this a lot. Why do you think this is? Do you think it's because we're afraid we won't ever get another man to do that? Or because we actually care? Care about our partners having fun, care about everyone having fun?

I always assumed it was probably a bit of a myth. Along the same lines that big girls are easier, or more friendly, or more kinky or whatever. It probably comes from a male assumption that big girls are desperate. Which is probably crap. I know the big women here don't make it any easier than any other women. I've only met a couple but. They were both keen online but didn't seem interested after they'd met me. And another one that I didn't meet because she was too busy shagging anyone BUT me.

It might be just me though, who knows.

You unattached big girls should all come to New Zealand, you'd find it a whole new experience. The "man drought" is a myth, I assure you.

 

[benthickat]

one word, for me anyways, curves

hmmm, not all BBWs have the "appropriate" curves so yet again we get dinged (not slamming you KentM).
I don't have the big t & a that most guys who say they want a BBW or Curves really want if they were honest and yet I'm too "thick" otherwise.
What a freaking quandry. It's nice to know that some other girls out there have the same issue.

Viva la vulva! Whatever the packaging...after all boys, we aren't always quite honest either.

 

[luguy]

All of you guys... I've heard this a lot. Why do you think this is? Do you think it's because we're afraid we won't ever get another man to do that? Or because we actually care? Care about our partners having fun, care about everyone having fun?

It's hard to say why they feel that way. Ask them! They might tell you.
But to give you an opinion, I don't think it has anything to do with the fact that they think this is the last time any guy will be attracted to them. I think they are more comfortable with their sexuality.