i've realized, from reading comments in different threads, from various submissives on this site, that most of my experience to date has been with 'surface' D/s. Submission or Dominance of the body only. More 'play-acting' than true lifestyle D/s. There's a lot more for me to discover here, i think.
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Right now, I'm just being a dirty little bitch, and enjoying it thoroughly.
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Just tryin' to be a good girl *bats lashes*
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I was going to comment on that before I saw your post. lol
Well, I'm overly extreme.
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I'm learning right now lol.
It's like taking the training wheels off the bike. I do ok for a little bit then I fall off and mess up! Then the cycle starts again lol.
It's like taking the training wheels off the bike. I do ok for a little bit then I fall off and mess up! Then the cycle starts again lol.
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A sub that I know felt the same way. Well, let me back up.
A woman that I know felt the same way, she had never been able to submit to anyone because she was in the top 0.5% in terms of intelligence test scores, had been offered essentially unlimited scholarships, and so on... she considered brains to be HAWT, and couldn't imagine any long term relationship with anyone who wasn't in her intellectual ballpark, let alone submit to them. So, since less than 0.5% of doms would qualify, she remained vanilla.
Eventually she did find such a person, became very much intellectually submissive, and lived happily ever after. So such things DO exist, but you're not going to run into them all the time.
How do i put this?....It's not that i have an 'intellectual ballpark' that i put myself in and i've found good F/friends of all intellectual 'levels'. What i am looking for is Someone who can challenge my mind, stretch it beyond the everyday mundane, take me places where i could not take myself. Does that make any more sense?
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Thank you, CutieMouse. i look forward to reading those threads.
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Yes. Some people want that, others are happy at a more visceral level.
I didn't mean to suggest that there's any particular way that happens, or that any particular example is to be followed. Just wanted to say that what you're talking about definitely does exist in relationships... some have a mentoring side that can be interesting, a bit like a student-prof dynamic. And I've met a lot of subs that lusted after at least one of their past teachers. Coincidence? I doubt it.
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Pygmalion fetish.
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It is an understandable thing in many ways. Much of BDSM fanfic is caught up in the idea of molding the submissive to meet the needs of the dominant. The whole concept aligns well with the Pygmalion ideal.
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You could have danced all night?
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*Sigh* Yep.
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Consider me the kinky June Cleaver- the dirty Donna Reed. I am a Service-Oriented Submissive with a Dominant flair. I believe in delagation of authority and control with deep indulgence of kinks and fetishes.
Hogosha takes control of things in my life I shouldn't have to or can't handle, and I do the same for him. The things I can't offer him, such as taking his pain, he takes from our masochist, poppet. Our sex life is just as D/s; indulging in our needs for control and submission in bed. From time to time we allow for my Sadist to surface, but that gap in my life has largely been filled by our new sissy maid, Kaye.
Right then. I really don't know what flavour that is, but I do love it so. I am not really fond of labels... all I know is its me and I do it well.
Hogosha takes control of things in my life I shouldn't have to or can't handle, and I do the same for him. The things I can't offer him, such as taking his pain, he takes from our masochist, poppet. Our sex life is just as D/s; indulging in our needs for control and submission in bed. From time to time we allow for my Sadist to surface, but that gap in my life has largely been filled by our new sissy maid, Kaye.
Right then. I really don't know what flavour that is, but I do love it so. I am not really fond of labels... all I know is its me and I do it well.
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My flavor is Story of O - but with a shaved pussy...
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