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I agree with BiBunny and Gianbattista about the societal conditioning, lack of consideration that non-monogamy could even be an option and general antipathy towards change.
However, I might go one step further. When the topic does come up it is greeted with a certain amount of hostility and judgment. Men can almost count on the fact that some people will deem their wife's sexual activities to be proof of the man's inadequacy. And women can count on the fact that some people will assume that being sexually active means she is a non-discriminating bimbo who will fuck any guy. Some guys will assume she wants to be dominated and treated like shit. Both will be told that their preferences are unnatural, immoral and wrong.
This alternative approach to non-monogamy doesn't seem to elicit the same kind of urge towards outright violence that many LGBT people have experienced. But it clearly makes some people uncomfortable to the point that they feel it is ok to try to convince or coerce us to conform. And they imagine it to be sufficiently wrong as to justify them being rude and offensive.
In western society we no longer accept religion as a primary determinant of our societal norms. Some people wish we did but that is not the consensus or the law. In the absence of religious absolutism it is fascinating to watch and listen to people try to string together a rationale as to why people are meant to be monogamous. It's quite evident that they start with the only conclusion that they can fathom then try to wrap a spurious and speculative argument around it. And its not enough that they convince us that monogamy is the preferred or most prevalent model. They feel compelled to convince us that it is the only way.
However, I might go one step further. When the topic does come up it is greeted with a certain amount of hostility and judgment. Men can almost count on the fact that some people will deem their wife's sexual activities to be proof of the man's inadequacy. And women can count on the fact that some people will assume that being sexually active means she is a non-discriminating bimbo who will fuck any guy. Some guys will assume she wants to be dominated and treated like shit. Both will be told that their preferences are unnatural, immoral and wrong.
This alternative approach to non-monogamy doesn't seem to elicit the same kind of urge towards outright violence that many LGBT people have experienced. But it clearly makes some people uncomfortable to the point that they feel it is ok to try to convince or coerce us to conform. And they imagine it to be sufficiently wrong as to justify them being rude and offensive.
In western society we no longer accept religion as a primary determinant of our societal norms. Some people wish we did but that is not the consensus or the law. In the absence of religious absolutism it is fascinating to watch and listen to people try to string together a rationale as to why people are meant to be monogamous. It's quite evident that they start with the only conclusion that they can fathom then try to wrap a spurious and speculative argument around it. And its not enough that they convince us that monogamy is the preferred or most prevalent model. They feel compelled to convince us that it is the only way.
