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Hey Nick
My buddies and I used to have this discussion on a fairly regular basis. Mostly because there seems to be something in a womans psyche (tempted to use the letter o at the end ... KIDDING) at that age that makes bad boys (for the most part goofs) the holy grail of "catches".
Though we never practiced it we came up with the phrase "Treat em mean, keep em keen" to describe it. I realize that it can be extremely frustrating to watch, even worse if the lady is a friend.
In the end most women seem to grow out of it. If they don't you didn't want them anyway (experience speaking here). Just don't try to be something your not to rope someone in.
My buddies and I used to have this discussion on a fairly regular basis. Mostly because there seems to be something in a womans psyche (tempted to use the letter o at the end ... KIDDING) at that age that makes bad boys (for the most part goofs) the holy grail of "catches".
Though we never practiced it we came up with the phrase "Treat em mean, keep em keen" to describe it. I realize that it can be extremely frustrating to watch, even worse if the lady is a friend.
In the end most women seem to grow out of it. If they don't you didn't want them anyway (experience speaking here). Just don't try to be something your not to rope someone in.
Hey Nick,
I know just exactly what your saying. I was dumped on by girls all through my teen years, cause I was a geek and a nice guy. I was trying to be someone everyone else wanted me to be. Now I look like Rob Zombie, but Im still a good guy (who says all bad boys are assholes?) and its a different ballgame. Be true to who you are, always. Dont be someone else to please anyone. Either they see past the outside into the inside and love and accept you for who you are, or it just wasnt meant to be. Karma my friend. It will all come back to you two fold. We all have that soul mate out there, something in me says youll meet yours. Just keep up the good work being a nice guy and it will pay off.
I know just exactly what your saying. I was dumped on by girls all through my teen years, cause I was a geek and a nice guy. I was trying to be someone everyone else wanted me to be. Now I look like Rob Zombie, but Im still a good guy (who says all bad boys are assholes?) and its a different ballgame. Be true to who you are, always. Dont be someone else to please anyone. Either they see past the outside into the inside and love and accept you for who you are, or it just wasnt meant to be. Karma my friend. It will all come back to you two fold. We all have that soul mate out there, something in me says youll meet yours. Just keep up the good work being a nice guy and it will pay off.
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Alright...I'll admit it. Bad boys have an undeniable appeal. Sometimes the "good guys" are so boring it just pains me ot even consider spending an nstant of time with them.
I have heard it said bout women, that men want a lady in public and a whore in the bedroom. I think the same is rue about men. A woman wants a gentleman that can take care of her, but who can get wild when it's time.
I will be the first to admit that women are complex creatures and that most of us (myself included) want things that aren't obtainable. I have actually been pissed off before because a man didn't know what I want when I wanted it..without me having to say a word. Older and wiser now..realize communication is the key.
My bottom line to all this senseless rambling is that although the bad boys have the instant appeal, in the long run the good guys always win!
I have heard it said bout women, that men want a lady in public and a whore in the bedroom. I think the same is rue about men. A woman wants a gentleman that can take care of her, but who can get wild when it's time.
I will be the first to admit that women are complex creatures and that most of us (myself included) want things that aren't obtainable. I have actually been pissed off before because a man didn't know what I want when I wanted it..without me having to say a word. Older and wiser now..realize communication is the key.
My bottom line to all this senseless rambling is that although the bad boys have the instant appeal, in the long run the good guys always win!
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well i have to confess something too .. I would also do Leonardo DeCaprio in a minute. hey he was kind of a bad boy in Titanic .. i mean he was gambling at the beginning of the movie ...
It seems to me what we're talking about here is the difference between women and girls. Both get to have fun, but girls are supposed to play, they're growing up ... bad boys make the trip more exciting. Grown-up women make their choices based on experience. If they've had a good time with "bad boys", they just might continue with them. I'll add this - if she isn't interested in you today, there is very little you can do to make her interested in you tomorrow. Good guy, bad guy, any guy ... treat all women (and girls)with love and respect, put your expectations aside and go with what life brings instead of trying so hard to make things happen. Good luck!
