Are you a bi male...

[calgary guy]

Great thread. I just want to add my 2 cents worth. I did tell my wife during a pretty hot play time that I would love to try M2M sex and she was all for it. She is bi and we've played with other women, but I would love to find a bi couple (or 2 or 3) where both are bi and we could get together on a regular basis. My wife has even suggested hiring someone for my first time, but nothing has become of that idea.
So the suggestion has been put forth, now I'm just waiting for the end result. I do feel lucky that my wife is into experimenting/experiencing all kinds of new and wonderfull thing and she isn't judgemental. I guess with my being understanding about her bisexuality, she's understanding about me wanting to try.

 

[mssweetangelina]

Just a bump...

To keep this thread alive

 

[Texasmm39]

I had a few mm experiences a while ago (1985 - 1988). My wife knows that I did, but she thinks that I'm 'over it'. To be honest, I had thought that was behind me as well.

Now I find myself thinking about sucking and getting fucked by cock more and more. It's an awkward position to be in to say the least. I love my wife and family, and I'm certain I would lose them if my wife found out that I still have these feelings.

Like others in this thread, she was very wild while we were dating and in our early days of marriage. Now she's so straight laced she doesn't like sex in anything other that the missionary position, nevermind anything that might satisfy my re-emerging urges. It would be nice if she even was willing to use a strap-on on me.

So I'm stuck in the position of choosing to go behind my wife's back, telling her about my orientation, or just denying something that's a part of me. None of those choices really feel right, though the least risky one is to stay with self denial.

I know this is an older thread..but reading this hit home....

wife was WILD when we dated...and early marriage..and now? well she's in bed asleep LOL

so...i have these same urges, sucking a nice smooth cock or seeing what it feels like down below or having a guy's cum shoot on my cock and stomach...

but if my wife found out...I'd have lots of free time, no $$$$$ and a very small crappy apartment after she divorced me...

especially around here...North Texas is kind of a 'he-man' zone, and if you do anything like I'm very much wanting to do..well...you know the list of derogatory things that spew out...

 

[Dave41]

hidden desire

My dear you are so right, have always though of having a mans cock to play with but being married it will most likely never happen. I still do think about it and hope that one day i might have the chance. Would luv to chat with someone about it.

 

[tj2003]

How Refreshing

Sounds familiar...girl, you've written my life story...

Wish there were more women like you who not only understand their guy's feelings and desires, but also encourage them to act on them. And participating right alongside with them is absolutely hot hot hot.

INDEED. If communication exists then so does love and hot sex....

 

[IWantEmailSex]

Another solution

If you want to masturbate while sending filthy emails, I am 33 years old, mulatto, married at fukkmedaddy@yahoo.com. If someone is older and wants to tell me to do things, I'll consider doing them and emailing the photo. Instead of real-world sex, I want to find a virtual master whose emails get me incredibly aroused. Even be my master via email. Sound like a nice idea? email me.

 

[read2me]

Last week when having sex with my girlfriend I was imagining a guy standing over us with his cock in my face, was one of the best orgasms I've ever had... don't think she would be up for the idea but would love to try it in real life

 

[Dweezil44]

I know this is an older thread..but reading this hit home....

wife was WILD when we dated...and early marriage..and now? well she's in bed asleep LOL

so...i have these same urges, sucking a nice smooth cock or seeing what it feels like down below or having a guy's cum shoot on my cock and stomach...

but if my wife found out...I'd have lots of free time, no $$$$$ and a very small crappy apartment after she divorced me...

I hear you. I've lived that story, too.

 

[icansatisfy]

I think you've hit on something here, obviously from the amount of chatter you've had.

I'm 41, grew up in the deep south in the 70's & early 80's. It was unthinkable for guys like me to admit to ourselves or anyone else that we may be gay/bi. So we supressed it as best we could ... and tried to act straight. Many of us eventually find wonderful women who marry us. But we keep our "secret" well-hidden in the closet.

This was me for sure. Before marriage, I had many sexual experiences with guys (including a year long affair with a male teacher my last year of high school). Once on my own, in the military, I bounced back and forth between guys and girls. I preferred sex with men ... but once I had sex with a guy, I'd be repulsed at myself and find a girl to have sex with to convince myself that I wasn't gay. I did this yo-yo thing back and forth until I met and married the wonderful woman who is now my wife. She had no clue when she married me that I was gay/bi. How could she? I wouldn't even admit it to myself.

Not long after marriage ... the old feelings/urges resurfaced. But I did a good job of supressing them over the years. Never acted on them or cheated on my wife.

Recently (last year) I finally came clean and told my wife that I am gay/bi. I also told her that I see no reason to change my relationship with her. I do love her and don't want a divorce. She loves me and assures me she can live with me as long as I don't have an affair with a guy.

It feels good to be "out" and accepted by her. I am not out to anyone else, however. I don't think friends and relatives would either believe it or understand it.

We have experimented with some things sexually since I've come out to her (she gets in the "driver's seat" with a strap on and goes at it with me ;-). And she asks from time to time if I think a particular guy is good-looking or "my type." That's kinda fun!

A long post ... but I wanted to chime in on the topic. I think there are lots and lots of guys like me. Not many chose to stay married ... or stay faithful. I don't fault them or judge those who make a different choice.

I've made mine. I choose my wife and choose to stay with her. But I still have a longing in my heart to be with a man in every way. That will never go away, I suppose.

Cheers!

 

[BedtimeStories77]

Since this is an old chat thread, I'll move it to the correct board.

 

[bi golly]

I told my ex-wife before we married that I was open to male sex. We never did anything about it and sex between us after we married just went away. I jacked off to images of male sex alot because there was very little happening with her.

I'm not in a relationship now. In my last relationship, I told her about my sex patterns and history and she seemed open to the idea of exploration, but it got pretty intense too fast for me. She wanted to explore a lot of BDSM stuff and it seemed to me that it had taken over our relationship. I was not interested in merely having a fuck buddy.

There was a certain lack of trust there also. It wasn't just the sex roles. She hid the fact that she smoked until we had been having sex. And she was a recovering substance abuser. I felt like she had baited me with sex and then tried to set the hook. It wasn't a good feeling.

When I am next in relationship, I will tell the truth and hope that my prospective partner also tells the truth.

 

[little cletus]

My wife is trying to get me to explore my bi side. I am not attracted to men, but I am attracted to cock. We have explored the whole strap on thing. I love it, she likes it, but doesn't do it enough. One of her fantasies is to watch someone fuck me. I dont really have a problem with this. I would prefer it to be a CD or Shemale, but if it is a man, so be it.

I like to fantasize about going down on a man. I wonder what swallowing a load is like, or feeling someone fuck me with a real penis. I would love to jerk off a cock and feel cum on my face. If this makes me bi, so what. But, i have no desire to cuddle, or kiss, or be intimate with a man in any way. Just bring the cock and the cum, and get out.

 

[bi golly]

My wife is trying to get me to explore my bi side. I am not attracted to men, but I am attracted to cock. We have explored the whole strap on thing. I love it, she likes it, but doesn't do it enough. One of her fantasies is to watch someone fuck me. I dont really have a problem with this. I would prefer it to be a CD or Shemale, but if it is a man, so be it.

I like to fantasize about going down on a man. I wonder what swallowing a load is like, or feeling someone fuck me with a real penis. I would love to jerk off a cock and feel cum on my face. If this makes me bi, so what. But, i have no desire to cuddle, or kiss, or be intimate with a man in any way. Just bring the cock and the cum, and get out.

I used to feel this way. I wanted the cock, but the rest of it repulsed me. I think I was afraid that I would be gay, and I didn't understand gay. I was afraid of that which I did not know.

I have changed and feel more secure now. I would love to get naked with a man and just do everything. I would love to feel his hands on me. The idea of a man giving me a massage makes me hard. Having a man squeeze my ass would be heaven. Getting to 69 with a man, each pleasing the other would be the best.

The relationship between partners is tricky. I don't know if there are power issues between the two of you, but involving someone else in the relationship will change things. My now ex-wife was hot to have me play with other men until we started dildo play, then she decided that she didn't want anything like that any more. I think she got scared.

 

[Terminally_Bi]

Who keeps his desires for other men a secret? Do you have a wife/girlfriend/significant other who doesn't share that "forbidden" fantasy with you so you're left to sneaking out and having discreet encounters? I personally think bi men are very appealing--how could I argue with a man's desire for cock when I enjoy it so much myself?!

The secrecy of it all can be a turnon but it can also become almost too much to bear at some point. If you feel you need a release for whatever reason, let me hear from you. I'm very easy to talk to and maybe you might find it easier chatting with someone who doesn't know you or your history and who won't judge you because of your sexual desires.

Hope to hear from anyone who'd like to share...

Unfortunately I fall into this group. I knew from childhood that I was bi only I didn't know it was called that. I felt that I had to try to repress my feelings because it wasn't acceptable back then and I lived in fear of any one finding out. I actually felt that there was something wrong with me and I needed to "fix it" but I couldn't. I occasionally had sex with guys that I felt I could trust but those were not nearly as often as I would have liked. I married a sweet woman who unfortunately is president of the straight peoples organization. She would not understand my feelings and when she found my nylons one day she "freaked" and went hysterical because she understood that to mean that I was gay. She only knows straight or gay and nothing else. She knows GL but not BT. I haven't had sex with a man for a couple years and its killing me inside.