When to tell someone you're a virgin?

[Godsangel2010]

I have read most of these responses, to be honest, there isn't really a good time to mention it. I stated in my profile I still was and the guy I'm dating is okay with that. He is a great guy. The only thing I can say is that you should be able to talk about him or her about it without discomfort. I know this sounds weird but just my opinion if you cant then your not quite ready.

 

[Cumference]

A technicality regarding cucumbers.

If in the US, what is called "cucumbers" should be approached with care. Those things are huge.

Those sold as "English cucumbers" are longer and slimmer.

 

[bisouthernbelle]

I love your thoughts! So beautiful!

 

[Justfantasies]

I one had girlfriend who was saving herself and I didn't try to force he.

She hen went on vacation with one of her girl friends and had casual sex with three different guys in a three week period.

 

[jehoram]

I one had girlfriend who was saving herself and I didn't try to force he.

She hen went on vacation with one of her girl friends and had casual sex with three different guys in a three week period.

Must be Old Thread Week agian...

Were you unhappy that she chose to have her first time (and her second and third) with somebody who was not you? Did you feel that she somehow owed it to you? Or could it be that she actually thought for herself, on that vacation, that this was the time, and wanted to get it out of the way so she could approach you as a more experienced lover, more comfortable with the sex act so she could make it better for you?

I'm not a fan of people preserving their virginity at all costs. I've had better luck with women who knew what the score was. The most pertinent quote that comes to mind is "I never lost my virginity. I know exactly where I left it."

 

[tinytina9]

I'm still enjoying being a virgin and being in control - I'm not afraid to say so either

 

[Athalia]

Must be Old Thread Week agian...

The most pertinent quote that comes to mind is "I never lost my virginity. I know exactly where I left it."

Did you hear that from me? It's one of my favorite quotes.

 

[tnhardon]

When is the right time to tell someone you're seeing that you're still a virgin? Is it something you should be upfront about on the first date? Second date? Only when things start getting hot and heavy?

I was a virgin when I met all my girlfriends (ended up sleeping with the last one, who is now my wife). To me, it just depends on when you are comfortable discussing it. At some point, you should bring up intimacy and what you are looking for in the relationship. If you are still a virgin and want to remain one it is important for you to express that to him. If you want to take things slow and have certain boundaries, let him know.

As a guy, I’ve dated women that wanted to go slower than I did. It makes it harder to do that if you wait to put up stop signs once things are starting to get hot and heavy. Easier for the guy to handle and plan accordingly when his hormones haven’t gotten wild yet. Plus, it avoids having him feel like he crossed a boundary, which can make him feel bad.

You don’t have to just blurt out “I’m a virgin”. Find a way to work it into a deeper conversation about your views and expectations for intimacy and physicality in the relationship.