abortion

[Dougy]

Ultimately it is your decision and one that you should make with you in mind. The fact is that it is a fetus...little more than the conjunction of sperm and egg. People are trying to make a moral issue of what should be a simple biological one. At this point a fish has more awareness than the fetus. Sure, there is more biological potential here than a fish, but nonetheless it will never know and the world won't be any worse off for lacking a child.

I should have just stayed out of this, but I have known too many people that passed through bad adoption and foster care situations. Granted, for every bad adoption there are probably many good ones, but why take that chance? Have a child when you are ready to provide the love and nurturing that will allow it to grow up to be happy and well adjusted. Don't just throw another child out there to land where it may.

This is not something that anyone has a right to make you feel bad about either way (such a hypocrite am I...). My thoughts are with you, and I hope that things turn out for the best.

 

[RawHumor]

about the what if talk, we had it, and kyle said, if you do get pregnant, its up to you what you do, if you keep it, great, if you have an abortion, do it and dont tell me about it

He sounds quite mature. [/sarcasm]

Just don't too anything too quickly. As was said earlier, you can't take back the decision once you decide to terminate the pregnancy.

 

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[Myrrdin]

Fearing your parents is NOT, i repeat NOT a reason for an abortion.

Why not?
Knowing your parents and boyfriend are going to be of no help at all, at this stage of your life, seems a perfectly valid reason to me. (Parents take heed)

Your own life is the most important one SLT. It maybe time to decide how you want to be spending it, for the next 10- 15 or so years.

If that point comes, do you know about mifeprestone. It's just become more widely available to women in the UK.

http://news.bbc.co.uk/hi/english/health/newsid_2107000/2107700.stm

 

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[mischeviousmisti]

in the end all you really have is yourself. being disowned by your parents isn't so awful. you don't ahve to deal with themt aht way, espeically with their unsupportiveness. i found that out first hand. also boyfriends come and go, do what you want and you feel is right. dont' take into account what other ppl say, well, take heed of advice but don't let them run your life. don't let fear run your life. do what you want to be happy and feel good about yourself as a person. it takes time to really understand and appreciate your own decisions, so don't be hasty and dont 'let others decide for you.

 

[markb325]

PLease take time to consider ythis a little more. You have a good size window to have the abortion, so give it thought before you do it. You cant change your mind after the fact.

I have to agree with EE here. Take the time to consider everything.

Fearing your parents is NOT, i repeat NOT a reason for an abortion.

Parents might get upset but unless they are totally heartless they get over it.

Ultimately it is your decision and one that you should make with you in mind. The fact is that it is a fetus...little more than the conjunction of sperm and egg. People are trying to make a moral issue of what should be a simple biological one. At this point a fish has more awareness than the fetus. Sure, there is more biological potential here than a fish, but nonetheless it will never know and the world won't be any worse off for lacking a child.

And this part is still being debated today.

Take the time to think you way through this. And don't do anything while your upset.

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

when i asked if it could be a false positive the lady said "absolutely not"

Not to give you false hope, but this is bullshit! There is no such thing as absolutes with such testing, especially pregnancy tests which use hormones for detection. Just the same, with a clinic test your chances are high that you pregnant, and I wouldn't get your hopes up that it is a false positive as the chances are slim.

As for abortion, I personally am against it on moral and religious grounds, but at this point in time that is your decision - I suggest not only seeing an MD but also seeing a couselor of some sort to help you figure out what it is that you want to do. At some point you should tell your boyfriend if for no other reason than he has the right to know what has happened and what you have decided. He may object, as is his right. Whether it is his right to have his objection heeded is debatable depending on where you come down on the issue of abortion - but he has a right to know, whatever the consequences.

As for those who say condoms don't slip, or that his penis must be small, or that he didn't know how to apply it - take it from me, it happens. I am of average size, and the condom was properly applied and of the correct size, yet it came off - it sometimes happens during vigorous sex.

 

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[mischeviousmisti]

Exactly, and my point being.
If she gets an abortion because her parents might be mad, then I see her regretting it in the future.
Feeling guilt all her life is self destructive

i completely agree with EE

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

about the what if talk, we had it, and kyle said, if you do get pregnant, its up to you what you do, if you keep it, great, if you have an abortion, do it and dont tell me about it

Sorry, I didn't see this - if he doesn't want to be told then don't tell him, but if I were you I would look for another boyfriend who would want to take responsibility for his actions, not want to be blissfully ignorant because he can't handle it.

It is too late now, but it sounds to me as if you and your boyfriend are not ready to be having sex if you, and/or especially he cannot deal with these issues. I would suggest making whatever decision you are going to make about your current situation, but to abstain from sex in the future until you both mature enough to handle the consequences.

 

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[SailorC272002]

I know this thread is not meant to be a political thread. So if anybody wants to respond in that fashion, It would be a good idea to start another thread. I believed that the country is split right down the middle on this subject. It is ironic that these boards, which I assumed would be definitly very left of center politically, that, this is not the way the responses are going.

I only place this comment here for context reasons. If somebody want to further the abortion discussion, It would probably not be best done on this thread.

I apologize in advance if anybody considers this a hijack, it was not intended to be so.