Why i don't like nice guys

[ataxia.girl]

What he said.

Hee hee attention fuzzies. i'm such an attention slut. Its kinda retarded.

Thanks Bunny.

 

[eastern sun]

I'm happy for you too.

 

[FurryFury]

I'm glad things have changed for the better for you.

 

[HottieMama]

I'm quite happy for you as well. Everyone deserves a relationship that makes them happy.

If I can address the original topic for a moment as I wasn't active when it was originally posted... I never thought I liked "nice guys" either until I met my now husband. I used to love "bad boys" and consequently got all of the baggage and bullshit that went along with them. For some reason, I thought "bad boys" had an "edge" in this lifestyle that "nice guys" didn't have. I was wrong...at least in the case of my Honey. He treats me like a princess, is polite, kind, respectful...all of the "nice guy" stuff. He's also a sadistic, brutal bastard when the time is appropriate. Did I get lucky? Possibly. I just know that if I made a snap judgment upon first meeting him we wouldn't be together now and I would not be nearly as happy as I am.

 

[ataxia.girl]

You guys are nice. Now i'm getting all weird and self conscious. Gonna go make dinner. i found a recipe for BBQ chicken where you put yams in the sauce. Kinda excited to try it.

 

[rida]

Happy for you Ataxia.girl!

The way you have portrait your interactions and his characther, he sounds
quite the dream Daddy. I could do with one myself ... do you have a spare one that is looking for a "teen"?

jk aside, I m really happy for you.

 

[ataxia.girl]

Happy for you Ataxia.girl!

The way you have portrait your interactions and his characther, he sounds
quite the dream Daddy. I could do with one myself ... do you have a spare one that is looking for a "teen"?

jk aside, I m really happy for you.

LOL... yeah he is. Makes me crazy sometimes but i've gotten pretty used to it.

 

[LifelongCyn]

Also a very belated congratulations, ataxia. It's wonderful that you've found your Daddy.

I also wanted to say that I've enjoyed reading your posts. We have some surface things in common, but I find your willingness to go to a very primal place fascinating and I think that you've written some very interesting truths, things that really resonated with me. I'm glad that you continue to post here. Thank you.

 

[subish2009]

You guys are nice. Now i'm getting all weird and self conscious. Gonna go make dinner. i found a recipe for BBQ chicken where you put yams in the sauce. Kinda excited to try it.

Another belated congrats!

I, too, really enjoy reading about your POV. We seem to have some things in common, many very much not, but your insights are always interesting and appreciated.

By the way, how was that BBQ chicken recipe? I'm intrigued...

 

[Plasmaball]

I don't want the nice guy, but neither do I want the all out bad boy. I want a blend of the two. I have an appreciation for the softer side of relationships that a nice guy can provide. At the same time I need the harsher side that a bad boy will provide. If I am with a purely nice guy I end up subverting part of who I am. I need to go places that are...darker, not so pretty. I feel I can not reveal those parts of me if I don't know he has a need to go there himself. I want the man who can at one moment make me feel loved above all else, turn around hurt and debase me, and then make me feel loved again. He sees all of me and as a result I would feel free to love completely. I need a balance, someone who sees the smile in my eyes and the tears running from my eyes and reacts to them equally.

how is this different from the Guy who wants Lady in public slut in the bedroom?

That is what this screams to me. Now i am not sitting here saying this is a bad thing. Just how it comes off.
Balance is a wonderful thing, finding it with the right person? Very hard

 

[ataxia.girl]

Another belated congrats!

I, too, really enjoy reading about your POV. We seem to have some things in common, many very much not, but your insights are always interesting and appreciated.

By the way, how was that BBQ chicken recipe? I'm intrigued...

Meh it was okay. Not a repeater. The Chicken Merlot with Chantel mushrooms i made last night is however. Yummy yummy.

 

[YourCaptor]

(attention fuzzies) + (weird and self conscious) =

Congrats to you girl on your wonderful relationship!

All eyes with envy on you.

 

[estellacumsalot79]

I don't want the nice guy, but neither do I want the all out bad boy. I want a blend of the two. I have an appreciation for the softer side of relationships that a nice guy can provide. At the same time I need the harsher side that a bad boy will provide. If I am with a purely nice guy I end up subverting part of who I am. I need to go places that are...darker, not so pretty. I feel I can not reveal those parts of me if I don't know he has a need to go there himself. I want the man who can at one moment make me feel loved above all else, turn around hurt and debase me, and then make me feel loved again. He sees all of me and as a result I would feel free to love completely. I need a balance, someone who sees the smile in my eyes and the tears running from my eyes and reacts to them equally.

I agree, a mixture of both is best.