Why do Men outnumber Women so much on these sites?

RickDeckardtw0

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So i will confess to in my internet travels gone to several sites such as this and the user populations are always way skewed towards males.

I know both men and women get horny so why are there always so many more men?

Is this part of the standard disposition for males to breed as much as they can?

Are women generally happier with their sex lives?

Are men more comfortable with technology and the internet?

Are women less apt to seek out partners for release in this format?

Is there some societal stigma associated with women and this type of format that make them stay away?

Is this type of thing included in the "slut shaming" stigma typically seen in society?

Please respond with your theories and comments.
 
You might have overlooked one thing - just being on sites like this is pretty high risk for some women and they often have a lot more to lose...
 
how so? Is it worse for men than women if discovered?

I think this line of thought goes back to the "slut shaming" aspect of women's expression of sexuality being suppressed where for men it is not as frowned upon. Double standard.
 
how so? Is it worse for men than women if discovered?

I think this line of thought goes back to the "slut shaming" aspect of women's expression of sexuality being suppressed where for men it is not as frowned upon. Double standard.
It's not necessarily about slut shaming. Consider, hypothetically, what happens if your real life long term relationship breaks down.

Typically, men don't suffer materially as much as women, because male earning potential over a life time is far less likely to be interrupted by children and/or caregiving. You (as a man) might have to move out, find new friends, and might lose access to the children; a married woman (even if educated and qualified) could easily end up homeless, with no immediate source of income, and very limited chances of taking work which would pay highly enough to meet even the essential expenses.
 
ok then, makes sense. Did not think of that. Good points.

It also feeds into part of the demographic where a lot of the men on here, myself included, are married but not satisfied. We have less to fear than say our wives do in terms of loss if discovered.

Think you are really on to something there.
 
Women often also get creepy guys that scare them away. If you ever talk to women about some of the private messages they get, you start to appreciate that any of them are NOT lesbians.
 
<snip>If you ever talk to women about some of the private messages they get, you start to appreciate that any of them are NOT lesbians.
Well, there is that too (just look at the asshat thread) - if you ever see defensive things in a profile, ask yourself, why that individual might feel unsafe.
 
sad.. but true.

Desperation is never pretty. Men don't get that, that PM is having the exact opposite effect.
 
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Women often also get creepy guys that scare them away. If you ever talk to women about some of the private messages they get, you start to appreciate that any of them are NOT lesbians.

Well, there is that too (just look at the asshat thread) - if you ever see defensive things in a profile, ask yourself, why that individual might feel unsafe.

Both such valid statements.

I recently returned after almost a year, and while I've received very nice messages from several people, I've also received a ton of very graphic, some offensive and a number of just flat rude messages that in one case gets progressively ruder when I do not respond.
Women are different than men. We have desires, but we react differently too.
"Let's fuck and hi" doesn't usually flip my switch.
 
I think there is an easy answer with many different variables. At its core, I believe it comes down to feeling safe for women. Just look at the news in the last couple of weeks. The college girl gets sexually assaulted while drunk and passed out by a college guy and he gets a slap on the wrist while she gets blamed for putting herself into such a position. As women we are told we are responsible for keeping ourselves safe and good and pure - and if we are seen as anything less for even a moment, then we were "asking" for what happened to us, we "secretly" wanted it, that a women never really means it when she says no. It's one thing to read the stories but sadly too many people assume the stories and staged videos reflect real life. It's one thing to have a rape fantasy, its another thing to be forced to live it out. It's one thing be forced to submit, its another to choose to submit.

For a guy to be found out as being on one of these sites, it's considered largely normal. In most circles, people might whisper but ultimately, its probably not going to affect your career, your marriage will probably stay in tact (perhaps with a little counselling if your wife is taken by surprise), and it will generally be credited to the "guys will be guys" mentality.

For a woman to be found out as being on one of these sites, it's usually considered pretty scandalous. In most circles, she will seen as easy, willing to sleep with anyone, using her body to get ahead, unfit to be a wife/mother and risks losing her career, being blackmailed, much more likely to lose her marriage (as she is no longer pure) and she will generally be considered a slut, whore, or prostitute.

Not saying it's fair, but it is the way the vast majority of the civilised world thinks about the genders and so it has to be taken into account.

I like what Penuche said above " if you ever see defensive things in a profile, ask yourself, why that individual might feel unsafe." Do that and then strive to not be the guy making women feel unsafe. You can be the most dominate, sadistic male (or female for that matter) in the world and still live in reality where such dynamics in any relationship are always consensual and respectful of boundaries and limits.
 
I will start by saying my husband has full knowledge of me being here, we have some boundaries set but I can enjoy my Lit time openly and without concern. I rarely interact with people via PM, and even more rarely receive a PM that is worth replying to. I have had my fair share of dirty, derogatory and sexually explicit...not to mention racist messages so I can only assume this is a common theme for all women on Lit. Not suprising there is a gender imbalance.
 
Well .. I think there is a trend. Its our own damn fault.

Sorry ladies, i guess we either haven't progressed as far as we thought or these sites simply attract a ton of A$$hole men.
 
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I posted a year ago and a few people bashed me over what I wrote. Wasn't nice and hubby did most of the posting. Over the last few months I started posting and love it. So I like that there are more men her, more attention for me!!!
 
<snip> Over the last few months I started posting and love it. So I like that there are more men her, more attention for me!!!
I suppose it depends on the type of attention you're after; one of the things I used to like about internet use was being able to talk to people for several months without knowing the superficial things about them.
 
Another thought: it's possible that the skew isn't as great as it appears judging solely from posting activities. I've had PMs from quite a few ladies who are subscribed to the forum to read it but rarely, if ever, post themselves. I imagine that they're not the only ones who wish to maintain a low profile for the reasons mentioned by others above.
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That is quite possible

Another thought: it's possible that the skew isn't as great as it appears judging solely from posting activities. I've had PMs from quite a few ladies who are subscribed to the forum to read it but rarely, if ever, post themselves. I imagine that they're not the only ones who wish to maintain a low profile for the reasons mentioned by others above.
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I have chatted with women that i have no idea what their LIT id is. They simply PM me or introduce over SKYPE. There may be more women than we thought but they are just stealthy. But.. kinda leads back to the question... why are they that way.
 
Men are much more likely to be sexual inhibited than women. We encourage our men to be that way and discourage our women to be that way. Women are more likely to suppress their sex drive where men aren't. Some of the men here are even married but their wives/girlfriends are not having as much sex with them as they wish or they are not getting the kind of sex they want. My time here fluctuates on how well my sex life is. When we're going through a dry spell I'll be here, if not I won't be here very much.
 
Because most women can get laid when they want. Men are stuck living by their whims. Or we can come here and prowl amongst the women who can't get laid and play with them. The loser cheetah goes after the weakest wildebeest.
 
Men are much more likely to be sexual inhibited than women. We encourage our men to be that way and discourage our women to be that way. Women are more likely to suppress their sex drive where men aren't. Some of the men here are even married but their wives/girlfriends are not having as much sex with them as they wish or they are not getting the kind of sex they want. My time here fluctuates on how well my sex life is. When we're going through a dry spell I'll be here, if not I won't be here very much.

I love to express my sexual sides, but do it on here and your inbox fills up with horny men thinking they are what you need/want.
Simple admissions of having an orgasm, masturbating, being fucked etc and I suddenly have messages asking if I need help or want more.
That's why I came to the boards. To express myself. But I learned really fast that unless you turn off your messages, you're just asking for a full inbox. :rolleyes:
 
I agree there are way more men than women on these sites but I also know that I'm not the only female who has registered as a male on sex sites. I don't do so to approach women, I do it so I can enjoy the site without being bothered. (see below comment by Sassy)

Another thing; it's not just the men who run women off these sites, it's also other women & from what I've seen they mainly target attractive and/or uninhibited females. More often than not the comments are made in other areas of the site than I see them made directly to the other women. (I am not one of those women so am unsure what goes on with the inbox) Regardless the comments are still being made & you can usually figure out who they're referring to in their catty remarks.

I love to express my sexual sides, but do it on here and your inbox fills up with horny men thinking they are what you need/want.
Simple admissions of having an orgasm, masturbating, being fucked etc and I suddenly have messages asking if I need help or want more.
That's why I came to the boards. To express myself. But I learned really fast that unless you turn off your messages, you're just asking for a full inbox. :rolleyes:

^^^^^ THIS

Another thought: it's possible that the skew isn't as great as it appears judging solely from posting activities. I've had PMs from quite a few ladies who are subscribed to the forum to read it but rarely, if ever, post themselves. I imagine that they're not the only ones who wish to maintain a low profile for the reasons mentioned by others above.
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I have chatted with women that i have no idea what their LIT id is. They simply PM me or introduce over SKYPE. There may be more women than we thought but they are just stealthy. But.. kinda leads back to the question... why are they that way.

Are you guys 100% sure they're female? Have you seen them live? I've been approached by a lot of bi & gay 'women' but have never spoke with one that would go on cam when asked.
 
Are you guys 100% sure they're female? Have you seen them live? I've been approached by a lot of bi & gay 'women' but have never spoke with one that would go on cam when asked.
I have no idea, other than that they have identified themselves as female. I don't ask people to go on cam or send photos, so if they're just masquerading as female then they're doing it in a way that doesn't matter to me.
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there are a ton of female imposters and people with multiple logons. let's not forget the males who want you to watch them whack it, or listen to them whack it, or want to describe to you about whacking it. it is amazing the flood of pm's a woman gets on this issue alone.
 
so .. the catfish

there are a ton of female imposters and people with multiple logons. let's not forget the males who want you to watch them whack it, or listen to them whack it, or want to describe to you about whacking it. it is amazing the flood of pm's a woman gets on this issue alone.

I know on other sites there are tons of males pretending to be women, didn't think this site was quite that bad. Seems to more self policing than many.

Problem is that means there are less "real" women. Of the women's logins how many are estimated to be fake? any guesses?

As far as the whack it goes.. i believe there is a thread in this forum just for that. Should redirect them there.
 
Women simply have better, more productive things to do with themselves.
 
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