Does it make me a Dom if..

[maveric74]

I like the thought of controlling when we have sex, where we have sex and how we have sex?
If I like the idea of fucking you in every hole and seeing how much pleasure you derive from it as your eyes roll back in your head and your mouth stays open and there is a guttural, animalistic moan in your throat?
If I love the thought of cumming inside you, over you, in your mouth and on your face?
If I like the idea of tying you up, blindfolding you and using you for my pleasure for as long as I like?
If I like the fantasy of fucking you in ways that you are uncomfortable with?

If I get off on the following?
anal? rape rp? dress up like a slut or a prostitute? use you like a fucktoy? whisper dirty words in your ear as I fuck you? make you squirt or cum uncontrollably? video our fuck sessions and then watch them back as you suck my cock?

spank your ass and slap your tits, pinch your nipples and bite your clit and finger your ass as you orgasm?

love some help from some experienced women to help me understand these tendencies..

Note: I have never done any of the above. I'm in a normal, married relationship where the sex is very vanilla and I can perform perfectly fine, but it isn't mind-blowing.

 

[HisArpy]

The Personals are over that way --->

 

[tryn2Bgood]

Maybe? I Dom CAN like those things, but liking them doesn't necessarily mean you're a Dom.

 

[Betticus]

Nope.. that just says you are a rapist. Do not ever confuse being a dominant with being an abusive asshole who says he is a dom to excuse in his own mind that he is someone a real dom would break and shake.

You sir.. are just a sick asshole.

Not a dom.. not even close.

Go try to find acceptance somewhere else you self absorbed piece of shit. Better yet.. find some rope and treat yourself like you treat others...

 

[Farawyn]

He's not a rapist if the woman is consenting.

No, those things you mentioned do not make you a Dom.

 

[Miles Long]

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spank your ass and slap your tits, pinch your nipples and bite your clit and finger your ass as you orgasm?

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I'm pretty sure being able to do all of that at once means you have to be an octopus!

 

[HisArpy]

Does it make me a Dom if I:

Drink milk straight from the container?
Buy Fruitloops because I think they are really festive Cheerios and I need the morning cheer?
Wash my socks with my shirts and pants in the same laundry load?
Use only premium grade gas?
Or...

 

[Blue]

Does it make me a Dom if I:

Drink milk straight from the container?
Buy Fruitloops because I think they are really festive Cheerios and I need the morning cheer?
Wash my socks with my shirts and pants in the same laundry load?
Use only premium grade gas?
Or...

REAL doms drink milk from a glass you poser scum!

 

[HisArpy]

Damn, I am revealed as a fraud. What will I do now? What will I do?

 

[Farawyn]

Damn, I am revealed as a fraud. What will I do now? What will I do?

Go sit with OP?

 

[HisArpy]

 

[HisArpy]

Ok, that's enough role play for me.

 

[Farawyn]

Ok, that's enough role play for me.

Ahahaha!

 

[HisArpy]

Ahahaha!

Hey, I can be silly sometimes. I think that fills my quota for the month though. 25 minutes all at once was tough.

Now, why is the milk jug on the counter in my kitchen?

 

[hylas_]

Actually, sounds to me like you are a dominant... you're certainly not a rapist for having rape fantasies.
Alas, I'm not an "experienced woman" who can help you out further

 

[Farawyn]

Actually, sounds to me like you are a dominant... you're certainly not a rapist for having rape fantasies.
Alas, I'm not an "experienced woman" who can help you out further

I agree, not a rapist. That was over the top.
But how is he a dominant?

 

[hylas_]

He has sexual fantasies about controling folks.
How would you define/describe a dominant?

 

[Miasorrow]

I like the thought of controlling when we have sex, where we have sex and how we have sex?
If I like the idea of fucking you in every hole and seeing how much pleasure you derive from it as your eyes roll back in your head and your mouth stays open and there is a guttural, animalistic moan in your throat?
If I love the thought of cumming inside you, over you, in your mouth and on your face?
If I like the idea of tying you up, blindfolding you and using you for my pleasure for as long as I like?
If I like the fantasy of fucking you in ways that you are uncomfortable with?

If I get off on the following?
anal? rape rp? dress up like a slut or a prostitute? use you like a fucktoy? whisper dirty words in your ear as I fuck you? make you squirt or cum uncontrollably? video our fuck sessions and then watch them back as you suck my cock?

spank your ass and slap your tits, pinch your nipples and bite your clit and finger your ass as you orgasm?

love some help from some experienced women to help me understand these tendencies..

Note: I have never done any of the above. I'm in a normal, married relationship where the sex is very vanilla and I can perform perfectly fine, but it isn't mind-blowing.

Do you feel the need to control a woman; her feelings, brains and persona; protect, claim and own her; get so close to someone that they share their deepest desires and admit their hidden thoughts; make them say things and do things they have never done with another?

And I do not consider myself experienced at all.

 

[Farawyn]

He has sexual fantasies about controling folks.
How would you define/describe a dominant?

Not like that.
Rough sex play is such a small part of it, yes?
The sub should want to, need to, have to give in on an emotional level, too. I think the want to please is stronger than fear of not pleasing, although I don't discount that entirely. I like being wary and physically overpowered, but I think there is so much more.

 

[hylas_]

As I see it, there are so many different ways to be a Dom.
Emotional, physical, nurturing, ice cold, etc... and everything in between and combined.
I'm thinking of the "Gentle Femdom" thread now, and how that has very little to do with what the OP is expressing here.
Still, what - in my opinion - all Doms have in common is that they get off on, well, domination.
Applies to this guy, I say.

 

[Farawyn]

As I see it, there are so many different ways to be a Dom.
Emotional, physical, nurturing, ice cold, etc... and everything in between and combined.
I'm thinking of the "Gentle Femdom" thread now, and how that has very little to do with what the OP is expressing here.
Still, what - in my opinion - all Doms have in common is that they get off on, well, domination.
Applies to this guy, I say.

Okay. I see your point.
Maybe the OP put me off as I read it as a Personal.

 

[hylas_]

I just took it at face value, but you're probably right. Now I see that he actually also did post Personals.

 

[Farawyn]

I just took it at face value, but you're probably right. Now I see that he actually also did post Personals.

And he asks for women to weigh in.
I would think he would also want experienced Doms to weigh in as well.

 

[maveric74]

Do you feel the need to control a woman; her feelings, brains and persona; protect, claim and own her; get so close to someone that they share their deepest desires and admit their hidden thoughts; make them say things and do things they have never done with another?

And I do not consider myself experienced at all.

Hey all,

A lot has been said about me here and my post. Most of it vile and disgusting. Luckily, I'm in my 40's and pretty thick-skinned to even bother with the abusive posters.

I am married. I've never abused or raped a woman or my wife. I have never indulged in rough sex with anyone. I respect women and certainly don't degrade them. The "rape" fantasy is just that. A fantasy. And I would only ever indulge in it with a consenting partner if she got off on it as well. I have spoken to some women on Literotica and they have these fantasies as well..of being taken forcibly by strangers.

I thought this would have been an ideal forum to share my thoughts and desires and maybe I am a Dom or maybe I'm not. But imagine if I was an inexperienced and young person wanting to know more about becoming a Dom? After some of the vitriol here, they would never come back here and be too scared to openly express their sexual desires. Were you always a Dom? Did you wake up one day and just become a Dom? Were you born a Dom? I don't think so..

MiaSorrow, in response to your question..

Do you feel the need to control a woman; Yes, I do

her feelings, brains and persona; No, not her feelings, brains and persona. I like strong, independent women on the outside but submissive for me sexually.

protect, claim and own her; Yes, love to own her

get so close to someone that they share their deepest desires and admit their hidden thoughts; make them say things and do things they have never done with another?
Yes and Yes. Love the thought of sharing innermost desires, thoughts with someone and that is so intimate and trusting.

For some of you wonderful people who understood this post and responded in an intelligent manner, thank you. For the rest, I have no words. You cannot know a person, judge a book by it's cover alone. I am a complex human being with some strong, primal desires but definitely not scum or a rapist.

cheers,
maveric74

 

[Blue]

[..]

Hold on.

You posted a creepy, unsolicited, self-aggrandizing (and probably overcompensating) sexual advertisement on a social forum in which you made some quite morally ambiguous statements about how you would entirely disregard a hypothetical partner's consent to what you do to them. Effectively painting yourself as one-of-a-million lonely narcissists on the internet.

And now you're setting up a victim card factory and telling the people here how awful they must be for telling you that your distasteful & rapey personal ad makes you sound like a rapist.

Ok.