All Tied Up and Nowhere To Go

[AbsintheFather]

My wife and I have talked about restraints. I'd like to tie her up, she'd like to be tied up. But am wondering what comes next. I'd like it to be her in a big way. I want to make it a great experience and am thinking that if I can play to her senses; smell, sight - or lack thereof, sound, touch and taste, that I can make it good for her. Smell - I'm thinking oils. Sight - a blindfold. Sounds - soft music. Touch - perhaps feathers, perhaps ice, slow and teasing, maybe a vibrator - that would be new for us. Taste, maybe some chocolate.

Valentines Day is approaching and I'm looking for ideas.

 

[bambikiller]

The blind fold is always a good addition.

Everything you stated sounds good there are no set rules just do what you think she would like and what you like.
You'll get the hang of it soon enough.

Enjoy my friend enjoy.

 

[Tasty_GA_Honey]

I think it all sounds like a very lovely idea sweetheart!!!

My words of advice:

Go sparingly on the chocolate if you choose to do so. Had a lover pour chocolate all over me once and almost make himself sick trying to lick it all off (because a little of that rich, sweetness goes a looooooong way taste wise).

 

[coastal-boy]

what do you want to do? That is part of the restraining process...like...she's going to complain? Tough...you're all tied up. It's a good way of fulfilling her 'naughty' fantasies that you know about but that she may be too afraid or shy to ask for during the heat of passion. What can she do about it?

 

[BertrandRussell]

The first time, make it more symbolic than real. Sometimes people panic the first time when it is more real than they expected.
1) Use a safeword. Make it very clear to her that everything stops if she uses it.
2) Use padded cuffs, and 'carelessly' make them a little loose so that she can pull out if she needs to. Tighten them only it she asks you to.
3) For the blindfold, use a scarf. Drape it across her head so that she can shake it loose. Again, tie it only if she asks. ( and put the knot on the side of her head, not the back )

That being done, a simple feather works wonders. Soft music is a good idea.

Afterwards, don't just leave her after untying her. Sometimes people need to be 'talked down' if the experience was really intense.

 

[jbannon]

Aftercare is so, so important

Thank you BertrandRussell!
The information about 'talking her down' after the rope/bondage experience is oh, so important! My first experience to restraints with blindfold was very intense and exciting. It was all I hoped it to be with my special someone. So, why did I start bawling like a baby afterwards?! I was alone after the experience and had no idea what the hell was wrong with me. I thought I was going insane. I had both physical and emotional symptoms. I found out later from a friend that I must have suffered from "sub drop". WTF! You can Google the term and find out more about the topic.

Suffice to say, pamper her, cuddle her and BE with her afterwards, especially if this the first time you have played in this fashion (or any new fashion). She will love you all the more for it.

Happy Valentines Day!