Please Tell Us Everything You Know About Primals

[Wild_Honey_66]

*Far and Honey snuggle down for storytime*

Thank you!

 

[Eva_Star]

*Crashes the Far/Honey storytime party*

I have a pen and paper to take notes! And wine!

*glances over to see if "someone" really does have freckle boobs* (I love freckles!! On boobs? Even better!)

 

[Farawyn]

*Far and Honey snuggle down for storytime*

Thank you!

And Prey. I scored really high as Prey on the BDSM test.

 

[Eva_Star]

In all seriousness though, I do hope people with experience post. I googled and came up with a bdsmwiki page (which was amazing...didn't know that was a thing!) and a few other definition type pages but not a lot of actual, real life accounts.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

And Prey. I scored really high as Prey on the BDSM test.

I think Primal is the umbrella term and predator/prey would be the rough equivalents of Dom/sub.

Hi Eva! *makes room*

 

[Bluespark]

I think Primal is the umbrella term and predator/prey would be the rough equivalents of Dom/sub.

Hi Eva! *makes room*

"Rough equivalents"
Lol

 

[Farawyn]

In all seriousness though, I do hope people with experience post. I googled and came up with a bdsmwiki page (which was amazing...didn't know that was a thing!) and a few other definition type pages but not a lot of actual, real life accounts.

I did, too, and I loved this definition.

http://www.bdsmwiki.info/Primal

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

"Rough equivalents"
Lol

Hiya Sparky! Do you have something to add to the conversation?

Y'all can do the research. Imma sit here and cheer you on and wine. Yes, that's a verb, now.

 

[Bluespark]

Hiya Sparky! Do you have something to add to the conversation?

Y'all can do the research. Imma sit here and cheer you on and wine. Yes, that's a verb, now.

Apparently only bad jokes.

*skulks off to do some research before the shame of my ignorance becomes too great to bare*

I know that's the wrong form of bear . I just wanted to give Fara something to slam me about too.

 

[Eva_Star]

I did, too, and I loved this definition.

http://www.bdsmwiki.info/Primal

So this may be a dumb question...it states in that definition that primal play may be synonymous with pet play. Now...I won't confirm nor deny whether pet play is a significant aspect of my relationship but for the sake of conversation, let's say it is...I guess I'm confused as to how that is primal. So..purely hypothetical example coming...let's say I am a cat girl and my husband is my owner, is that considered primal?

 

[Farawyn]

And this?

There's a Submissive Guide for goodness sakes?

http://www.submissiveguide.com/2013/07/what-is-primal-play/

 

[Farawyn]

So this may be a dumb question...it states in that definition that primal play may be synonymous with pet play. Now...I won't confirm nor deny whether pet play is a significant aspect of my relationship but for the sake of conversation, let's say it is...I guess I'm confused as to how that is primal. So..purely hypothetical example coming...let's say I am a cat girl and my husband is my owner, is that considered primal?

According to the link, it's not just about roughness. It seems to be anything done to the nth power.

I don't know how that would fall in, but I'm curious about that as well.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

So this may be a dumb question...it states in that definition that primal play may be synonymous with pet play. Now...I won't confirm nor deny whether pet play is a significant aspect of my relationship but for the sake of conversation, let's say it is...I guess I'm confused as to how that is primal. So..purely hypothetical example coming...let's say I am a cat girl and my husband is my owner, is that considered primal?

I think there is overlap, but it is not the same thing.

(lol Sparky)

Eta: there is an event in... Georgia? called Frolicon. As i understand it, they had an actual space for Primals to use, including a mat for wrestling. Doesn't that sound like fun?

 

[Farawyn]

And this.




http://dominantguide.com/1866/what-does-it-mean-to-be-primal/

 

[Farawyn]

I think there is overlap, but it is not the same thing.

(lol Sparky)

Eta: there is an event in... Georgia? called Frolicon. As i understand it, they had an actual space for Primals to use, including a mat for wrestling. Doesn't that sound like fun?

yes...

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

There's a Submissive Guide for goodness sakes?

http://www.submissiveguide.com/2013/07/what-is-primal-play/

Ooo, I liked the greeting thing.

 

[_Necrosomantic_]

Only because you asked so nice

I'll share a bit.

Identifying as Primal ( for me ) isn't a fetish or a kink, rather it's a personality type, who/what you are. It's not associated with a specific item or situation, more a pervading attitude when it comes to sex. You let yourself go and operate more on instinct than anything else. Everything becomes raw and immediate, action and reaction, cause and effect, predator and prey. Some people identify as a specific type of animal, assuming traits and habits, others act more like cavemen and women, base and simple, but there is beauty in that. Honesty. With that, comes another constant. Scratching, hair pulling, rough sex, choking, spanking, hard grabbing, pinning, growling, screaming, and of course, b i t i n g. Messy, being Primal is messy. Regardless of whether or not you are a hunter or prey, you're going to walk alway marked up, every time.

I love a good game. I play them all the time. I can't turn it off, not even if I wanted to. I've said it before, I get triggered by little things mostly, I get riled up and I start. Questions pour out that get her to admit things she normally wouldn't. Leaning in close and not breaking eye contact, she will though. Pointing out that she's become flushed, red looks good on her. Get her to lower her guard and let me in, then she's mine. Getting in close and circling, literally and metaphorically, poking and pushing and getting her all out of sorts, warning her that she better stop me now because I'm about to fucking lose it, that she should take her clothes off if she doesn't want them ripped off, and that I hope she wore underwear she won't miss. The best part, is not that she's going to end up looking like she got fucked by some wild animal, no, what does it for me, is when I look in the mirror, and see that I look like I did. While I place an emphasis on variety and unpredictability, I can guarantee that she will end up with me under her fingernails. Every. Time.

As for what " type " of Primal I am, or if I identify as something specifically... Well, what do you think I am.

 

[Eva_Star]

Hmmm...so maybe if instead of a kitten, I was more like a lioness and instead of being an owner, my husband was either a hunter or another lion...that would be closer to primal?

I wonder if it's the "fight back" aspect that makes it primal? That feeling of trying to fight the hunter but the prey, in the end, succumbing to his/her power? Being overpowered after resistance?

Very interesting...it's possible that I'm overthinking this.

 

[Eva_Star]

I'll share a bit.

Identifying as Primal ( for me ) isn't a fetish or a kink, rather it's a personality type, who/what you are. It's not associated with a specific item or situation, more a pervading attitude when it comes to sex. You let yourself go and operate more on instinct than anything else. Everything becomes raw and immediate, action and reaction, cause and effect, predator and prey. Some people identify as a specific type of animal, assuming traits and habits, others act more like cavemen and women, base and simple, but there is beauty in that. Honesty. With that, comes another constant. Scratching, hair pulling, rough sex, choking, spanking, hard grabbing, pinning, growling, screaming, and of course, b i t i n g. Messy, being Primal is messy. Regardless of whether or not you are a hunter or prey, you're going to walk alway marked up, every time.

I love a good game. I play them all the time. I can't turn it off, not even if I wanted to. I've said it before, I get triggered by little things mostly, I get riled up and I start. Questions pour out that get her to admit things she normally wouldn't. Leaning in close and not breaking eye contact, she will though. Pointing out that she's become flushed, red looks good on her. Get her to lower her guard and let me in, then she's mine. Getting in close and circling, literally and metaphorically, poking and pushing and getting her all out of sorts, warning her that she better stop me now because I'm about to fucking lose it, that she should take her clothes off if she doesn't want them ripped off, and that I hope she wore underwear she won't miss. The best part, is not that she's going to end up looking like she got fucked by some wild animal, no, what does it for me, is when I look in the mirror, and see that I look like I did. While I place an emphasis on variety and unpredictability, I can guarantee that she will end up with me under her fingernails. Every. Time.

As for what " type " of Primal I am, or if I identify as something specifically... Well, what do you think I am.

oh. my. Thank you.

This was a very good explanation...I think I need to go read this to my husband..for..you know...educational purposes.

 

[Farawyn]

Hmmm...so maybe if instead of a kitten, I was more like a lioness and instead of being an owner, my husband was either a hunter or another lion...that would be closer to primal?

I wonder if it's the "fight back" aspect that makes it primal? That feeling of trying to fight the hunter but the prey, in the end, succumbing to his/her power? Being overpowered after resistance?

Very interesting...it's possible that I'm overthinking this.

Or being unable to resist. At all.

 

[Farawyn]

I'll share a bit.

Identifying as Primal ( for me ) isn't a fetish or a kink, rather it's a personality type, who/what you are. It's not associated with a specific item or situation, more a pervading attitude when it comes to sex. You let yourself go and operate more on instinct than anything else. Everything becomes raw and immediate, action and reaction, cause and effect, predator and prey. Some people identify as a specific type of animal, assuming traits and habits, others act more like cavemen and women, base and simple, but there is beauty in that. Honesty. With that, comes another constant. Scratching, hair pulling, rough sex, choking, spanking, hard grabbing, pinning, growling, screaming, and of course, b i t i n g. Messy, being Primal is messy. Regardless of whether or not you are a hunter or prey, you're going to walk alway marked up, every time.

I love a good game. I play them all the time. I can't turn it off, not even if I wanted to. I've said it before, I get triggered by little things mostly, I get riled up and I start. Questions pour out that get her to admit things she normally wouldn't. Leaning in close and not breaking eye contact, she will though. Pointing out that she's become flushed, red looks good on her. Get her to lower her guard and let me in, then she's mine. Getting in close and circling, literally and metaphorically, poking and pushing and getting her all out of sorts, warning her that she better stop me now because I'm about to fucking lose it, that she should take her clothes off if she doesn't want them ripped off, and that I hope she wore underwear she won't miss. The best part, is not that she's going to end up looking like she got fucked by some wild animal, no, what does it for me, is when I look in the mirror, and see that I look like I did. While I place an emphasis on variety and unpredictability, I can guarantee that she will end up with me under her fingernails. Every. Time.

As for what " type " of Primal I am, or if I identify as something specifically... Well, what do you think I am.

Thank you.
I think this is why toys and floggers and pretty rope patterns don't hold much appeal for me. This seems to be the exact opposite of that.

Control.

Is it controlled? At all? Or a total loss of control? Ravishment?

 

[Miles Long]

What a bunch of sick pervs!

 

[_Necrosomantic_]

Hmmm...so maybe if instead of a kitten, I was more like a lioness and instead of being an owner, my husband was either a hunter or another lion...that would be closer to primal?

I wonder if it's the "fight back" aspect that makes it primal? That feeling of trying to fight the hunter but the prey, in the end, succumbing to his/her power? Being overpowered after resistance?

Very interesting...it's possible that I'm overthinking this.

It's not " fighting back ", its instinct. Why the fuck would you let someone who can't overpower/protect you, have you? There are even groups of people that have established pack orders. Not my thing, but that should be a bit of an indication as to the general attitude towards of to handle things. You want it? Come prove that you're high enough up on the food chain to take it.

Thank you.
I think this is why toys and floggers and pretty rope patterns don't hold much appeal for me. This seems to be the exact opposite of that.

Control.

Is it controlled? At all? Or a total loss of control? Ravishment?

I don't discount those things, but they certainly make things a bit impersonal to me. Why would I use a paddle when I have more control of my hand, and I want to feel your skin heat up while I rub the sting away, that kind of thing.

Of course there's control, you don't want to " hurt " someone, but certainly make it feel like you could. Givin in to instinct isn't a loss of control, you're aware and even hyper aware of what you're doing, just not communicating in a high functioning manner. The illusion of a loss of control, is more accurate. I'll scare you, make you feel like a deer in headlights, like you're in the room with something big and bad. But it's okay, I'm not gonna hurt you Cutey, I'm just gonna eat you

 

[barefootgirl69]

*Crashes the Far/Honey storytime party*

I have a pen and paper to take notes! And wine!

*glances over to see if "someone" really does have freckle boobs* (I love freckles!! On boobs? Even better!)

*plops down next to Eva to go over notes and see what I missed*

Adds my two cents worth... isn't it 'primal' because you give over to the animal inside?

 

[Farawyn]

What a bunch of sick pervs!