When did you know you were submissive?

[IrisAlthea]

What's that saying? "If you can't say something nice..."

It's "If you can't say something nice, stay away from the playground".

 

[Helen1954]

Knowing or admitting? That was the question for me. I suppose reading some lovely bodice rippers when I was a teen and really enjoying the scenes where the heroine was tied up might have been a clue. Or perhaps a good harem scene. Ah, the joys of a good Rebecca Brandewyne novel... . I think I just got older and more accepting of others and myself. So now, in my late 40's, I admit I have sub tendencies. I enjoy giving up control in trusting situations. I have to feel safe though. I also like "pleasing" in sexual situations. It get's me off. However, I am a work in progress. Occasionally, with certain people, I can be dominant. But you know what? It's all good. There is a whole spectrum out there. Be safe and enjoy.

Bodice rippers...oh my!

I found one of my mother's when I was...well, I understand I'm not supposed to say when it was. But I was rather impressionable. And bodice rippers were somewhat more substantial than they are today.

I opened it to a scene where the heroine was strung up in a pirate captain's cabin being lashed on her bare breasts for her refusal to orally pleasure him. I was barely able to catch my breath as I read it.

I rushed to my room, took off my top and posed in front of the mirror, imagining myself as her. My life has NEVER been the same.

 

[liv2srv]

Bodice rippers...oh my!

I found one of my mother's when I was...well, I understand I'm not supposed to say when it was. But I was rather impressionable. And bodice rippers were somewhat more substantial than they are today.

I opened it to a scene where the heroine was strung up in a pirate captain's cabin being lashed on her bare breasts for her refusal to orally pleasure him. I was barely able to catch my breath as I read it.

I rushed to my room, took off my top and posed in front of the mirror, imagining myself as her. My life has NEVER been the same.

Haha. "Bodice Rippers" definitely a term I wasn't familiar with prior to this thread, but I love it! That scene sounds great, I would have loved to come across something like that, I have no idea what it would have done to me!

 

[newsubandtop]

First of all, my apologies if someone felt my comment offensive or inappropriate.
I thought it was somehow an important detail. Let me clarify that it wasn´t a sexual incident. It was me sensing an overpowering situation as sexually arousing. Of course, there were many years to come before I came accross a porn image and a lot more for me to become sexually active.

Plus, if someone asks about when people had their first moments of self- awareness, sexual or non-sexual, to answer it for most of us it means that we will have to trace back to a pretty young age, when we were exploring and discovering the world around us.

Thing is that for me taste in sex is pretty much like being gay or straight, you are wired that way and there is little you can do to change it. You will probably be at first drawn to have conventional sex but sooner or later you'll realise that's not your thing.

As for sexual exposure, I can assure you that is not the case. Of course, the human brain is a puzzle but, as far as I’m aware, I didn’t re-interpret the feelings this episode awoke on me. I think that it marked me and the way I perceive sex and so I have explained.

 

[liv2srv]

First of all, my apologies if someone felt my comment offensive or inappropriate.
I thought it was somehow an important detail. Let me clarify that it wasn´t a sexual incident. It was me sensing an overpowering situation as sexually arousing. Of course, there were many years to come before I came accross a porn image and a lot more for me to become sexually active.

Plus, if someone asks about when people had their first moments of self- awareness, sexual or non-sexual, to answer it for most of us it means that we will have to trace back to a pretty young age, when we were exploring and discovering the world around us.

Thing is that for me taste in sex is pretty much like being gay or straight, you are wired that way and there is little you can do to change it. You will probably be at first drawn to have conventional sex but sooner or later you'll realise that's not your thing.

As for sexual exposure, I can assure you that is not the case. Of course, the human brain is a puzzle but, as far as I’m aware, I didn’t re-interpret the feelings this episode awoke on me. I think that it marked me and the way I perceive sex and so I have explained.

I wasn't the least bit offended by what you wrote. And I think cutiemouse is making some giant generalizations in his/her answer without knowing the first thing about you.

Thanks for sharing.

 

[CutieMouse]

I wasn't the least bit offended by what you wrote. And I think cutiemouse is making some giant generalizations in his/her answer without knowing the first thing about you.

Thanks for sharing.

Actually, CutieMouse made a general statement, based upon commonly accepted concerns by mental health professionals. Precocious sexual awareness, is often a sign of sexual abuse. Chatting publicly about precocious sexual awareness, could (by some standards) be viewed as child porn; therefore, it could be a violation of TOS.

I have no idea if anyone in the thread has or has not been molested as a child. I do know that it's uncommon for a young child to understand arousal on an adult level, and whenever the subject comes up, (personally) question through what "lens" history is being viewed.

 

[CutieMouse]

First of all, my apologies if someone felt my comment offensive or inappropriate.
I thought it was somehow an important detail. Let me clarify that it wasn´t a sexual incident. It was me sensing an overpowering situation as sexually arousing. Of course, there were many years to come before I came accross a porn image and a lot more for me to become sexually active.

Plus, if someone asks about when people had their first moments of self- awareness, sexual or non-sexual, to answer it for most of us it means that we will have to trace back to a pretty young age, when we were exploring and discovering the world around us.

Thing is that for me taste in sex is pretty much like being gay or straight, you are wired that way and there is little you can do to change it. You will probably be at first drawn to have conventional sex but sooner or later you'll realise that's not your thing.

As for sexual exposure, I can assure you that is not the case. Of course, the human brain is a puzzle but, as far as I’m aware, I didn’t re-interpret the feelings this episode awoke on me. I think that it marked me and the way I perceive sex and so I have explained.

It is a violation of TOS to bring up <18 sex.

Do most people experience sex prior to 18? Yes.
Can you discuss it publicly at Lit? No.

Just about everyone has an experience at some point that gives them that tingly feeling (that as adults we recognize as arousal). I'm simply arguing that your average person at X age probably understands something feels good/clicks in their brain as a happy feeling, than 'omg that is so arousing.'

 

[Etoile]

This thread is on a very, very, very fine line.

The rule is specifically pertaining to sexually explicit stories. newsubandtop's post was not explicit; indeed, there was no sexual activity described. That's why I haven't removed the thread already.

But this thread has the potential to cross the line very quickly. Not inherently so - all discussion could be restricted to 18+ - but it's almost at the tipping point.

 

[liv2srv]

This thread is on a very, very, very fine line.

The rule is specifically pertaining to sexually explicit stories. newsubandtop's post was not explicit; indeed, there was no sexual activity described. That's why I haven't removed the thread already.

But this thread has the potential to cross the line very quickly. Not inherently so - all discussion could be restricted to 18+ - but it's almost at the tipping point.

Just delete the damn thread already. As the OP, I STRONGLY ENCOURAGE you to do so. It would be far less of a bother than listening to all this.

 

[newsubandtop]

Etoile, I insist, I did not share any kind of sexual behaviour or experience here.

I simply pointed out a moment of awareness, a memory that stands out, so Cutie’s comment is off-topic here. Of course I couldn’t put a name on it or grasp an understanding of the sensation, but reasoning and feeling are two separate things.

Although this is not the reason why this thread was created in the first place, allow me to give an insight on the subject Cutie’s brought up. Stating that children who manifest some kind of sexuality are likely to have become victims of abuse is, in my opinion, generalising. Cutie’s opinion is biased by taboos and based on popular beliefs. Children are curious about everything, including their bodies, and everyone who has a kid and lives in a household were sexuality is properly addressed knows this.

Now, I would also like to say that too much concern is never enough regarding a child’s wellbeing. It is probably an indicator when the child displays excessive knowledge or language , which, by the way, I didn't. I had caring parents and siblings who would have immediately freaked out and run to the hospital at such signs.


Liv2srv, I’m afraid that the purpose of your thread has been diverted. I am sorry, I didn’t mean to cause any distress.

 

[TheBearsDoe]

I've really only ever been submissive in one relationship (I've only been with 1 person I could trust with my life, for me that's necessary evidently). We never did anything super hardcore, the relationship had to end before we could get that far, but:

I think for me it was fantasizing about him completely over taking me. Or when he would accidentally leave bruises (I tend to bruise easily) and I would love it. I loved the idea of being marked by him, or that he could overpower me at any moment. Also he tied me up at one point and I nearly lost my mind I liked it so well.

I think if I were ever in another relationship where I had the same amount of trust that I did with him, I'd definitely delve further. Not everything we did was mentioned here but those were some of the first affirmations I guess you could say.

Also I looooved calling him Master, and it suited us.