Well, then go with what she likes, and maybe try to experiment a little bit while listening to and watching her reactions closely. For instance, if you know she likes a circular motion, you might try stroking up and down and side-to-side, and putting some pressure on her anus, with a lubed finger as well.
Physical arousal isn't indicative of consent. Many women have signs of physical arousal while they're being raped, and rapists use the bullshit line of "her body was saying yes" justification all the time.
Anyone who would tie their partner up and/or tape their mouth and/or engage in penetration without explicit consent AND a safe word and signal is an idiot asking for serious trouble.
The fact that this scenario went over alright with you, Vandygal, is pure luck. In the eyes of most people and the law, it's sexual assault and potentially a life-threatening act.
Dhrider, it doesn't matter how long you've been together, it's still unsafe, insane and nonconsensual if she doesn't agree to it and have an out if something's going wrong. If this is something SHE wants to do, make sure you know how to restrain her safely (bondage can do permanent damage if it's done the wrong way), have paramedic/safety shears standing by to get her out quickly if need be, agree on a safe word and signal, and do NOT use tape on her mouth. You can use some kind of gag that is easy to remove if she's having trouble with it, or put her panties in her mouth in such a way that she can easily spit them out if she needs them out.
Kink is fantastic, but you need to do it safely and smartly. If you don't love her enough to do that, love yourself enough to want to avoid legal charges and other nastiness. Think with your big head here.
Physical arousal isn't indicative of consent. Many women have signs of physical arousal while they're being raped, and rapists use the bullshit line of "her body was saying yes" justification all the time.
Anyone who would tie their partner up and/or tape their mouth and/or engage in penetration without explicit consent AND a safe word and signal is an idiot asking for serious trouble.
The fact that this scenario went over alright with you, Vandygal, is pure luck. In the eyes of most people and the law, it's sexual assault and potentially a life-threatening act.
Dhrider, it doesn't matter how long you've been together, it's still unsafe, insane and nonconsensual if she doesn't agree to it and have an out if something's going wrong. If this is something SHE wants to do, make sure you know how to restrain her safely (bondage can do permanent damage if it's done the wrong way), have paramedic/safety shears standing by to get her out quickly if need be, agree on a safe word and signal, and do NOT use tape on her mouth. You can use some kind of gag that is easy to remove if she's having trouble with it, or put her panties in her mouth in such a way that she can easily spit them out if she needs them out.
Kink is fantastic, but you need to do it safely and smartly. If you don't love her enough to do that, love yourself enough to want to avoid legal charges and other nastiness. Think with your big head here.
Well, actually, if you're talking about legal technicalities, you either shouldn't do BDSM at all, or you should do it under contract drawn up by a lawyer.Physical arousal isn't indicative of consent. Many women have signs of physical arousal while they're being raped, and rapists use the bullshit line of "her body was saying yes" justification all the time.
Anyone who would tie their partner up and/or tape their mouth and/or engage in penetration without explicit consent AND a safe word and signal is an idiot asking for serious trouble.
The fact that this scenario went over alright with you, Vandygal, is pure luck. In the eyes of most people and the law, it's sexual assault and potentially a life-threatening act.
Dhrider, it doesn't matter how long you've been together, it's still unsafe, insane and nonconsensual if she doesn't agree to it and have an out if something's going wrong. If this is something SHE wants to do, make sure you know how to restrain her safely (bondage can do permanent damage if it's done the wrong way), have paramedic/safety shears standing by to get her out quickly if need be, agree on a safe word and signal, and do NOT use tape on her mouth. You can use some kind of gag that is easy to remove if she's having trouble with it, or put her panties in her mouth in such a way that she can easily spit them out if she needs them out.
Kink is fantastic, but you need to do it safely and smartly. If you don't love her enough to do that, love yourself enough to want to avoid legal charges and other nastiness. Think with your big head here.
It's extremely hard to guarentee consent any other way when you're talking being tied up and gagged. Yeah, safe word/signals are important, but in order to work well, at least the major details need to be agreed to in advance, as far as exactly what kind of privleges the dom person will get. It's not like it really leads to being able to talk things out once you're in the middle of it.Duct tape Don't use it, will hurt like fuck removing it, mind you it will act as a good hair remover for any facial hair your girl may have
My suggestion go down on her, then once simmering continue south.
Good luck.
