When you have sex or in a bdsm situation

[Netzach]

Can;t say as how I've been with anyone that had hygiene issues. I have been in situation where a person's natural scent did not agree with me. It wasn't and unclean smell, it was just the wrong sort of smell for me.

That said, the good sweat thing a plus. When there is someone whose smell agrees with me, fresh sweat from physical acitivity just intensifies that smell.

Oddly, while I don't particularly have a sensitive nose, scent is extremely important to me.

Yes - there are people I *should* have been attracted to, and they didn't smell bad, but their personal scent was just....eh. It's a weird dealbreaker, but it's one I can't get past.

I don't mind smelling person on a person, but it's got to be a match.

 

[Netzach]

omg what are we talking about here, straight in from gardening, running etc or jarlsburg storage in the navel.

Actually, I don't want to know........

Oh dear. What an unfortunate turn of phrase, I shall be sick now.

After I'm done laughing.

 

[Homburg]

Yes - there are people I *should* have been attracted to, and they didn't smell bad, but their personal scent was just....eh. It's a weird dealbreaker, but it's one I can't get past.

I don't mind smelling person on a person, but it's got to be a match.

Exactly. It's like everything is going well, then you get in to scent range and it all just sort of fades. It makes me realise just how close to animal I am.

Oh, and I always feel badly about it afterwards too. It's like the person did everything they could, and something they can't control, and no one else would notice, just 86'ed their chances.

 

[unfoundiamond]

** coughs*
~ What I percieve this thread to mean goes thusly:
He wants to know if whipping his subbie for being stinky is bad or good.
And this is where his vague definition of "stink" is throwing us all.
So here is how you "cut through the fog" of personal hygine issues.

Simply do what I would do. "WWTD?" (What Would Twysted Do?) Much like what would jesus do but I can only turn wine into urine so that knocks out that level of comperable talent.
But I digress.

When you are in scene, safe words asside, you're running the show my friend. So lay down a new law & kill two birds with one stone here.
She wishes to meet and (if possible) exceed your expectations thus earning her your praise and something delightful from your reward system.
So you set a bar for her and this will side step any embarrassment or self-consciousness issues that would normally arise when one person who is deeply effected by the other's words (due to such a close bond as this) is told that they don't smell good.

*** that kind of mental scar can be a part of MANY an argument for YEARS to come so let's avoid that particular land mine shall we? I think "do these jeans make me look fat" is enough for any relationship thank you.***

The Introduction!:
Tell her, "kitten, (yes, this is what I would name my submissive) we have something new for you to do when we are in scene." (hand her the list you completed prior to this conversation)
"This is a list, step by step, of what I expect of you in preperation before every scene. On it you will find detailed instructions as to what I will look for on a basic level. It is subject to alteration at a later time but for now this is all I ask of you. Once completed, return to me and I will then inspect you to ensure you followed my directions properly."

See, since you went and did all that homework by watching dog and equine breeding shows you know just how to lift, poke, prod and otherwise inspect you little submissive. And if she didn't scrub as well as you'd hoped, she gets a "point deduction" which will be used later in the form of orgasm control, situational bondage, denial of penis, the list goes on.

Now....if she has shaved, scrubbed and such and her natural scent STILL turns you off then that's nothing she can help. Oh I'm sure you can have her use scented sanitary towelettes back there or perhaps scented enemas, etc. But man, if a woman's natural scent, pheramones and sweat doesn't turn you on....well, I won't judge. I'll just say you can change the smell of those areas if needed.
Or as Fury suggested, a diet change (red meat and candies/junk food really mess with your natural scent) might be in order.
And it would all be done under the banner of you caring for her, etc.

Just realize that there MUSt be a point where you are satisfied with her efforts. She must be shown there IS an attainable level there. A carrot on a stick will get your ass only so far.
(see the double meaning there?)

Best of luck to you.

Oh, and if I were you? The rounded end of a flogger handle OR (my personal favorite) a riding crop (for lifting, manipulating a possition or stance) does quite well to add to the inspection.

Slante`

Good one... But Id say that a no go for me, if he smells bad, like bad... not strong or how do you say... like a human being... like skin is fine... phermones are okay....

but a bad smell to me is a sign of something... a sign that either they dont care for themselves of they dont care for me...

and I think I told you about the red meat, didnt I Twyst...?

I love having a sweet pussy tho.... its something thats shows I take good care of myself, I may not be the skinnyest girl... or the richest girl,
but I have a sweet ass pussy.... it sets me apart from the masses...

and I am proud... and I have been with enough girls to know... both what a good one was and how important it is for a girl to take care of it...

So suck it....

 

[twysted73]

Good one... But Id say that a no go for me, if he smells bad, like bad... not strong or how do you say... like a human being... like skin is fine... phermones are okay....

but a bad smell to me is a sign of something... a sign that either they dont care for themselves of they dont care for me...

and I think I told you about the red meat, didnt I Twyst...?

I love having a sweet pussy tho.... its something thats shows I take good care of myself, I may not be the skinnyest girl... or the richest girl,
but I have a sweet ass pussy.... it sets me apart from the masses...

and I am proud... and I have been with enough girls to know... both what a good one was and how important it is for a girl to take care of it...

So suck it....

Thye red meat WAS a bit of a tip off that I NEVER would have thought about so I do thank you much for it.
Makes complete sense if you think about it.

So suck it....

Wow, coming out of the gate swinging!! *rrowwrr*
Glad to have you back. :grins:

 

[FurryFury]

Can;t say as how I've been with anyone that had hygiene issues. I have been in situation where a person's natural scent did not agree with me. It wasn't and unclean smell, it was just the wrong sort of smell for me.

That said, the good sweat thing a plus. When there is someone whose smell agrees with me, fresh sweat from physical acitivity just intensifies that smell.

Oddly, while I don't particularly have a sensitive nose, scent is extremely important to me.

This post I can totally relate to. I do have a sensitive nose and scent can be important to me.

 

[twysted73]

Scent, taste, flavor (yes, they are different), sweat,....just as Hom & Netz had mentioned, it's more about one's own chemistry matching their own.
Completely out of your hands in some cases.

For instance...body wash. Not every smell will help you. Some might mix and mingle perfectly, thus complimenting (enhancing?) your natural scent. (Old Spice After Hours and my current, Irish Spring with Aloe)
While others might counter and reek of truck stop restroom calogne. (Suave makes me smell like a REALLY cheap whore)
*doesn't even stop to consider the implications there...just keeps moving*
I'm very much animalistic when it comes to my partner.
Even on a day to day basis.

I smell to connect, re-orient and ground myself after a day of not being next to her or having her close by me. I kiss her to remind myself of it's taste.
It pleases me very much to do these simple techniques.
I revel in the animalistic natures shared between two very close people.
I have no shame or consideration when I want to smell or taste something on her. It's impulsivwe and very immediate. When I want it, I want it right then and there.

I don't have time for "Oh, I haven't showered this morning." or "Ooh...I didn't brush yet."
If she'd believe me I'd tell her I didn't care. It's not about her at that point.
It's about me satisfying myself by availing myself of what her body is offering that I want at that moment.
Nudging my nose behind her ear, leaning in to kiss or lick her bottom lip or chin...pulling her jeans down to her mid-thigh, using them to bind her legs and lifting her knees to her chest so I can dip in and simply smell her pussy....perhaps pausing to lick to my satisfaction...

Either way, I wish you the best.

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

Oh dear. What an unfortunate turn of phrase, I shall be sick now.

After I'm done laughing.

: chuckles : I'm sooooooo gifted.

 

[FurryFury]

I actually dislike most cologne and perfumes. They make me sick and have ever since I was pregnant with my second child. It sucks cause I used to enjoy subtle uses of perfumes and such.

*le sigh*

Sometimes I smell these folks that walk around in a 10 foot radius cloud of scent and I just want to take them to a car wash, run them through and issue them a ticket for scent pollution.

Now these people I often think probably don't bathe enough or use deodorant and instead try to kill our ability to smell anything at all. That or put us in a coma from sense overload.

 

[ttvttp]

Ok this might disgust people but what do you do about if you fart while having sex?

 

[Homburg]

Ok this might disgust people but what do you do about if you fart while having sex?

Laugh. C'mon, it's a fart. Unless it's one of those Green Mist of Doom farts it's usually just a gaffe that can be gotten past.

Then again, I'm just not that serious...

 

[YourCaptor]

Ok this might disgust people but what do you do about if you fart while having sex?

Is that what this was all about, ha ha!!

I’m thinking, HU-MILI-ATION!!!

Ahh but I would be careful with that. Anyway, it happens, you could try a but plug.

Oh, but if its you, I don't know, yoga before maybe.

 

[ttvttp]

Yeah its me if a girl im having sex with does it, I dont mind im one of the most open minded people there is and nothing really disgusts me.

 

[ttvttp]

Before you have sex if its planned do you usually shower before?

 

[Netzach]

Ok this might disgust people but what do you do about if you fart while having sex?

Some people go pay money for that. *shrugs*

 

[EmpressFi]

Ok this might disgust people but what do you do about if you fart while having sex?

Blush..giggle.. laugh.. continue..

 

[satindesire]

Ok this might disgust people but what do you do about if you fart while having sex?

Pretend it was a queef and laugh.

 

[Homburg]

Pretend it was a queef and laugh.

LOL! Good answer!!

 

[madetotakeit]

I'm out of the habit of wearing perfumes after a long relationship where I was told he preferred my scent to perfumes. Reading Twyst's post I understand why he said that.

For me, I like when men have the addition of wearing a commercial scent in the beginning-that getting to know you phase. If I catch a whiff of it, it triggers memories. However, I want it to be light enough that I can still smell his natural scent when close. The release of pheromones shouldn't be obstructed. Plus, the combination makes it uniquely his. Someone else can wear the same cologne, use the same products, but it won't be exactly the same. The oils from colognes interfere with taste too. Application has to be somewhere I'm not likely to bite or lick.

As for basic hygiene...that's a must. There is something so sexy about a man fresh out of the shower...water running over his skin...towel around his waist...
*time to change thoughts...already frustrated enough *

 

[DeservingBitch]

Pretend it was a queef and laugh.

Again, my street (or porn) english is failing me. What's a queef?

 

[satindesire]

Again, my street (or porn) english is failing me. What's a queef?

Sometimes, when a man is pretty well endowed, and while sex if he's thrusting vigorously, a small amount of air can get 'pushed' up into the vaginal cavity. After a few moments it's expelled with a contraction making a 'farting' sound. It's also sometimes called a 'pussy fart' or a 'vart'. But the most common name is 'queef'.

 

[Homburg]

Sometimes, when a man is pretty well endowed, and while sex if he's thrusting vigorously, a small amount of air can get 'pushed' up into the vaginal cavity. After a few moments it's expelled with a contraction making a 'farting' sound. It's also sometimes called a 'pussy fart' or a 'vart'. But the most common name is 'queef'.

I knew a girl years ago that could do that whenever she wanted. Somehow her muscular control was so good that she could make it queef whenever. She'd sit down a certain way, concentrate for a second or two, and it would happen. Great abdominal control.

 

[satindesire]

I knew a girl years ago that could do that whenever she wanted. Somehow her muscular control was so good that she could make it queef whenever. She'd sit down a certain way, concentrate for a second or two, and it would happen. Great abdominal control.

No offense, but what an odd skill to have. Eeuyuck.

 

[DeservingBitch]

Oh - pussy farts. Those are hilarious.

Didn't know that queef was another term for it. I'll make sure to add it to my vocabulary.

 

[DeservingBitch]

I knew a girl years ago that could do that whenever she wanted. Somehow her muscular control was so good that she could make it queef whenever. She'd sit down a certain way, concentrate for a second or two, and it would happen. Great abdominal control.

I can do that to.

You need to know that I am still at the stage where having a fart competition with my SO falls into my 'fun' category. Being able to do pussy farts on command is a skill that gives me a distinc advantage.