Addressing all who reply to threads....

[Known as Romeo on Lit]

I have been on this site for sometime and even longer before I registered. It took a couple years before I even posted anything. Anyways, I have noticed that when someone replies to a thread they often criticize the person for what they wrote. Even I have been at fault for this, but that is not what is ment by a free-open disscussion board. What is ment is that anything you want to discuss is a topic free for descussion.-(Discussion that do not pertain to an individule.) If you don't agree with something and it's not offending you directly, why say anything about it. If no person is individuly implamented then no offense should be taken. Doing otherwise would be trying to chage peoples views and words do not change views. Besides that is not the point of this board, but rather to bring people together. All that you are accomplishing is to make this board more restrictive because of your personal opinions. Who really would want to reply to a thread that was being criticized and further more who would want to write a thread knowing it would be scrutinized over.

One and Only,
~Romeo~

 

[Lady_Sam]

Well said Romeo. And as always love the av

 

[Known as Romeo on Lit]

Thank you Lady Sam.....

I'm hoping that people who shar equal thoughts in these words help me keep this thread bump to the beginning. I'm also going to change the AV, but you will like the next one too.

One & Only,
~Romeo~

 

[alwaysawake]

Like comedian George Carlin said on his AM/FM album (his first), when he played the Hippy Dippy weatherman...If you don't like weather--MOVE! With such a diverse melting pot of personalities here, one is bound to find some opinions that rub them the wrong way. Believing in freedom of speech--if I don't have anything positive to say...then I say nothing and move on. I may not agree with what someone posts, but I heartily defend their right to say it and will do it to my dying breath! Everybody have a great evening--AA

 

[baby blue]

well said aa...I agree whole heartily...

 

[Naughty n Nice]

Surprisingly enough, I disagree. If someone is free to start a thread and offer their opinion on a topic, then someone else is free to respond, whether they agree or not. To say that the originator has the freedom of speech, but the person responding doesn't, where does that leave us? However, the catch is, that both parties should respect each other opinions. Unfortunately, this doesn't always happen. It usually causes a raucous. (myself included)

 

[Princess Amber]

I am with you there shouldnt be negative post on here one reason i came to this site is to get away from negative things becuase i knowi get critisized for the way i am in real life and i dont like it so i dont think it should be on here we should all be understanding to what others like and what they enjoy becuase obvisouly we are all a little different then others or i dont think we would be here if we werent and i also love how people are nice here i think it should stay that i way i mean i just join this site and really dont want to be descrimanated agaisnt at a site that is made for people who are different thank you everyone who is so welcoming and nice to me i really dont have very many friends like me and it is comfrorting to know there are others out there like me and my man thankyou Alway Princess Amber

 

[shescurious]

Just a friendly little bump....

 

[Known as Romeo on Lit]

God Bless, every last one! ~Tiny Tim~

I want to thank you all for the bumping and contributing word wise.

Now, here is a discussion! Thank you for disagreeing Naughty n Nice, to an extent you are correct, but I am talking about when people who write in and their thread does not pertain to the other person(replier). Then the iniciator was not talking to you and if you so decide to write in belittling that thread or to voic how your opinion varies, you do no justic. Your simply a voic without meaning. We all have different opinions that is common knowledg. Though this is a form to act out your freedom of spech, opinions are not needed unless stated otherwise. Besides the obviouse reasons, it often throws the threads off subject..

One & Only,
~Romeo~

 

[shescurious]

I think there is a way for a person to state his opinion without hurting other people...........

 

[deyv]

my 2 cents

Sure, there's room for differing opinions but if you're considering commenting just because you don't like the topic, or find pics that you find offensive then just move on... don't be a stick in the mud.

And to echo Princess Amber, there's more than enough negativity in everyday life... and it would be nice to keep it there.

 

[hotNnasty]

Re: my 2 cents

Sure, there's room for differing opinions but if you're considering commenting just because you don't like the topic, or find pics that you find offensive then just move on... don't be a stick in the mud.

And to echo Princess Amber, there's more than enough negativity in everyday life... and it would be nice to keep it there.

Amen to that I agree completely

 

[navarre]

I couldn't agree more.
This kind of shit has been erupting on the BDSM board every 2 weeks or so throughout the summer.
If you don't like what a person says, just move on.

........and in the words of the lovely MissT....
"Don't feed the trolls"

 

[Lauren Hynde]

I have been on this site for sometime and even longer before I registered. It took a couple years before I even posted anything. Anyways, I have noticed that when someone replies to a thread they often criticize the person for what they wrote. Even I have been at fault for this, but that is not what is ment by a free-open disscussion board. What is ment is that anything you want to discuss is a topic free for descussion.-(Discussion that do not pertain to an individule.) If you don't agree with something and it's not offending you directly, why say anything about it. If no person is individuly implamented then no offense should be taken. Doing otherwise would be trying to chage peoples views and words do not change views. Besides that is not the point of this board, but rather to bring people together. All that you are accomplishing is to make this board more restrictive because of your personal opinions. Who really would want to reply to a thread that was being criticized and further more who would want to write a thread knowing it would be scrutinized over.

One and Only,
~Romeo~

I'm terribly sorry, and I don't mean in any way to break this little chain of back pats but this makes absolutely no sense at all...

This is a "free-open discussion board", like you say, and independently of how you perceive "free-open" to mean, one thing's certain: Discussion is a consideration of a question in open and usually informal debate and debate is a a contention by words or arguments. That implies differences of opinion.

If you don't agree with something, you're not supposed to say you do, just to not disturb or upset the person who said it. Pretty soon we'd have a dead board talking about the weather (but not too much, because some like it hot) and how pretty the colour blue is.

And words do change people's views, Romeo. I crave for the right words that will change my views and broaden my horizons. It will make me grow and become a better person. I welcome criticism with open arms. That's criticism: exercise of careful judgment or judicious evaluation. It has nothing to do with being rude or out of order. In fact, that is what brings people together, not pats in the back. Pats in the backs make things more restrictive (no personal opinions, no diversity, no chance to know anyone new, you might as well be talking to your mirror in the bathroom).

If you don't agree with me, feel free to say so, I love having my posts scrutinized and criticized.

My two cents, with the best intent




*hugs&kisses*

 

[Known as Romeo on Lit]

Not at all.......

That is I do not agree with you, at all. This is a nature vs. nuture debat and could be played till deth.

"I'm terribly sorry, and I don't mean in any way to break this little chain of back pats but this makes absolutely no sense at all..."

Back pats... well I could take that as your way of trying to be a smart ass, but we will just say you were being cute. This doesn't make sense to you because you automaticaly took the offensive. That is OK here because in this thread I welcome everyone's voice. Voicing your opinion when it is not asked for or said that you should not take something a certain way and you state otherwise is rude and should be tossed by the moderators. Once again I will say that these people throw threads off subject or personalize the whole damn thing between one or two people. If you disagree with a certain thread, why not start a new thread saying you disagree with a certain thread. And see just how many people are really interested in what you have to say. Instead of being rude and replying in a thread were it is not asked for or said it is not wanted. Lets be civil (I think we are all human) and raise our hands before speaking, the way were doing this it seems more like everyone's talking at once.

One & Only,
~Romeo~

 

[Known as Romeo on Lit]

Why certainly, shescurious.......

There is always a way, but people can also have a way of writting to be rude without using a hateful word.

One & Only,
~Romeo~

 

[A Desert Rose]

Deja vu

This sounds frighteningly similar to the BDSM forum.....Guess some things are pervasive

Rose

 

[1sexylady]

When I go into a thread I read what it is about...if I am uncomfortable about the subject I push the back button....if I think I could add to it I continue as I am now... I don't think anyone needs to be nasty to anyone else...but that is my opinion...I can't say I have not been myself... I sometimes just go into a thread that I have friends there and just say Hi or blow kisses...

As far as back patting....I see that... I see people starting threads to get their back patted...I say enter at your own risk...

 

[Known as Romeo on Lit]

Thank you all for voicing you opinions.....

A Desert Rose: I don't think I've ever been to the BDSM forum, but then again my memory is not to good. This thread I thought of because I was reading threads and many became hateful or were thrown completly of base. Just thought maybe people needed to here this.

1sexylady: Thank you! This is the way it should be, not to say I haven't done the same.

Lauren.Hynde: I apologize for saying you might have been trying to be a smart ass with the comment about back patts. I still waiting for you to reply again because it was your reply that I enjoyed most of all.

navarre: Thank you!

hotNnasty: Me too!

deyv: Same level of thinking here girl.

Princess Amber: It seems people can't get away from our simply vile exsistance.

Naughty n Nice: True enough, but none of us agree with all people. Does that mean we do not let the talk to say what they have to say. Do we interupt while they are give a speech. It is the same while you in the threads, start a new thread intitled Why I don't like SONSO or whatever. (I hope that isn't a sirname.)

baby blue: Thank You!

alwaysawake: Till there is no O2 left.

Lady_Sam: Last but not least, my lady. I'm glad we have found common ground.

One & Only,
~Romeo

 

[Evolone]

i think that there are salient points being made on both sides o this discussion... the major points are
1. Everyone has the right to discuss what ever topic they wish.
2. Everyone has the right to respond positively or negatively to any topic-thread.
3. Everyone has the responsibility when they enter a discussion to do so constructively.
4. Everyone has the responsibility when they enter a discussion to be aware of the topic and comment accordingly.

at least this what i have distilled from the other posts on this thread..on a personal level i feel that the whole basis of sites such as our beloved Lit is the frank and unresticted flow of ideas. And an open minded constructive negative responce can evoke alot deeper and more thought provoking discussion than a bunch of people sitting aound agreeing with themselves... like my gandma says. a one sided discussion isn't a discussion...

 

[Known as Romeo on Lit]

To discuss......

Evolone:
#1. Yes, each may create a thread to there own liking.
#2. Yes, to a certain degree, but upon disagreeing we should leave it at that.
#3. This is why I believe in two and the only way. You would not jump into the frey of a hunting tiger. Then why jump into the middle of a discussion that does not pertain to you.
#4. If you do not agree with a thread, then why not simply say why you don't and be done with it. Instead of assuming that everyone is going to write in obout the oppisite of why you object.

One & Only,
~Romeo~

 

[Evolone]

I think you are looking at each point seperately and not as they relate to each other..it takes all four points for efective discussion the most important word in my point three is the word constructive... constructive disageement is how all sides of a topic are explored and my point four is key for the whole process to work be aware of the topic and comment accordingly don't bring real life into a fantasy string if the exact nature of the topic is not evident then ask questions until it is then comment..i have observed that many problems are caused by people commenting before they understand the discussion fully...and your point thee Romeo if a person joins a discussion the discussion pertains to them... Also a point which i failed to mention last time if a person doesn't want people to comment on a discussion then they shouldn't post it they should discuss it in private messages were they can control exactly who sees what when..

 

[Known as Romeo on Lit]

Yes, each point seperately.........

I think the moderators are lacking in there jobs. This is a free board, but the free part does mean your voice has it's appropiate place such as everything else.

You have brought new light to the subject, however; I must still disagree with you. The people I am talking about are the ones who reply to a thread stating that this thread is wrong because something bad happened to them in real life. I also, do not agree with this particular case I'm talking of, but find the fantasy very fulfulling. I find that this is a comon accurance on the boards. I don't think marriage or commitment is a good thing at this point, but I don't bust into a thread titled "commited relationships" and annouce all my problems with it. Simply because I know
that this thread is not ment for me.
One & Only,
~Romeo~

 

[IBLNG2LAW]

It is the nature of all human beings to voice their opinion when they disagree with something... And being on a computer and somewhat anonymous people tend to be more open/rude than they would normally be if it were a real life situation... Kind of like being in your car and yelling at someone for cutting you off but not saying a thing to the person who cuts in front of you in a line because it would be a face to face thing then... Being anonymous gives people courage that they would not have otherwise and is a lot of the reason that some are more comfortable posting on the boards then they are having real life conversations...

The bottom line is that no matter how rude anyone thinks it is or how much it is complained about, it will always continue to happen... The most that you can do is move on to another thread or just ignore the person that is being rude... I've seen some threads here on LIT that get very personal and people tend to get their feelings hurt by what others say to them... Myself... I will never let what someone posts on a thread hurt my feelings... For someone to hurt my feelings or offend me they have to be close enough to me to know me and have a part in my life... Folks on the computer do not have that option with me...

I have no advice... just my thoughts...

 

[Evolone]

Romeo
i completely agree with you about "those" people.. that is why i specified that the commentor needs to be aware of the intent of the thread and the comments need to be relevant to the thead

O course these things are completely lost on those people who are only looking or an arguement o to disrupt a discussion unortunately there will always be people like that and there is not much to be done about it other than ignoiring them