Are gay or bi men interesting to women?

[Smileyouronnow]

I love queer men, always have.

I don't care for women in my porn at all, I'm not attracted to them and they get in the way of me enjoying the men and their pleasure. Solo or gay male porn is my preference--the only thing better than one cock is two [three, four...].

Everything I wrote from 18yo to my mid 20s was yaoi fanfics, gay experiences between anime characters in my case.

I still RP one of those anime pairings with a friend. Funnily, she's a lesbian into that shit. I've always wanted to ask her why she's into it, what she gets out of it, but regular-ass social anxiety stops me from it. And it's probably not my business, anyways.

My dream threesome would be MMF, with the men mostly focussing on each other.

Wow! I love your open mindedness! Married Hispanic bisexual guy here. Wife has no idea. It would cause a divorce if she knew about my thoughts and desires.
Mike in Austin

 

[dingdongditchding]

I've actually seen gay people say that bi men are really gay but still trying to hold on to straight identity.

Of course that thinking from anyone is ridiculous. It's entirely possible to enjoy sex with both genders. I know that is the case for me. I love pussy and dick.

for a group that claims to be so free and inclusive they sure have a lot of rules.

 

[Rodian77]

I'm gay and don't care about being interesting to women. I want to turn on hot guys who want to nut in my mouth and ass.

 

[knobslobberer]

Unfortunately yes it is a common occurrence, some people cannot fathom a middle ground you have to be 100% one thing or another. A lot of straight people see bi people as gay people in denial and gay and lesbians see bi people as straights in denial.

As a gay man, but had sex with three women, I had this attitude.. if you are bi you must be afraid of being homosexual and yet with women it is some how alright, as you say.. I know of a guy, bisexual, in Germany who told us that bi's are discriminate against the most...
I've chatted with a lot of guys who say they are bi but not really but I've chatted to enough to now accept.. whatever..... some guys say they like cock and pussy equally.. but let's face it.. a relationship can be different.

as a gay guy .. I cannot say I would be comfortable with a bi guy in a relationship but who knows.. if we loved each other, then so be it... but I know that for a long time, many gay guys have thought 'oh he is really homo and will not admit it'... how many of us are truly 100% one thing or a not and we are all different.. not that I'm saying I can cope but we are all different.. no one only eats pasta... does eating pasta make you Italian? I hope one day that I will be completely label free.. at least in my thinking.. labels help if you want a quick fix.. if you know someone likes the football, well it just makes things easier or quicker "want to go to the footy with me?"..

 

[Raybies93]

As a gay man, but had sex with three women, I had this attitude.. if you are bi you must be afraid of being homosexual and yet with women it is some how alright, as you say.. I know of a guy, bisexual, in Germany who told us that bi's are discriminate against the most...
I've chatted with a lot of guys who say they are bi but not really but I've chatted to enough to now accept.. whatever..... some guys say they like cock and pussy equally.. but let's face it.. a relationship can be different.

as a gay guy .. I cannot say I would be comfortable with a bi guy in a relationship but who knows.. if we loved each other, then so be it... but I know that for a long time, many gay guys have thought 'oh he is really homo and will not admit it'... how many of us are truly 100% one thing or a not and we are all different.. not that I'm saying I can cope but we are all different.. no one only eats pasta... does eating pasta make you Italian? I hope one day that I will be completely label free.. at least in my thinking.. labels help if you want a quick fix.. if you know someone likes the football, well it just makes things easier or quicker "want to go to the footy with me?"..

How do you react to men who say they will fuck a man but never have romantic feelings for one.

 

[sandybrooke]

They are to my women, Second marriage and found her to be a fag hag. She has a gay male friend she grew up with and floated in his circle.
When we started dating I let it be known I've indulged in a cock or two and she was intrigued with a lot of questions and a lot of laughs between us.
So it expanded our sexual relationship quite a bit.

 

[Britva415]

As a gay man, but had sex with three women

Just curious, did that happen before or after identifying/coming out as gay?

 

[knobslobberer]

Just curious, did that happen before or after identifying/coming out as gay?

I knew I was inclined towards homosexuality. I'd played with friends but somehow it was more attractive than women. I went to a prostitute in my early twenties to see what pussy was like. So without much experience I knew I was that way inclined. I was a practicing homosexual, so to say, and then I fell in love with a woman. Many years later I ended it and mainly because I didn't want to be married with children. Life changes!!!! The third was pure seduction by her and I allowed myself to partake of having sex with her, she was married and this is a very short story of what happened.
Identifying with anything, I'm not against it totally, can make life easier when seeking someone.
After all, when a man goes to the football, he more than likely would like to be there with men who support the same team!! I leave it at that for the time being.

 

[knobslobberer]

How do you react to men who say they will fuck a man but never have romantic feelings for one.

That is a very good question and thanks for asking it. I'm challenged.
one could ask the same question "How do you react to men who say they will fuck a woman but never have romantic feelings for one."

I once had a 'spiritual coach' and he said, "you need to learn the difference between love and sex".
I was challenged about this.
I more or less grew up thinking the two are together!
One can love someone, don't you think, without having sex with them!
One can can sex with someone without loving them!

or

One can have sex with someone and love them in the moment but not necessarily want to be with that person 'forever'.

It is difficult.

It has certainly happened more than once, not tens of times.. I've been out, had some great sex with a guy and felt myself wanting more but he not.. then I'm disappointed or the other way round.
Over time, as a homosexual (but you read my post about women) if I was at a bathhouse and felt myself wanting more, I quite often would just leave it alone and not push anything more. I remember one guy saying, 'can we see each other again?' I replied, 'let us see what happens when we/ if we , meet again'.
It was so that I'd meet a guy the second time and have absolutely not feelings for romance or sex....

I'm not saying this is a strict rule. but it did help to relief any disappointment.

As a homo, I have thought, 'is this guy not wanting romance because he is not out'.
Denying is sexuality?

This is such a big discussion actually because of all the finer points.

Again, we have all been sold a story about 'what something means'.

I think one needs to know oneself (a life time work for some) and what one wants!!
I sometimes say, "I'm 98% homosexual and 2% heterosexual".

Things changed over the years for me and particular during a 'foursome' that a friend and I initiated with a Gay Couple. it lasted max two months. Regular meetings. Hot sex and then relationship dynamics kicked in... mmm the thing fell apart. Many years later I met with the Top guy, hung, and told him that I'd started to fall in love with him. He expressed that he loved me but what could I offer him that he didn't already have with his partner?
I felt rather cruelly rejected actually, but it was 'materialistically' true.

If a man has a good relationship with a woman and they stop having sex and then discovers his 'homosexuality'.. or bisexuality, why should he give up everything?

However, if he meets another man, then I think he should be truthful at the very beginning, IF the question of meeting again, relationships, etc., come into play..

At any given point in all this, sorry to be so serious, sex is not always the main point. It is hot to have sex of course, but one needs to work, live, relate, earn money, keep relationships with others..

HOWEVER, I've been known to love being fucked by someone who purely wants sex with me.

Some of this is to do with the age someone is at. But that is another story....

 

[klippert]

I'm a Bi 'Married" man. I'm far far more interested in my wife / women than men. M/M sex is a just release... an enjoyable release.