Assholes & Orgasms

[almasy7292]

Pain is not inevitable. I think that it is the "newness" of it (i.e., having something entering you) that creates a little discomfort at first. Maybe start with a very slim, very small dong. Be sure to be very liberal with lube. Eventually, you'll begin to take more and more. That's just my opinion though.

 

[human_male]

One thing that puts me off butt pleasure is the worry that I might permanently loosen out my asshole. Is that a possibility, assuming one doesn't fuck donkeys or something really huge?

Thanks.

 

[slutgirl1]

never had anything up my ass but really want to try - what should i begin with and is pain inevitable initially ?

Can the girls pipe in here?

A word of caution for your first time, go SLOW. Slow and lots of lube. Make sure your partner isn't going to shove it in and fuck away, because, in that case, yes it's going to hurt. Make sure the guy knows it's your first time and talk to him about it. He'll understand. (Or should, and if he doesn't, run away until you find someone who does.)

I regularly come from anal sex and it's personally one of my very favorite things.

 

[Bystander]

One thing that puts me off butt pleasure is the worry that I might permanently loosen out my asshole. Is that a possibility, assuming one doesn't fuck donkeys or something really huge?

Thanks.

unless you plan on regular sessions with a donkey you will be OK. Stick to reasonable sized toys, start small and your body will let you how far you can go.

 

[blklthrjkt]

That donkey idea was a Buzz kill, but the advice of going slow is sound. I love playing with toys in my ass, but I still have to allow my body to get used to the experience before taking the "plunge".

As far as your ass getting loose? Well I have friends who regularly take fists and they haven't had a problem. The only possible complication would be actually damaging the muscles of the sphincter, but your body will let you know how to avoid that. If it's too painful, you are going way too fast.

 

[Olive Hizklosoff]

JoshM:
If I were you, I'd go to www.stockroom.com and look at the rubber buttplugs. The price is right and it's a good place to start. Start with the smallest. Give yourself a good wank and see if you enjoy it. If yes, move up to a larger size. There is so much to choose from.

"Let the games begin!"

 

[Wolfman1982]

People, not to be rude. But I believe there is almost a joke coming up with the title of this cool thread. Think about it "assholes and orgasms" , anyway I have to get into the mood. Before I really work myself up, and give myself a good buggering in my buttocks. But damn, it is a great feeling, when the dildo slides in and out of my behind.

 

[Martin1110]

The Anus

For lack of a better title, I apologize.
But the anus is quite resilient. If it weren't then there would be caveats galore about it.
I'm 60 and I've had plenty "up there" over the years and I am still tighter than someone who've never gone as far.
I don't know about fisting or oversized dildos as they are not my cup of tea.
I think the key words here are to treat it with respect.
It is not an orifice that is to be entered but it's sole purpose is elimination.
Having said that, we do know that the anus can be a source of great pleasure for some and improvisation can come into play here. Again, great respect must be paid to it and if not, there's where the damage can take place.
Lubrication is an essential part. The anus is not a naturally lubricating area and so it is necessary that anyone apply plenty of that.
Women in pornography have been doing it all along. The anus is a neutral area in the sense that both men and women can enjoy the attention given there. Men are conditioned that their ass is off limits but the nerve endings are exactly the same, plus men have that little walnut in the form of the prostate that sends them to kingdom come, not unlike a woman's g-spot.
To each their own, but again, since it is a sensitive area of the body, we must always treat it with respect.
Rimming is a favorite of mine that I do on either women or men, but I recognize that it can be problematical if a person isn't "clean." That is the essential. If I think that it is going to be a part of my sex play with whoever, it is my utmost obligation to spread those legs as far as my 60-year body will allow me to and that the damn pucker is clean (lol).

 

[vidmin]

I am a 49yo bi-male, always have a very strong orgasm while being ass fucked, cocks or toys. Have been getting fucked since I was 17, no prob with me butt, lube and care is what is needed.

 

[none2_none2]

My partner goes wild with passion when I play with his ass. He also drips some which is a real big turn on. The only thing that concerns me is that it is difficult for ME to get him to ejaculate. I get concerned about that as you always hear that not getting off regularly can increase your chance for prostate cancer. I worry that sometimes I have to go to extremes to get him to where he has a release. About the best way to get him off after I have gotten off is either to have him masturbate himself after I put my fingers back in his hole that by then has my cum inside OR to go wash up and put my cock in his mouth where he cannot breath very well. I love to accommodate his getting off, I just wish that something more simple sucha s masturbating him while I fucked him worked. He really prefers to have me concentrate on fucking him and hitting his prostate. I've noticed this in a few guys in my past, but I never understood the logic. Plus if I try to masturbate him AFTER I get off, he is TOO sensitive even if I didn't touch his cock before when I did fuck him.

For those of you that love anal play, is this normal? That is that you enjoy the anal stimulation so much that having someone play with your cock at the same time or during that afterward glow is a distraction? Again, if he's happy, I'm happy. I just don't want him to get prostate problems because he doesn't get off that often.

 

[vidmin]

There are times when I just liked to be fucked, just feels great. There are times when I like my cock played with while being fucked, on my back partner fucking and jacking me. I don't have any info on cacer ant not cumming. I am 49, no prob here. If your partner is a bottom like me, getting you off may be all he needs, it is for me sometimes.

 

[none2_none2]

There are times when I just liked to be fucked, just feels great. There are times when I like my cock played with while being fucked, on my back partner fucking and jacking me. I don't have any info on cacer ant not cumming. I am 49, no prob here. If your partner is a bottom like me, getting you off may be all he needs, it is for me sometimes.

Thanks for the info. We are practically your age. My partner turned 49 early this month, and I will in Dec... When you say getting your partner off is enough sometimes, do you mean there is some kind of physical satisfaction in it even if you don't get off, or do you mean just the emotional satisfaction that your body caused a man to get relief? Also, do you ever prefer your cock not to be touched after the top gets off? I know when I cum, I can get pretty sensitive and not want someone to rub it. However, if the bottom didn't physically ejaculate, I would think that he would be BEGGING for release. They may be silly questions, but I always strive to make sure my partner is totally satisfied, otherwise I have failed as a top.

 

[blklthrjkt]

I agree. love seeing my partner get off and feel great!

 

[AlecBond]

I would say the exact opposite in that it's pretty strong. In my experiences with my wife, I have gotten what I am presuming is "the feeling" that others describe. I have yet to have a fully-anal orgasm, but damned if it doesn't sure as hell add to the one I do have.

 

[johnnyfm78]

Lately my wife and I have experimented with dildo play on me, however, and while it's not enough to bring me to orgasm, it certainly makes them way more intense.

 

[PaulSmithers]

Well I've just got to try this. I've toyed with the idea of having something up my arse while having a wank but only got as far as the end of my finger so far.