Wife is having affair

[fasolati23]

Wife cheating

I certainly don't mean to be negative. This is the place for fantasies and fiction and real life stories all mixed together. It's an outlet for sexual frustration, release, exploration, whatever. Just don't try to hustle anyone. Put it up front and you will be happier with the end results.
That's my opinion and it's like, as you all know, assholes. Everyone has one.

 

[thejuicestof93]

if you need some comfort feel free to message me

 

[49greg]

My first wife carried on with someone else for six or eight months and I didn't have a clue. She kept going out several times a week with her 'girlfriends'. Turns out it wasn't girlfriends. It was girlfriend.

I didn't have to do anything because the first I knew of it was when she asked for a divorce. Told me she was now a lesbian. She stayed with the other girl about six months and moved on.

All I felt was relief. I had been wanting to split up for years but didn't want to hurt her. Because she felt guilty I did pretty well in the settlement.

It was when she declared bankruptcy after the divorce that I got burned. Seems in community property states all her debts incurred before the divorce were now my liability and she had several credit cards I thought were cancelled that she had charged on extensively. Didn't matter what the divorce decree said about whose cards were whose.

 

[amofiga]

Fortunately affairs do NOT have to spell and end to a marriage or my wife would have walked away and taken me for all I'm worth. I really think that affairs should be used as a way to make marriages better IF both parties want the marriage to improve and progress.

About 50 percent of married men AND women will have an affair (or have had one) if their marriage is older than 15 years. It's just statistics. I tend to believe that when you enter a marriage, you have to at least admit that an affair for one or both of the partners is a significant probability and it's important to resolve the issue that a marriage is more than just sex and that the fact that one or each of the partners experiments outside the marriage SHOULD be regarded as an opportunity to figure out how to improve the marriage rather than simply end it because of antiquated beliefs.

So your wife (or husband) is having/has had an affair? It probably does NOT mean that he or she doesn't love you anymore but that there are some serious issues to resolve. Either step up and resolve them or pussy out and just let it die. Lots of good marriages endure affairs and lots of crappy marriages plod along just because there haven't been any affairs. Maybe you don't believe that.

 

[Verycurious18]

Fortunately affairs do NOT have to spell and end to a marriage or my wife would have walked away and taken me for all I'm worth. I really think that affairs should be used as a way to make marriages better IF both parties want the marriage to improve and progress.

About 50 percent of married men AND women will have an affair (or have had one) if their marriage is older than 15 years. It's just statistics. I tend to believe that when you enter a marriage, you have to at least admit that an affair for one or both of the partners is a significant probability and it's important to resolve the issue that a marriage is more than just sex and that the fact that one or each of the partners experiments outside the marriage SHOULD be regarded as an opportunity to figure out how to improve the marriage rather than simply end it because of antiquated beliefs.

So your wife (or husband) is having/has had an affair? It probably does NOT mean that he or she doesn't love you anymore but that there are some serious issues to resolve. Either step up and resolve them or pussy out and just let it die. Lots of good marriages endure affairs and lots of crappy marriages plod along just because there haven't been any affairs. Maybe you don't believe that.

It wouldn't be because of beliefs, it's more of the trust I have or in you to uphold our vows. I would much rather be asked if we can possible think about adding a new person then to be told I fucked Susie from down the street. If you have problems why not come to me first so we can handle things maturely instead of going behind each other's back. Seems childish to me to say just because a marriage has lasted 15 years or so means we should add another person or have an affair.


Let's get this straight marriage isn't for everyone, just like sex isn't for everyone or child birthing ect. If you are going to go into a marriage having the mindset of , oh in a matter of years I'll probably have an affair. Don't get married. Or at least let your spouse know or hell even change the vows.


Words are powerful and some of us take them more seriously then others, for better or worse means so much more then what people think. I would be willing to throw my needs aside to protect my loved ones heart. Why because I've come to terms with the fact that we aren't guaranteed everything in life, and sex isn't a need. It's a desire and and something we want, it's a matter of prioritizing it. If I commit to someone that's my top Priority to protect and uphold that commitment.



Now you're free to say, oh well you haven't been married and denied sex,emotions, ect. You would be correct but I have denied myself love,sex, ect and learned that just because I want it doesn't mean I need it. Some of us have more self control then others.

And really 50%? Let's think here ... They didn't test every marriage nor the reasons behind why affairs happened.




Anyways to the op, I hope you and your wife can works things out! Best of luck my friend.

 

[littlecordelera]

I just noticed the little smiley next to the thread title. That made me LOL. Good job to the OP!