Anyone care to talk?

[ElusivButterfly]

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no longer neede

 

[ElusivButterfly]

I am not looking for sex,,,,,,,,,,,,cyber or phone...just looking for a friendly venting session...?

Ok...I will delete this is 10 min as to not bug ya'll much longer

 

[Spins]

I'm willing to listen.

What's on your mind?

 

[ElusivButterfly]

I'm willing to listen.

What's on your mind?

PM?


OK 1 more min...then I close this thread

 

[TiberiusM]

Sorry you didn't get to vent.

 

[ElusivButterfly]

Sorry you didn't get to vent.

Oh but I have....not to...........................damn why is it so hard? male or feamle?

 

[TiberiusM]

Oh but I have....not to...........................damn why is it so hard? male or feamle?

Why is it hard? male. Or is that the reason?

 

[okiered]

Love to talk to you. PM me. Male here, Oklahoma.

 

[ElusivButterfly]

I am not male..........I do not pretend to kmow ya'll

All I know is that We get little respect.,...that is what the storey tells!

 

[TiberiusM]

I am not male..........I do not pretend to kmow ya'll

All I know is that We get little respect.,...that is what the storey tells!

I apologize. I didn't properly understand your message. I thought you were asking if I was male or female. As your message seemed distressed, I was uncertain if my being male was the cause of some difficulty. Or if males, in general, were the difficulty.

<shrug>

 

[ElusivButterfly]

I dunno...is cause your male makes life different or cause I am female.....I dunno....tell me what makes a "we" or .................HELP...........................I am listening....To what is suoosed to be important before getining married,,,,,the rest they keep cutting out

 

[ElusivButterfly]

I have had interesting im's but not interesting enough..............you have ideaa? You have an opinion about lofe? Bring it here...............

 

[ElusivButterfly]

Hmmm

*sees afraid afraid to contact me via LIT...

.*laughing* He embarassed...I did that....
but I am who and what I am..
accept ,e or leave me!

Your choice




He will not say here.,.



I will telll................................

 

[Missingmeds]

I have had interesting im's but not interesting enough..............you have ideaa? You have an opinion about lofe? Bring it here...............

Hello EB, good to see you here.

I think you are asking about life in general. I am happy, I like my life, but I think that being happy and liking your life is work. First, off you have to know yourself. Second, you have to know what you want, and figure out do you really need what you want to be happy. Third, you need to figure out if what you want is really going to be worth what it is going to take to get it.

If it sounds like I have been giving this alot of thought lately it is because I have and due to some recent conversations these are some of the things that I have come up with. There is more that I have discovered along the way the last few days. Those I will save until later in this discussion.

 

[ElusivButterfly]

I understand what you are saying...

but where does comprimise enter it it?


or does it?

 

[Missingmeds]

I understand what you are saying...

but where does comprimise enter it it?


or does it?

Compromise, now there's a word. Com promise. I don't think that it can enter into it. In order to get you have to be able to give. If you can't give you can't begin to truly compromise anything. I think that a better question would be what am I will to give to get (insert word here)?

If you aren't willing to give or give up something of value then it is an empty compromise and noone is going to get what they need from it.

The first rule in all of this is that you have to be true to who and what you are. If you aren't then all the compromising in the world isn't going to make a situation any better. The second rule is that you have to be truthful, most of all to yourself, about who and what you are.

 

[ElusivButterfly]

I am ,me...always have been me (for good or bad), yet I have heen dnothing..............he knows more thAn anythign (miore than even familty or cosest freinds do).......... Is that my mistake? Was I too Honest? Should I held back?


*I hold typo queenn stayus*

had to edit that 3 times but still screwed iup***************

 

[Missingmeds]

Is that my mistake? Was I too Honest? Should I held back?

I don't think that you can ever be too honest or that one should ever hold back from someone that they truly care about. If he can't accept you for just who and what you are then maybe he just isn't the right one for you. Noone that I know is perfect. We all have our kinks, quirks, and flaws. The biggest thing is being able to look one's self in the mirror every morning and being happy with the person looking back.

 

[ElusivButterfly]

Why is that no one will talk if i refuse to cyber? That frriggin sucks!

 

[Missingmeds]

Why is that no one will talk if i refuse to cyber? That frriggin sucks!

Alot of women and men have that very complaint. I can't answer that one because I don't cyber.

 

[ElusivButterfly]

Thanks for.....................nothing much...........I am heading to bed, once again

*sigh*****************see this is what I am typing about........no one wants to talk ujless you are willing to get someone off....Lit friggin sucks! Not in a gOOD WAY EIHTER!

 

[ElusivButterfly]

Thanks to those for talking with me,,,,now this thread can die

 

[mrtnmoon]

Why is that no one will talk if i refuse to cyber? That frriggin sucks!

look at the bright side.... at least people wanted to talk to you. lol. I've had threads just looking for someone to talk to and didn't get any response at all. I would have talked to you... might not have been able to provide any insight, but would have been happy to be a vent for you.

anyway.... since the first post has been edited to say "no longer needed" I guess I'm just rambling. I hope that means things are better for you. have a good day/night/whatever it is where you are when/if you read this. (did I cover all the bases?)

 

[TiberiusM]

for what it's worth...

I have been offering this gem to those who may be interested. I have found a way of life in it. Maybe you can gleen a bit from it for yourself.


Desiderata
Max Ehrmann
copyright 1927


Go placidly amid the noise and haste and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible, without surrender, be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
and listen to others, even the dull and ignorant; they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons; they are vexations to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter;
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.

Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
Keep interested in your own career, however humble;
it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in you business affairs; for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
many persons strive for high ideals;
and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself. Especially, do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love;
for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with imaginings.
Many fears or born of fatigue and loneliness.

Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself.
You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt, the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore, be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be,
and whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life,
keep peace with your soul.

With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams,
it is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.