A Final Foray (Maybe?): 39F for Gentleman

[Desiree_Radcliffe]

It is me again.

A while back I wrote an advert in which I was seeking a gentleman. I spent a lot of time talking about who I was and what I desired. However, I don't think I really knew what I wanted, and so now I wonder if I shouldn't be a little more specific to clear up confusion. So, here we go again.

I am a 39-year-old educated woman drifting rather aimlessly through the world. As I wrote in the other post, I probably fill two of your fantasies, as I work in a library and am goth. I genuinely enjoy The Cure, cemetery strolls, and wearing a lot of black (I don't always wear black). I don't "dress goth" for anyone. I do it because I have been goth for years, and it suits my philosophy and frankly makes me happy.

I've seen people post ads here for all sorts of things, so I am going to try to better illustrate what I am looking for.

I'd like a long term online-only dynamic with someone who has or can make time. I have found that this has been very difficult to find, because a lot of the men here are married and devote most of their time to either their spouse or sneaking around on their spouse. I find that degrading to both me and the spouse, so I don't go there. I know a lot of you have your reasons, but I will put you on ignore if you whinge about them here. I am not for you and you can scroll on. PS: I don't hate the married men here. I will just not engage with them sexually.

Having said that, for the right person I can be utterly devoted. I am very submissive, so I do tend to value a power dynamic, but what that entails can be very flexible. I am not into degradation or being objectified, so if that is your thing, it would be OK to scroll on. I am into being pleasing, obedient, and some other more specific things that we can discuss if this pleases you.

Time is so important to me. It's very frustrating when someone is never online at the same time, or does feast or famine communication. I do not ask for a constant online presence, but even daily textual conversation would be welcome. As I said before, I am looking for online-only. I value my privacy and solitude, and while I do always hope for some philosophical and intimate connection, I am not here for anything that will last forever. Just enjoy it while we can.

So, if you have some time and are hopefully a decent, well-read person, this is the advert for you. For reference, I am in the EST time zone, but I do have flexibility if you don't mind having the same. Thank you for reading and I wish you all the best.

 

[ccs29745]

Good luck on finding that special online friend. ⚘️

 

[Landshark1]

It is me again.

A while back I wrote an advert in which I was seeking a gentleman. I spent a lot of time talking about who I was and what I desired. However, I don't think I really knew what I wanted, and so now I wonder if I shouldn't be a little more specific to clear up confusion. So, here we go again.

I am a 39-year-old educated woman drifting rather aimlessly through the world. As I wrote in the other post, I probably fill two of your fantasies, as I work in a library and am goth. I genuinely enjoy The Cure, cemetery strolls, and wearing a lot of black (I don't always wear black). I don't "dress goth" for anyone. I do it because I have been goth for years, and it suits my philosophy and frankly makes me happy.

I've seen people post ads here for all sorts of things, so I am going to try to better illustrate what I am looking for.

I'd like a long term online-only dynamic with someone who has or can make time. I have found that this has been very difficult to find, because a lot of the men here are married and devote most of their time to either their spouse or sneaking around on their spouse. I find that degrading to both me and the spouse, so I don't go there. I know a lot of you have your reasons, but I will put you on ignore if you whinge about them here. I am not for you and you can scroll on. PS: I don't hate the married men here. I will just not engage with them sexually.

Having said that, for the right person I can be utterly devoted. I am very submissive, so I do tend to value a power dynamic, but what that entails can be very flexible. I am not into degradation or being objectified, so if that is your thing, it would be OK to scroll on. I am into being pleasing, obedient, and some other more specific things that we can discuss if this pleases you.

Time is so important to me. It's very frustrating when someone is never online at the same time, or does feast or famine communication. I do not ask for a constant online presence, but even daily textual conversation would be welcome. As I said before, I am looking for online-only. I value my privacy and solitude, and while I do always hope for some philosophical and intimate connection, I am not here for anything that will last forever. Just enjoy it while we can.

So, if you have some time and are hopefully a decent, well-read person, this is the advert for you. For reference, I am in the EST time zone, but I do have flexibility if you don't mind having the same. Thank you for reading and I wish you all the best.

I hope you find what you’re looking for

 

[Desiree_Radcliffe]

Thank you both. I really appreciate it. We'll see how this goes.

 

[Desiree_Radcliffe]

I should also mention my age preference is for gents between 35 and 55. Thank you for your consideration.

 

[BansheeDaddy23]

I sent you a message but I don’t know if I’m a worthy applicant or not

 

[Desiree_Radcliffe]

I figure, since this is a thread, instead of bumping it mindlessly like so many people do, why not make it a discussion thread of random stuff?

Random facts. What is a niche random fact that you know? Share it on this thread. You do not need to be an applicable person to share it. I just like learning new things. I will start out by offering two.

Random Fact 1: In the 19th century, people were worried about being buried alive, and with good reason. It was, at the time, more difficult to definitively determine death, and so people did occasionally get placed in a coffin only to revive. As such, a system was invented, using a bell pulley, so that the buried person could hopefully pull the bell, it will ring, and the person will be saved from an untimely grave, like so.

Random Fact 2: The vibrator thing is a myth. An academic wrote a whole book about how the Victorians invented the vibrator so that they could induce "hysterical paroxysm" (READ: orgasm) in women at a quicker rate. The Atlantic wrote about it a few years ago and it's fascinating. The person was never peer reviewed and just kind of made it all up, about the hysterical paroxysms, the pelvic massage, and the reason for the vibrator. The more you know!

 

[MysteriousStrangerI]

I figure, since this is a thread, instead of bumping it mindlessly like so many people do, why not make it a discussion thread of random stuff?

Random facts. What is a niche random fact that you know? Share it on this thread. You do not need to be an applicable person to share it. I just like learning new things. I will start out by offering two.

Random Fact 1: In the 19th century, people were worried about being buried alive, and with good reason. It was, at the time, more difficult to definitively determine death, and so people did occasionally get placed in a coffin only to revive. As such, a system was invented, using a bell pulley, so that the buried person could hopefully pull the bell, it will ring, and the person will be saved from an untimely grave, like so.

Random Fact 2: The vibrator thing is a myth. An academic wrote a whole book about how the Victorians invented the vibrator so that they could induce "hysterical paroxysm" (READ: orgasm) in women at a quicker rate. The Atlantic wrote about it a few years ago and it's fascinating. The person was never peer reviewed and just kind of made it all up, about the hysterical paroxysms, the pelvic massage, and the reason for the vibrator. The more you know!

There was a plant that grew i around the Mediterranean. It was, based on writings of the time, an incredibly efficacious and symptom free birth control. And it was used by all the peoples of the Mediterranean, from Levantine, Egyptian, Libyan, Phoenician, Celt, Greek, Minoan and so on
So effective but poorly managed
And it is now extinct
Scientists continue to look for traces of it, some spore, some seed, a leaf maybe

I will not get into the 'pelvic' origins of the chainsaw

If you are looking for a mature man who loves a good bout of Nerd-Fu - two nerds enter, many facts are thrown, everyone learns some new stuff and it only ends when one says, "I knew that!"

I had two friends, both of whom passed away young (52 and 54) who would challenge me.

My second fun bit is a bit more speculative but is backed by history. Every knows Joan of Arc (Jeanne d'Arc en francais) and how, in France's darkest hour, with mad English kings, Henry IV,, then V, ravaging the French countryside, destroyig French army after French army, a young girl from Domremy spoke with angels who told her she was to ensure that the Dauphin (heir to the king) would be crowned King of France and secure the throne from the English and Burgundians (right about now you might be making a face and saying, "tell me something I didn't know!"
Okay... Joan saved England too
Had England been able to secure the French throne, England would go from an 'island of ugly sociopaths off the coast of civilization' to the leading power in Europe. Do not mistake 15th century France for the 'cheese eating surrender monkeys' of more modern times - they were a superpower. When they fought, they won (except against England). When they negotiated, they won (again...), they were the centre of fashion, their language was THE language of commerce, exploration and culture
If England had won, they would've moved their capital to where they generated the most taxes, Paris. Even though defeated, the nobles of France would dominate in numbers, so court would speak French. In our world, Henry V was probably the first Engish king who spoke mainly English
The prestigious nobles of England would be granted domains in France and move there to administer them. England would be a neglected backwater. And, without the English to draw off their energy, France would absolutely dominate all European powers, Hapsburg, HRE, Spain, and Sweden
No England means no industrial revolution, or, at least, much later
England is the mother of Parliaments. So democracy, universal rights, and such are much delayed because France, a Divine Right MOnarchy, would never be weakened by her wars with England (which lead, by the way, to France financing and assisting certain English rebels, i.e. the USA. The cost of that broke them, leading to the French Revolution and Napoleonic era!).
Scotland remains part of the Auld Alliance, themselves and France.
Colonization of the New World is much, much less - The French had a few small colonies but were always more interested in trade, converting the natives (there method was convincing, as opposed to the Spanish, "Convert to Christianity or die. Or both. Don't really care"

If this sounds of interest, I am mid 50s, smart as a whip, pretty funny, but bored stupid and alone. DM me - let's tell each other stories

 

[Desiree_Radcliffe]

That sounds like a lot of speculation, if I am honest. Speculation cannot be factual, unfortunately, because it is by its basis is "could have, would have, should have," which is, well, speculative. I suppose I could speculate about how certain wars going certain ways would fend off colonizers and we'd have a happier world at large.

I studied French history rather intently during my undergrad days and had an obsession with Napoleon Bonaparte for much longer than I care to admit. The only thing I can do, I guess, is quote the wretched Morrissey: "Now I know how Joan of Arc felt..."

 

[Spanky1372]

That sounds like a lot of speculation, if I am honest. Speculation cannot be factual, unfortunately, because it is by its basis is "could have, would have, should have," which is, well, speculative. I suppose I could speculate about how certain wars going certain ways would fend off colonizers and we'd have a happier world at large.

I studied French history rather intently during my undergrad days and had an obsession with Napoleon Bonaparte for much longer than I care to admit. The only thing I can do, I guess, is quote the wretched Morrissey: "Now I know how Joan of Arc felt..."

But didn't her Walkman start to melt?

 

[MrMrsMrsMr]

Random Fact 1: In the 19th century, people were worried about being buried alive, and with good reason. It was, at the time, more difficult to definitively determine death, and so people did occasionally get placed in a coffin only to revive. As such, a system was invented, using a bell pulley, so that the buried person could hopefully pull the bell, it will ring, and the person will be saved from an untimely grave, like so.

The origin of the saying for whom the bell tolls.

 

[MrMrsMrsMr]

That sounds like a lot of speculation, if I am honest. Speculation cannot be factual, unfortunately, because it is by its basis is "could have, would have, should have," which is, well, speculative. I suppose I could speculate about how certain wars going certain ways would fend off colonizers and we'd have a happier world at large.

On speculation: I posit, without speculation scientific exploration would never have eventuated. And as for the value of speculative thought, Sigmund Freud is the prime example. Interestingly, much of his speculative theorising is still yet to be scientifically evidenced e.g there is / was no evidence to support Freud’s speculations on the existence of a subconscious. And there remains no evidence to support the existence of a subconscious. Yet it is excepted as fact.

Some other favourite examples of the fallacy of science is the humble bumble.bee. The physics that enables planes to fly also predicts it is impossible for bumble bees to fly. But they do and once upon a time Einstein mockingly called quantum mechanics spooky action at a
distance.

One thing we need not speculate about is my lack of intelligence as clearly evidenced above.

 

[MrMrsMrsMr]

A man walks into Freud’s office dressed entirely in cling film, Freud said I can clearly see “your” nuts.

 

[alex4every1]

Hi! EST is pretty significant time difference (I'm +7 hrs) so I am probably far from being a good fit. Just turned 40.
I am into chat about anything and not focused on sext. I like to have good virtual connection, when it just clicks and simply works. If it doesn't come naturally, I prefer to let go...
You sound and interesting person, so I couldn't just pass.

There is no "Did you know" fact that instantly came across my mind.
Except the revekation that many "once upon a time" stories are based on biblical stories. Like Snow White's poisoned apple and the story of Adam and Eve. I feel like I missed it abd everyone knows that, but it is new for me. Heared it during a tour at the Vatican last week.

I like to travel and got some standard hobbies. Started stargazing recently...

I knew about the bell, by the way. I didn't know about the vibrators, but I love 'em!

In any case, best of luck finding what you are looking for!

 

[MysteriousStrangerI]

That sounds like a lot of speculation, if I am honest. Speculation cannot be factual, unfortunately, because it is by its basis is "could have, would have, should have," which is, well, speculative. I suppose I could speculate about how certain wars going certain ways would fend off colonizers and we'd have a happier world at large.

I studied French history rather intently during my undergrad days and had an obsession with Napoleon Bonaparte for much longer than I care to admit. The only thing I can do, I guess, is quote the wretched Morrissey: "Now I know how Joan of Arc felt..."

At her trial Joan probably felt pretty good with her reply to the English, "do you believe you are in God's Grace?"
This is the equivalent to a lawyer examining a witness, "Yes or no, have you stopped beating your wife?"
If she answered yes, it would imply she knew the mind and plans of God - lock solid heresy
If she answered no, well, that is just admitting you are not with the Big G
She replied, "If I am, may God so keep me there! If I am not, may God grant it to me!”
For an uneducated peasant (which she was) that was really out of her expected social character

Now, a lot of historical speculation requires a lot of handwaving, dismissing issues. I think my Joan althist is pretty solid.

WWII althists are often balanced on one event, like the theory that FDR did not haver the aircraft carriers at Pearl Harbor to save them. Battleships are more durable, easier to fix, the harbour would allow them, for the most part, to be salvaged.
Well then, FDR was apparently a clarivoyant
No one, NO ONE, thought in 1941 that a war in the Pacific would be settled by anything other than good old fashioned steel, in the manifestation of battleships
The dominance of the carrier was a theory but not a popular one

WWII had one ending once the US entered: Allied victory

And now a fun fact: When the US began the Manhattan Project, for logistical and security reasons, work done to that point by the other allies was turned over to the US to allow them to apply the resources of the economies fo scale the US provided. The then most advanced in research, but lacking funding, was Canada

 

[Desiree_Radcliffe]

At her trial Joan probably felt pretty good with her reply to the English, "do you believe you are in God's Grace?"
This is the equivalent to a lawyer examining a witness, "Yes or no, have you stopped beating your wife?"
If she answered yes, it would imply she knew the mind and plans of God - lock solid heresy
If she answered no, well, that is just admitting you are not with the Big G
She replied, "If I am, may God so keep me there! If I am not, may God grant it to me!”
For an uneducated peasant (which she was) that was really out of her expected social character

Now, a lot of historical speculation requires a lot of handwaving, dismissing issues. I think my Joan althist is pretty solid.

WWII althists are often balanced on one event, like the theory that FDR did not haver the aircraft carriers at Pearl Harbor to save them. Battleships are more durable, easier to fix, the harbour would allow them, for the most part, to be salvaged.
Well then, FDR was apparently a clarivoyant
No one, NO ONE, thought in 1941 that a war in the Pacific would be settled by anything other than good old fashioned steel, in the manifestation of battleships
The dominance of the carrier was a theory but not a popular one

WWII had one ending once the US entered: Allied victory

And now a fun fact: When the US began the Manhattan Project, for logistical and security reasons, work done to that point by the other allies was turned over to the US to allow them to apply the resources of the economies fo scale the US provided. The then most advanced in research, but lacking funding, was Canada

Not to be rude but I didn't come to this thread to be inundated with conspiracy theories. I hope you have a good day.

 

[Desiree_Radcliffe]

On speculation: I posit, without speculation scientific exploration would never have eventuated. And as for the value of speculative thought, Sigmund Freud is the prime example. Interestingly, much of his speculative theorising is still yet to be scientifically evidenced e.g there is / was no evidence to support Freud’s speculations on the existence of a sub conscious. And there remains no evidence to support the existence of a sub conscious. Yet it is excepted as fact.

Some other favourite examples of the fallacy of science is the humble bumble.bee. The physics that enables planes to fly also predicts it is impossible for bumble bees to fly. But they do and once upon a time Einstein mockingly called quantum mechanics spooky action at a
distance.

One thing we need not speculate about is my lack of intelligence as clearly evidenced above.

Considering Freud was pioneering a field that wasn't explicitly tied to science as we practice it now, it makes sense. Modern psychiatry has tried to divorce itself from Freud for a while now because of his theories. Also, did you mean to say "excepted" or "accepted"? Because of the audacity of Freud's theories, he's popular in pop culture even now. I am not sure his particular "subconscious" theory is really accepted as a fact. It's still a theory, which is not, by definition, a fact.

Theories can be fun, sure. But if you start defining them as facts, both facts and theories entirely lose their meanings. Semantics, eh?

 

[Desiree_Radcliffe]

The origin of the saying for whom the bell tolls.

That comes from John Donne, who predates the Victorians by 300 years, give or take.

 

[Desiree_Radcliffe]

Hi! EST is pretty significant time difference (I'm +7 hrs) so I am probably far from being a good fit. Just turned 40.
I am into chat about anything and not focused on sext. I like to have good virtual connection, when it just clicks and simply works. If it doesn't come naturally, I prefer to let go...
You sound and interesting person, so I couldn't just pass.

There is no "Did you know" fact that instantly came across my mind.
Except the revekation that many "once upon a time" stories are based on biblical stories. Like Snow White's poisoned apple and the story of Adam and Eve. I feel like I missed it abd everyone knows that, but it is new for me. Heared it during a tour at the Vatican last week.

I like to travel and got some standard hobbies. Started stargazing recently...

I knew about the bell, by the way. I didn't know about the vibrators, but I love 'em!

In any case, best of luck finding what you are looking for!

Thank you.

 

[Treeview]

will not get into the 'pelvic' origins of the chainsaw

Why not?

I’d like to know since I made my living slinging chainsaws for many years

 

[MrMrsMrsMr]

That comes from John Donne, who predates the Victorians by 300 years, give or take.

I imagine his tomb stone reads:

For whom the bell tolls
Here lies John Donne,
born into a recusant family.
A Poet, Soldier, & Anglican
made Cleric by order of the King.

 

[MrMrsMrsMr]

Also, did you mean to say "excepted" or "accepted"?

As a person prone to sporting, spelling was never a foray or English my first language. I shall consider my messages suitably appended. Or is it tongued in semantic cheek?

 

[MrMrsMrsMr]

There is no "Did you know" fact that instantly came across my mind.
Except the revekation that many "once upon a time" stories are based on biblical stories. Like Snow White's poisoned apple and the story of Adam and Eve. I feel like I missed it abd everyone knows that, but it is new for me. Heared it during a tour at the Vatican last week.

I think a salubrious argument could be pleasurably mounted that it’s actually the other way around. Given that; paganism, animism and all other isms including orgasms predate the Vatican’s binary schismogenesis.

 

[MrMrsMrsMr]

Thank you.

@alex4every1 is a genuinely nice person.

 

[Desiree_Radcliffe]

As a person prone to sporting, spelling was never a foray or English my first language. I shall consider my messages suitably appended. Or is it tongued in semantic cheek?

I don't care.