policywank
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Yes. And in my opinion a "good" Dom or Top is very dialled into what there partner wants. There is a degree of self indulgence and perhaps sadism, but it needs to fit into what works overall for both parties. I will take the lead and I will take it in a direction that appeals to me, but only if I know it appeals to my partner too. We are indulging a non-traditional type of stimulation, not hurting one another even if the casual observer doesn't quite get that.Oh for sure. As the recipient of this play I want my partner to enjoy themselves as well, so a bit of sadism works wonders.
What I think some people don’t realize (but you clearly do) is that like most fetishes, there’s a lot of ways to do it. And one size (see what I did thee) doesn’t fit all.