Why do we show off our nude wives to others?

rootsfan said:
Yes, there are people on AmPics like that. But you're claiming it's generally applicable without any proof. Seems more like this is a simple case of projection.
http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?p=23948990#post23948990

In regards to the post referred to, that was me making fun of women who only post face shots and never anything revealing, AND STILL men keep on flattering them as if they aren't just waiting for her to strip. What I was trying to actually hint at was that she didn't understand the male perspective when posting pictures of just their cocks and didn't understand the nature of lit itself. So it's like saying when she could document that she understood what men actually liked instead of trying to belittle it, then we would recognize and appeal to her preferences as well.

I'm not going to try and claim that I find lit artistic or beautiful or anything of the sort. I come because I'm hoping they'll be someone I find attractive posting revealing pictures. Thats the incentive.

Though I don't think you can call this projection, because you don't see me showering anyone on this forum with compliments as a means to make them keep posting. I don't do that.

What I'm trying to express is that people somehow have been fooled into thinking that because men will take time to say flattering or playful things on a women's thread, it means they actually care about the person and don't just want to see them naked.

You can show me examples of Lit friendship or kinship, that's all very fine, but this is all sexually fueled. End of story.

It's not just generally applicable. It's not that a few anomallies visit only to get off, it's that vast majority.

Tell me that's not true, and then go actually look at the pic threads that are thriving and why.
 
lordonlyknows said:
<snip yaddah yaddah >

Mate, if you think you are being flamed here then you have no place on a BB. Your opinions are strong, fine no problems with that, however, learn to accept that just because you say it, does not make it so.

We agree to disagree, we post pictures, we know why we do it:
 
I love it when married couples are willing to share nude pics of his wife. Many men out there are never willing to show their hot wife's naked body to anybody 'cause they always get jealous. I love seeing a horny wife naked 'cause pictures are a good way to express themselves. Pictures are just pictures. There is nothing wrong with showing a married person's naked body in photos but it's up to them if they want to show off in person.
 
somberReality said:
I agree. Makes me wonder sometimes if the wife/gf is even aware the pics are being posted......


There are definitely some threads on here started by men that have made me wonder if they are posting pics of a gf/wife without her knowing. Or even posting pics of an ex as a means to get back at her in some way. That's really wrong, and unfortunately there isn't really any way that could be monitored.

I've also wondered if some of the female screen names are actually men posing as women, doing the same thing. Thought I think you can tell when it's a woman actually posting pics of herself, especially in the way she responds to comments that are left on the thread.
 
I have more to say but wanted to address the other stuff separately. :)

First of all, to answer the initial question as to why my husband and I post these pictures. We do these pictures because first of all, it's a lot of fun. It's exciting for both of us. And yes, it does make me feel good to receive compliments and such -- but what I like most is that my husband finds me sexy and pretty enough to show off. :D That's what really gives my ego a boost. And he likes that I am starting to feel better about myself.

We try to have fun with this and sometimes do different themes with costumes. We have also taken more "hardcore" pics. With both types, we know there are people looking at the shots purely as masturbation material. We don't fool ourselves into thinking otherwise.

However, we believe that there are other folks who do enjoy the "theme" pictures because of the effort and art we put into them (that's why we like Beauty Beast's pictures -- sure they are sexy, but there's more to them than just "here's a pair of boobs". Not that there's anything wrong with those kinds of pictures either -- but our favorites are the more artsy ones).

I think that the people who leave compliments on the thread or in pms are sincere. I'm sure a lot of them like seeing "more," but I've had quite a few people say they like our pictures because a lot of them do leave something to the imagination. And at this point I don't think people are complimenting our pictures just to get us to show more, because we have shown more and they still leave compliments. Plus there are so many pictures on here of all different styles, of all different body types, etc. If they didn't honestly like what they were seeing on our thread they could certainly find what they were looking for someplace else. So why would they compliment if they didn't really like what they were seeing?

And I do believe that friendships can be forged on message boards, even on porn ones like this. Because with a lot of people they aren't just posting pics, they are engaging in conversation with their "fans" and getting to know them. So maybe it does start with sex, but what difference does that make?
 
For the most part (not 100%) I have to agree with Lord about the nude pics here.

I know people have different tastes but honestly, most of the women and perhaps the same % men would not/are not considered very attractive outside of LIT. People say they are just to see more nude photos of them. Put the clothes on and they go back to being totally unattractive to many of the opposite sex. To each their own so I may be WAY off but if heavy people were as attractive as they are told they are on lit (again I say they are told that because they are naked), wouldnt we see more of fat people in ads/ tv/ movies? Either that or 90% of the people on Lit need to shut the computer down and go for a jog becuase it just is not healthy to be so big. If you needed any proof that America has a major problem on our hands, just look at a lot of the pics here on lit. Non of this makes anyone a bad person it just makes you generally unattractive out in public with your clothes on. I just have to agree that the majority of nice things said are an attempt to see more of your (insert private part). I would hope if you do think the person is fat/ugly, that you kept your mouth shut none of us live in a glass house.

Having said that I think there is some inherit beauty to being able to show your stuff and not really care what people say. That is pretty cool. I have a hard time with people who need this site to feel better about themselves. I dont think what is said is anything more (not always but lots of the times) then bait to show more. Sure there are plenty of skinny people that should keep their clothes on its not just about fat people but there are a "ton" of naked fat people on lit. I understand that there are people into that and more power to them, this is a great site for that.

Honestly Im not trying to be mean but I think it is the truth. In the end it shouldnt matter what anyone else but your loved ones think. Your opinion of yourself (your looks) shouldnt depend on what some masturbating 56 year old dude SAYS he thinks.
 
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SexyDreams said:
I have more to say but wanted to address the other stuff separately. :)

First of all, to answer the initial question as to why my husband and I post these pictures. We do these pictures because first of all, it's a lot of fun. It's exciting for both of us. And yes, it does make me feel good to receive compliments and such -- but what I like most is that my husband finds me sexy and pretty enough to show off. :D That's what really gives my ego a boost. And he likes that I am starting to feel better about myself.

We try to have fun with this and sometimes do different themes with costumes. We have also taken more "hardcore" pics. With both types, we know there are people looking at the shots purely as masturbation material. We don't fool ourselves into thinking otherwise.

However, we believe that there are other folks who do enjoy the "theme" pictures because of the effort and art we put into them (that's why we like Beauty Beast's pictures -- sure they are sexy, but there's more to them than just "here's a pair of boobs". Not that there's anything wrong with those kinds of pictures either -- but our favorites are the more artsy ones).

I think that the people who leave compliments on the thread or in pms are sincere. I'm sure a lot of them like seeing "more," but I've had quite a few people say they like our pictures because a lot of them do leave something to the imagination. And at this point I don't think people are complimenting our pictures just to get us to show more, because we have shown more and they still leave compliments. Plus there are so many pictures on here of all different styles, of all different body types, etc. If they didn't honestly like what they were seeing on our thread they could certainly find what they were looking for someplace else. So why would they compliment if they didn't really like what they were seeing?

And I do believe that friendships can be forged on message boards, even on porn ones like this. Because with a lot of people they aren't just posting pics, they are engaging in conversation with their "fans" and getting to know them. So maybe it does start with sex, but what difference does that make?


I do see a lot of truth in this post as well. I just think it is too bad it takes some of your erotic photos of yourself and random posts on here to make you feel better about yourself. You shouldnt need douche bags like myself who are probably spanking it and telling you youre hot to make you ( a general you) feel that way. See what I am saying.

By the way, your pics are hot..... :nana:
 
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StormCat said:
I do see a lot of truth in this post as well. I just think it is too bad it takes some of your erotic photos of yourself and random posts on here to make you feel better about yourself. You shouldnt need douche bags like myself who are probably spanking it and telling you youre hot to make you ( a general you) feel that way. See what I am saying.

By the way, your pics are hot..... :nana:


Ummm.....thanks.....I think..... LOL

And I understand what you're saying. Like I said, for me what makes me feel the best is that my husband finds me attractive and sexy enough to show off. I mean, I knew he found me attractive and sexy before we started doing the pics -- but him wanting to show me off did give my esteem a boost.
 
Something I've noticed about all those "telling it like it is" members below one hundred posts who post these charming, would-be reality checks against people having their fun and others appreciating it that, ultimately only serves to let themselves hear themselves talk above everyone else...and then you go to their profiles to try to find out more about them and it says "n/a."

Not that anyone HAS to fill their profiles out, but those that do often portray their personality and character behind the boobie, pussy and cock pics they post and wish to share and/or show off. Those others...I haven't really seen any "n/a" members that do anything else but talk and criticize. If they actually bother to stay as members long enough to develop something more.

Who are they really, behind their computer screens? Lord only knows! :p
 
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IrezumiKiss said:
Something I've noticed about all those "telling it like it is" members below one hundred posts who post these charming, would-be reality checks against people having their fun and others appreciating it that, ultimately only serves to let themselves hear themselves talk above everyone else...and then you go to their profiles to try to find out more about them and it says "n/a."

Not that anyone HAS to fill their profiles out, but those that do often portray their personality and character behind the boobie, pussy and cock pics they post and wish to share and/or show off. Those others...I haven't really seen any "n/a" members that do anything else but talk and criticize. If they actually bother to stay as members long enough to develop something more.

Who are they really, behind their computer screens? Lord only knows! :p

I :heart: you, IrezumiKiss! Great point!!!
 
IrezumiKiss said:
Something I've noticed about all those "telling it like it is" members below one hundred posts who post these charming, would-be reality checks against people having their fun and others appreciating it that, ultimately only serves to let themselves hear themselves talk above everyone else...and then you go to their profiles to try to find out more about them and it says "n/a."

Not that anyone HAS to fill their profiles out, but those that do often portray their personality and character behind the boobie, pussy and cock pics they post and wish to share and/or show off. Those others...I haven't really seen any "n/a" members that do anything else but talk and criticize. If they actually bother to stay as members long enough to develop something more.

Who are they really, behind their computer screens? Lord only knows! :p

Heh, I've been a fan of your artwork since before you started posting in the AmPics, but that's more of a side note.

But uh, I'm not lying about anything here. My primary reason for visiting is not to meet anyone or create lasting bonds.

Lit is the last place I would go for that kind of relationship.

I am here to see people naked; be it women, couples, or whoever as long as I find them attractive. I don't think that makes me the bad guy; afterall what is the name of this section of the board?

In fact, a lot of what people think are developed bonds or relationships they've made with members of this board are a facade fueled by sexual agenda.

I don't think I should be put under the magnifying glass because I don't laugh, or squeal, or flatter, or use cute little :p emoticons :p like the rest of you.

The reason that I haven't posted more than one hundred times is because I don't waste time with redudant (and dishonest) flattery of women who aren't actually that attractive anyway.

Maybe I can't say the same for you.

Also, thanks to Storm for a contribution from my side of the spectrum; good to know I'm not the only this seems obvious to.
 
I admire ANYONE who is comfortable in his/her own skin and shows his/her body off online. To me it shows a inner confidence.
 
lordonlyknows said:
I am here to see people naked; be it women, couples, or whoever as long as I find them attractive.

The reason that I haven't posted more than one hundred times is because I don't waste time with redudant (and dishonest) flattery of women who aren't actually that attractive anyway.


Dude, you totally contradicted yourself there. You're here to see naked people that you find attractive, but you don't post flattering comments because the women you've seen here aren't that attractive anyway. So which is it?

And why you gotta be hatin' on emoticons?

:p ;) :D :cathappy:
 
lordonlyknows said:
Heh, I've been a fan of your artwork since before you started posting in the AmPics, but that's more of a side note.

But uh, I'm not lying about anything here. My primary reason for visiting is not to meet anyone or create lasting bonds.

Lit is the last place I would go for that kind of relationship.

I am here to see people naked; be it women, couples, or whoever as long as I find them attractive. I don't think that makes me the bad guy; afterall what is the name of this section of the board?

In fact, a lot of what people think are developed bonds or relationships they've made with members of this board are a facade fueled by sexual agenda.

I don't think I should be put under the magnifying glass because I don't laugh, or squeal, or flatter, or use cute little :p emoticons :p like the rest of you.

The reason that I haven't posted more than one hundred times is because I don't waste time with redudant (and dishonest) flattery of women who aren't actually that attractive anyway.

Maybe I can't say the same for you.

Also, thanks to Storm for a contribution from my side of the spectrum; good to know I'm not the only this seems obvious to.
Thank you for your honesty and candor. And I appreciate your appreciation of my work. Please do continue your patronage! :D

However, the point you're leaving out in the general broadbrushing of everyone's reasons why they do what they do here and those that love to look at what they do here is that your opinion is your opinion for you. It does not speak of an absolute verity amongst anyone else.

We both may be male, we both may have cocks, we both may get it up for Cindy Crawford bending over in a lingerie ad, but you still have your tastes and I still have mine. When you make a point like the one quoted and bolded above, you need to establish that it's your tastes and you don't speak for anyone else. This is simple to do, either a disclaimer in the beginning or at the end of your post.

More to the point, to casually dismiss the pleasure and possible genuine appreciation of others to others here as just fake for masturbation's sake, while not giving up anything about yourself or contributing something to the dinner table, underscores the elitist undertone of the posts you're throwing up. As if in the reading of what others say, your eyes keep rolling in your head over the inanity of what horny people will post in order to keep their danders up...and then for some reason you just HAVE to say something that you think is going to throw some cold water on the masses and open their eyes to the "truth." I have read quite a few posters who have said the exact things you're saying, some in more louch terms with fewer words...and the one thing they have in common is that they're not giving anything of themselves while being critical of others.

I just don't understand why you and everyone else who's on your page thinks that you're giving others some sort of revelation or wake-up call or telling them what they're really about. Guy, I know what I'm about. I know what I like and I know what butters my bread. Don't tell me what I'm about. Don't tell me what I would say to the women here if I met them in reality. You let me and those other people worry about what may go on after connecting. If I decide to throw up a story of me and a member getting together in the positive or the negative, then you have the right of way to give your opinion since I put it out there. Until then, what you think about the relationships and agendas of people here is all about you and not them. And since you're not giving anything about you...hey...

Last time I checked, I thought this was an arena to celebrate and enjoy the differences of our sexual selves. How are those enjoying for them that which you find unattractive to you because of those differences constructing a facade? Just because their dicks are hard and their pussies wet? If this site was (and its members were) that pedestrian of thought, it wouldn't be called Literotica.

If you're not here to do anything except look, then that's fine. Just keep looking. If you're going to talk and give opinion, then do it in the way that gives respect to others, so that they can respect you for yours in turn. It's not hard to do and you won't be sacrificing YOUR "truth" in the doing.

No animosity here, Lord. Just telling it like it is. :)
 
IrezumiKiss said:
Thank you for your honesty and candor. And I appreciate your appreciation of my work. Please do continue your patronage! :D

However, the point you're leaving out in the general broadbrushing of everyone's reasons why they do what they do here and those that love to look at what they do here is that your opinion is your opinion for you. It does not speak of an absolute verity amongst anyone else.

We both may be male, we both may have cocks, we both may get it up for Cindy Crawford bending over in a lingerie ad, but you still have your tastes and I still have mine. When you make a point like the one quoted and bolded above, you need to establish that it's your tastes and you don't speak for anyone else. This is simple to do, either a disclaimer in the beginning or at the end of your post.

More to the point, to casually dismiss the pleasure and possible genuine appreciation of others to others here as just fake for masturbation's sake, while not giving up anything about yourself or contributing something to the dinner table, underscores the elitist undertone of the posts you're throwing up. As if in the reading of what others say, your eyes keep rolling in your head over the inanity of what horny people will post in order to keep their danders up...and then for some reason you just HAVE to say something that you think is going to throw some cold water on the masses and open their eyes to the "truth." I have read quite a few posters who have said the exact things you're saying, some in more louch terms with fewer words...and the one thing they have in common is that they're not giving anything of themselves while being critical of others.

I just don't understand why you and everyone else who's on your page thinks that you're giving others some sort of revelation or wake-up call or telling them what they're really about. Guy, I know what I'm about. I know what I like and I know what butters my bread. Don't tell me what I'm about. Don't tell me what I would say to the women here if I met them in reality. You let me and those other people worry about what may go on after connecting. If I decide to throw up a story of me and a member getting together in the positive or the negative, then you have the right of way to give your opinion since I put it out there. Until then, what you think about the relationships and agendas of people here is all about you and not them. And since you're not giving anything about you...hey...

Last time I checked, I thought this was an arena to celebrate and enjoy the differences of our sexual selves. How are those enjoying for them that which you find unattractive to you because of those differences constructing a facade? Just because their dicks are hard and their pussies wet? If this site was (and its members were) that pedestrian of thought, it wouldn't be called Literotica.

If you're not here to do anything except look, then that's fine. Just keep looking. If you're going to talk and give opinion, then do it in the way that gives respect to others, so that they can respect you for yours in turn. It's not hard to do and you won't be sacrificing YOUR "truth" in the doing.

No animosity here, Lord. Just telling it like it is. :)
Great post, Irezumi. (I've admired your posting style for a while.) I may get around to answering Lord's pronouncements (really, let's not call them posts) myself, but I'm in no hurry.
 
IrezumiKiss said:
Thank you for your honesty and candor. And I appreciate your appreciation of my work. Please do continue your patronage! :D

However, the point you're leaving out in the general broadbrushing of everyone's reasons why they do what they do here and those that love to look at what they do here is that your opinion is your opinion for you. It does not speak of an absolute verity amongst anyone else.

We both may be male, we both may have cocks, we both may get it up for Cindy Crawford bending over in a lingerie ad, but you still have your tastes and I still have mine. When you make a point like the one quoted and bolded above, you need to establish that it's your tastes and you don't speak for anyone else. This is simple to do, either a disclaimer in the beginning or at the end of your post.

More to the point, to casually dismiss the pleasure and possible genuine appreciation of others to others here as just fake for masturbation's sake, while not giving up anything about yourself or contributing something to the dinner table, underscores the elitist undertone of the posts you're throwing up. As if in the reading of what others say, your eyes keep rolling in your head over the inanity of what horny people will post in order to keep their danders up...and then for some reason you just HAVE to say something that you think is going to throw some cold water on the masses and open their eyes to the "truth." I have read quite a few posters who have said the exact things you're saying, some in more louch terms with fewer words...and the one thing they have in common is that they're not giving anything of themselves while being critical of others.

I just don't understand why you and everyone else who's on your page thinks that you're giving others some sort of revelation or wake-up call or telling them what they're really about. Guy, I know what I'm about. I know what I like and I know what butters my bread. Don't tell me what I'm about. Don't tell me what I would say to the women here if I met them in reality. You let me and those other people worry about what may go on after connecting. If I decide to throw up a story of me and a member getting together in the positive or the negative, then you have the right of way to give your opinion since I put it out there. Until then, what you think about the relationships and agendas of people here is all about you and not them. And since you're not giving anything about you...hey...

Last time I checked, I thought this was an arena to celebrate and enjoy the differences of our sexual selves. How are those enjoying for them that which you find unattractive to you because of those differences constructing a facade? Just because their dicks are hard and their pussies wet? If this site was (and its members were) that pedestrian of thought, it wouldn't be called Literotica.

If you're not here to do anything except look, then that's fine. Just keep looking. If you're going to talk and give opinion, then do it in the way that gives respect to others, so that they can respect you for yours in turn. It's not hard to do and you won't be sacrificing YOUR "truth" in the doing.

No animosity here, Lord. Just telling it like it is. :)


A respectable post.
 
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