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punctuation.
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Why do you have a low sex drive? Have you gotten medical advice on the topic?
If you've been together, and presumably monogamous, for 27+ years, why are you not willing to put forth the effort needed in your marriage?
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Is your mouth, tongue or fingers broken? Or are you lazy?
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nobody should be forced, coerced, manipulated or guilt tripped into having unwanted sex. ever. and nobody should ever have sex with a partner who doesn't want it. ever.
whatever the solution to a lack of drive may be, it's not grin'n'bear it.
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It's really giving of you to suggest she get her needs met with someone else. I just wonder how you will feel if it becomes a reality. Can you handle it? Is there something you two could do that would spark your interest?
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A really stupid idea.
Most men in your situation make an appointment with their doctor and discuss various health problems and possible treatments to boost the libido and possibly boner pills.
Every once in a while, some guy comes along who wants to watch his wife with another guy(sometimes just knowing she is with another man is enough) and tries to cloak it as compassion for his poor neglected wife.
What you are doing here is called cuckoldry. If your wife is into it, fine. It's your business. If she does this just to please your perverted needs, don't expect to have a 28th anniversary.
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If you don't want it, don't give it away.
Make the guy pay for her pussy.
Get paid.
Make the guy pay for her pussy.
Get paid.
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I'll give this fellow points for admitting he has an issue but his partner married him with the assumption that she would have sex, maybe not as often as she liked but sometimes. I think when you invite an outside party in to your relationship it can cause problems not addressing your partners needs is another way to create problems. If you care about a person, it's not being coerced. You do it because you love them. I had a partner that really hated doing dishes but was an ok cook. I hate dishes too but not to the extent they did. I said you cook, I'll do the dishes. I did the dishes (which he was bad about making a mess) because I loved him, not because I felt forced. Sometimes you do things you don't like in a relationship, hopefully it all balances out in the end.
But if you do something for a partner you don't necessarily like and feel bullied, then you aren't with the right partner.
My point was there is more than one way to please a partner sexually even if your downstairs ain't working right.
But if you do something for a partner you don't necessarily like and feel bullied, then you aren't with the right partner.
My point was there is more than one way to please a partner sexually even if your downstairs ain't working right.
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Reads like your tongue longs for foreign creampie.
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sex can't be compared to dishes.
if your drive suddenly vanishes then, yes, you have a duty to go look for the cause. it is unfair to expect the other to stay true to someone who isn't offering intimacy. but that doesn't mean anyone should have sex they don't want, just because the other wants it. that sort of sex can be emotionally and psychologically damaging, can breed resentment within a relationship, and can prevent the desire for sex returning.
'if you loved them you'd do it' is a shitty thing to say to a person who is having issues with sex.
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Toss yourself out a window. A high one. Now.
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Ok. I'm going to give you an example. And neither I nor my bf at the time asked anyone what we had to do. My bf developed a low sex drive. It got to the point where it was zero. I tried to talk to him about it. He didn't want to talk about it. It was surprising because in every other area, things were good. The last time I approached him about sex, he looked at me and said, "Use the vibrator." I took the vibrator and threw it supersonically into the garbage. He didn't notice because he had fallen asleep. A night or two later he shows some interest in conjugating with me. I am still pissed and feeling rejected. So, I sweetly tell him to get the vibrator. He looks at me funny. I then tell him he'll probably have a hard time finding it anyway. He wants to know why. "Because I threw it in the damn trash!"
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You should be consulting with a Urologist or eating Testosterone like M&M's not looking for advice on Lit. Idiota
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Agreed.
Nor should anyone be forced, coerced, manipulated guilt-tripped into feeling obligated to remain in monogamous celibacy.
99% sure the OP is trolling. If not, some discussion of partners needs and wants is in order. Not sure she needs an official hall-pass from him or that he needs be given the voyeuristic details that I would guess he prefers to the anachronistic "husbandly duties."
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agreed.
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Do you have any nude photos of your wife to post?
Maybe your limpness is due to her being less attractive than you are saying.
Maybe your limpness is due to her being less attractive than you are saying.
