What is your D/s relationship?

[susieslave]

I also want to add that I am not looking for anything more than for him to be my boyfriend and see him on weekends. I am not looking for marrige or to move in at this time. Do you think I'm asking for too much?

 

[Shadowsdream]

I need help on this issue. 6 months ago I started to see someone and he introduced me to light bdsm. He was my mastyer and I his slave. As time went on we experimented together and tried new things. It started out as a casual sexual relationship and that was fine at the time. In the last 2 months we started seeing more of each other and some things he said and did made me think things were progressing in the relationship. I started to fall in love with him. Last weekend I question him on where we were at and he said we had a sexual platonic friendship. He said he considered me a friend and nothing more. I have given alot of myself to him and he has said I'm the best he has ever had (I am very oral). I am very loving, giving, faithful, never bitchy, and he has told me I am pretty and of course great sexually. So I asked him what was the problem. He said something was missing. He said if he had started seeing me before his last girlfriend (he was totally in love with her, but she had issues and cheated on him then left him for a much younger guy) things would have been different between us. So last Saturday I told him I could not be in a one way relationship again ( I just got out of a 5 yr one way thing). I kissed him and walked out. Did I do the right thing? Should there be more than just friendship between master and slave? I'm afraid I won't find anyone who will be able to satisfy me sexually. I've read some of the responses and see that alot of master/slave relationships are either married or engaged. Please respond soon I need advice!
Susie Slave

I cannot answer the question of right or wrong for this type of situation.
I would say that incredible BDSM relationships can develope naturally into friendship/devotion/love and certainly other directions.
If I were to err and make a call I would say you did the right thing for both of you.
It is absolutely not a requirement for more than friendship and respect to have a very hot and fullfilling BDSM relationship.
I am pleased that you ended the relationship with class.

 

[sigsauerprinces]

first and foremost, love. i love him and he loves me. that comes before anything else, including any D/s. he is not my Dom and then my lover, he's my lover and then my Dom. but yes, he's also the Dom and im the sub.

 

[submissiveknight]

Princess And I are diffently in a 24/7 D/s relationship. Our marriage, love, and family, is guided by our D/s. Meaning that We have blended Our relationship completly into Our marriage. Our children know that daddy waits on Mommy hand and foot and enjoys it. Friends wish that they could maintain Our love in their ralationships, I'm referred to as "the lucky one" around town. Sometimes it's so obvious that I am Her submissive and people are so naive about our lifestyle that it amazes me lol.

 

[Ebonyfire]

My World

I did not vote, because I fine the categories not to my taste. I consider the relationship with slave a Dominant/Submissive one. However he is my collared slave 24/7. Since there is controversy about what all of that means, suffice it to say slave is owned by me 24/7. But he is not micro-managed. He has total autonomy in the areas of his life that we believe are important: family, friends, finances, career, and religion.

He is My slave partner and I am his Dominant partner. Slavery to me is a deeper form of submission. How it is interpreted wholly depends on the two people involved. And since I do not intend to debate anyone on my interpretion, I will keep it to myself.

Eb

 

[Ebonyfire]

This was supposed to be a reply to the what is your D/s relationship, but I hit the wrong buttons. Perhaps the Mods will be so kind as to move it where it belongs.

Just goes to show one cup of coffee is never enough

 

[driadnymph]

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[WolfShadow73]

D/s....24/7

In my interactions with anyone else in my world I am a very dominant person...but...where He is concerned....in and out of the bedroom, whether I am in His presence or not, He is my Lord and Master and I love Him for it.

 

[shy slave]

I did not vote, because I fine the categories not to my taste. I consider the relationship with slave a Dominant/Submissive one. However he is my collared slave 24/7. Since there is controversy about what all of that means, suffice it to say slave is owned by me 24/7. But he is not micro-managed. He has total autonomy in the areas of his life that we believe are important: family, friends, finances, career, and religion.

He is My slave partner and I am his Dominant partner. Slavery to me is a deeper form of submission. How it is interpreted wholly depends on the two people involved. And since I do not intend to debate anyone on my interpretion, I will keep it to myself.

Eb

This, to me, is the essence of all partnerships.

If the Doms still had a calender this should be up there in lights

At the very least it should be on a sticky at the top of the boards for all newbies to see, read and if necessary write an essay on before posting utter nonsense regarding 'what is right' in a relationship.

Thanks Eb

 

[Ebonyfire]

This, to me, is the essence of all partnerships.

If the Doms still had a calender this should be up there in lights

At the very least it should be on a sticky at the top of the boards for all newbies to see, read and if necessary write an essay on before posting utter nonsense regarding 'what is right' in a relationship.

Thanks Eb

Welcome. I just cut to the chase because there are nuances that no one understands but the two of us.