All I want is to be wanted

[PaigeofPleasure]

My man has resolved to only touching me when I ask, and only because I’ve asked. It’s absolutely torturous for me. I want to be devoured, taken, used, needed.. I just want to feel him twitch inside me, but he won’t even fuck me anymore. Sometimes im
selfish and will just take his fingers.. but I want so so much more. Deeper. Harder.

I can’t think about it too much or I’ll go insane. I’m considering just going out and fucking Someone just to remember what it felt like. I’m far, far too needy to live like this anymore.

 

[Smoothshavendad]

My man has resolved to only touching me when I ask, and only because I’ve asked. It’s absolutely torturous for me. I want to be devoured, taken, used, needed.. I just want to feel him twitch inside me, but he won’t even fuck me anymore. Sometimes im
selfish and will just take his fingers.. but I want so so much more. Deeper. Harder.

I can’t think about it too much or I’ll go insane. I’m considering just going out and fucking Someone just to remember what it felt like. I’m far, far too needy to live like this anymore.

I am right there with you. I am lying here in a separate bed all alone going crazy …

 

[lily_wall_]

Any time I read posts like, be it from men or women, it makes me sad.

I wanna come and slap some sense into your man. Did you guys think about going to counselling?

 

[matureman32]

My man has resolved to only touching me when I ask, and only because I’ve asked. It’s absolutely torturous for me. I want to be devoured, taken, used, needed.. I just want to feel him twitch inside me, but he won’t even fuck me anymore. Sometimes im
selfish and will just take his fingers.. but I want so so much more. Deeper. Harder.

I can’t think about it too much or I’ll go insane. I’m considering just going out and fucking Someone just to remember what it felt like. I’m far, far too needy to live like this anymore.

Friends here on Lit keep me still loving life. Hope you find someone who appreciates you!

 

[MightyMilly]

Sounds like some of us need new men.....

 

[Zolitair]

My man has resolved to only touching me when I ask, and only because I’ve asked. It’s absolutely torturous for me. I want to be devoured, taken, used, needed.. I just want to feel him twitch inside me, but he won’t even fuck me anymore. Sometimes im
selfish and will just take his fingers.. but I want so so much more. Deeper. Harder.

I can’t think about it too much or I’ll go insane. I’m considering just going out and fucking Someone just to remember what it felt like. I’m far, far too needy to live like this anymore.

Looks like you need to find someone to appreciate you sweetie!!!
All women need to feel wanted and have someone lust for them!!!
Sounds like you need to go out and find someone that will take you and make you feel wanted and treat you right!!!

 

[LuridStoryteller]

Everyone deserves to feel loved and wanted, everyone deserves to know intimacy. I hope your situation reverse/resolves itself very soon.

 

[conquen]

I feel you pain. I’m in the same situation. My wife is no longer interested in sex. I don’t get it, I’m fit, I take care of myself and we are in love. The desire to be wanted is normal and difficult to deny.

 

[SirSparky]

My man has resolved to only touching me when I ask, and only because I’ve asked. It’s absolutely torturous for me. I want to be devoured, taken, used, needed.. I just want to feel him twitch inside me, but he won’t even fuck me anymore. Sometimes im
selfish and will just take his fingers.. but I want so so much more. Deeper. Harder.

I can’t think about it too much or I’ll go insane. I’m considering just going out and fucking Someone just to remember what it felt like. I’m far, far too needy to live like this anymore.

Oh you poor thing. It is so sad when relationships get to this level, begging him to touch you.

I know how you feel. My ex wife was like that in the last few years of our marriage. She would hardly touch me. Even gor to the point she would sleep on the sofa/couch when I was in bed.

 

[LadyJen7]

I feel you pain. I’m in the same situation. My wife is no longer interested in sex. I don’t get it, I’m fit, I take care of myself and we are in love. The desire to be wanted is normal and difficult to deny.

I chatted about this with others. It leaves me sad. I don't totally understand because my desire is strong. I guess I can't understand. Bummed.

 

[Winchester3030]

You know this goes both ways, for men and ladies, my wife has never wanted me sexually or at least that’s the way she acts, I have had willing, loving partners before and my wife has never been that way. It’s a lot to deal with! I’m sorry others go without any one wanting them, I just don’t understand why it has to be this way

 

[PaigeofPleasure]

Oh you poor thing. It is so sad when relationships get to this level, begging him to touch you.

I know how you feel. My ex wife was like that in the last few years of our marriage. She would hardly touch me. Even gor to the point she would sleep on the sofa/couch when I was in bed.

He does that sometimes too

 

[SirSparky]

He does that sometimes too

You are welcome to DM if you want to discuss more about this.

 

[Shaglus_Ziegler]

My man has resolved to only touching me when I ask, and only because I’ve asked. It’s absolutely torturous for me. I want to be devoured, taken, used, needed.. I just want to feel him twitch inside me, but he won’t even fuck me anymore. Sometimes im
selfish and will just take his fingers.. but I want so so much more. Deeper. Harder.

I can’t think about it too much or I’ll go insane. I’m considering just going out and fucking Someone just to remember what it felt like. I’m far, far too needy to live like this anymore.

Ain’t right.

 

[bestkeptsecret678]

I feel you pain. I’m in the same situation. My wife is no longer interested in sex. I don’t get it, I’m fit, I take care of myself and we are in love. The desire to be wanted is normal and difficult to deny.

this all made more sense for me once I’d studied up on the concept (or condition?) of asexuality. Libido exists on a spectrum from supercharged to none at all. Its wired into us. For some humans, feelings of physical desire just don’t occur. they can’t help it. But, i’m not the expert, mind you…

 

[Rob_Royale]

my wife has never wanted me sexually or at least that’s the way she acts,

Then I have to ask, why are you married to this person? On a list of potential life mate criteria, the [ ] Does she want you sexually - check box is right at the top of the list.

 

[bestkeptsecret678]

Then I have to ask, why are you married to this person? On a list of potential life mate criteria, the [ ] Does she want you sexually - check box is right at the top of the list.

Taking this point just in the context of marriage criteria, maybe not.

I read a hypothesis recently that men don’t marry their soul mates. They marry the woman in front of them when they are ready to marry.

Describes me pretty well. In hindsight I can see the issue of mismatched libido’s but also know that I wasn’t mature enough to recognize it then.

I’ve also come to believe that asexual people might just play along, especially early in a relationship, minus actual feelings of desire, because they see that’s what society expects of them. I read an account by an asexual adult who said precisely this.

 

[BlueChamisa]

My man has resolved to only touching me when I ask, and only because I’ve asked. It’s absolutely torturous for me. I want to be devoured, taken, used, needed.. I just want to feel him twitch inside me, but he won’t even fuck me anymore. Sometimes im
selfish and will just take his fingers.. but I want so so much more. Deeper. Harder.

I can’t think about it too much or I’ll go insane. I’m considering just going out and fucking Someone just to remember what it felt like. I’m far, far too needy to live like this anymore.

Why has he decided to leave all initiation to you? Just curious. Thanks

 

[AngelColleen]

Then I have to ask, why are you married to this person? On a list of potential life mate criteria, the [ ] Does she want you sexually - check box is right at the top of the list.

For some of us things changed over time. Sex started out amazing and we couldn’t keep our hands off each other. Then kids and life happened and the intimacy dwindled away. Leaving is not an option.

 

[BlueChamisa]

For some of us things changed over time. Sex started out amazing and we couldn’t keep our hands off each other. Then kids and life happened and the intimacy dwindled away. Leaving is not an option.

I'm sorry to hear that. Is he willing to work on it, perhaps in therapy?

 

[alexgriffin74]

To OP and all the others here: thank you. It can be so difficult being alone physically and, sad as these posts sometimes make me, there is some small comfort in knowing I'm not alone. I hope that everyone here can find some measure of relief, no matter how small.

 

[Rob_Royale]

For some of us things changed over time. Sex started out amazing and we couldn’t keep our hands off each other. Then kids and life happened and the intimacy dwindled away. Leaving is not an option.

I'm married now 34 years and I know just how that goes. But the person I quoted said she had never wanted him sexually. Seems an odd situation to marry into, right off the bat.

 

[NightOfPassion2]

36 years now. Kids and grandkids. Mostly in it for them. Mostly roommates in life. In the beginning way different... Sex was...invigorating...at beach...front lawn (we live out in the country)...balcony...now?...it's a chore...

 

[Not Normal]

I feel for all of you in these situations. I was once one of you. I found solace here at Lit. The boards were a lot more personality driven then. I met people I could confide in and commiserate with. I met a long term, long-distance FWB in a similar situation. We've both divorced and found people to share our lives with. That was the beginning of my understanding and living as a poly person. I am still grateful for this place (and a couple of defunct off shoots) for they led me to a much happier life.

 

[original cindy]

Now I see I am not alone in wanting to feel wanted and touched.