Attracted to women, turned on by men

[Swuchmann]

Although I love women I have been a bi bottom for many years. With my wife/women I am always the dominate partner.

As a bottom I enjoy the feeling of being dominated and degraded by a dominant top. Totally being submissive to him and his sexual desires.

It provides a balance to my sexual being.

 

[roseburgsteve]

Married, similar age, but have been a bi-bottom for 20 years. Not physically attracted to guys and still check out and fantasize about women, but sexually I much prefer being with guys. Marriage isn’t active at all but we are still life partners, but for sex I go almost exclusively with a guy I’ve been fucking exclusively for a few years now.. it may be because as I’ve gotten older the possibility of me getting with the women I’m attracted to physically is pretty slim, but I think I’m now wired more to being the recipient of cock and cum, rather than the provider.

I am right there with you, only difference is I am attracted to men as much as women. But yes still married and sexless I mostly only been having gay sex

 

[Travisspank]

I am right there with you, only difference is I am attracted to men as much as women. But yes still married and sexless I mostly only been having gay sex

Have you thought what you would do if happened to be single again someday? I’m not sure…

 

[Iwillgo]

Sexless marriage so i look at all kinds of porn. Would be nice to be doing a guys wife doggy while he's under her licking my cock. Pull out and give him a few deep pumps in the mouth and back to her. Guess depends how horny Iam what I like.

Many times when I was in a 69 with my wife, I would fantasize of another guy sliding his cock into my mouth and then back into her wet pussy...

 

[AlexBailey]

Many times when I was in a 69 with my wife, I would fantasize of another guy sliding his cock into my mouth and then back into her wet pussy...

One of the yummiest things I’ve tasted is a cock that just came out of a pussy

 

[chapter6plan]

So I’m sure my story is not uncommon. I’m 48, married, but I’ve always wondered what it would be like to be with a man. The desire has been their since I was a teenager and has only grown stronger over the years. I’ve never had any gay experiences, I’m not looking to cheat and I’m comfortable with myself. The thing that I can’t wrap my brain around is that in real life I’m completely attracted to women. I’m constantly checking them out as I always have. But when I’m alone my thoughts only go to men. Of course the easy access to gay porn has only helped fuel this fire. It’s just strange to me that I could be pulled toward women on one level and yet be obsessed toward men on another level. It seems like, given how strongly I’m turned on by gay porn and thoughts of men, that it would translate to the real world. Yet I don’t find myself checking out men like I do women. Does anyone else feel this way? I don’t just obsess over cock, I fantasize about being with a man completely. The first date, flirting and kissing. The body contact, and feeling his strength and and energy, so different from a woman. And of course the sex, but hot and sweaty and slow and sensual. I sometimes think it’s just a kink and curiosity, other times I think I must be bi, and then sometimes I wonder if this is what it’s like to be in denial and in the closet. Would love to hear any genuine feedback, any thoughts about all of this. You can pm me as well. Thanks

I don't check out men either, unless they are nude (or nearly nude) and nicely built. Then, I can't take my eyes off them. I can entertain a fantasy with an average woman, but any man with a body less than about a 8.5/10 invokes a 'yuk!' from me. This is why I left Sniffies.com ... to many guys were kinda gross. Not that I'm anywhere near a 8/10, mind you.
I'm a virgin with men, but like you, I fantasize about having a male lover ... at least a fuck-buddy to play with. I think it's partly because I've done just about everything I ever wanted to do with a woman. Men are the undiscovered country. Also, during vaginal sex with my wife, my only job is to satisfy her. We tried anal intercourse a couple of times and it was really nice ... we both knew she wouldn't orgasm, so I was able to focus on my orgasm. I would like to both give and receive that selfish pleasure with another man.

 

[Laceyboi]

Confused being closet experienced full crossdressing married man obsessed with everything pretty and girly so much so I spend all my spare time in full makeup girl transformation known only by my lovely wife,physically and romantically attracted to women but ridiculously excited and attracted towards male genitalia and from experience before marriage fully aware of my overwhelming preference and satisfaction having sexual submissive role intercourse orally and analy with confident well hung assertive alpha types particularly in full girl transformation. Not romantically or facially attracted by men,just sexually. Unless they are cute feminine or convincing cd,tv transformation etc. Extremely aroused and very satisfied being strapon pegged and submissive for glam mistress femdom and huge strapon. Please can anyone identify and educate my confusion

 

[saintcero]

Confused being closet experienced full crossdressing married man obsessed with everything pretty and girly so much so I spend all my spare time in full makeup girl transformation known only by my lovely wife,physically and romantically attracted to women but ridiculously excited and attracted towards male genitalia and from experience before marriage fully aware of my overwhelming preference and satisfaction having sexual submissive role intercourse orally and analy with confident well hung assertive alpha types particularly in full girl transformation. Not romantically or facially attracted by men,just sexually. Unless they are cute feminine or convincing cd,tv transformation etc. Extremely aroused and very satisfied being strapon pegged and submissive for glam mistress femdom and huge strapon. Please can anyone identify and educate my confusion

I have it just like you except for cross dressing. No one has explained it or to my knowledge even identified it. We are just a small (but not real small) segment of the sexual world. There are lots of us that feel this way. Welcome. Enjoy. It’s just sex.

 

[Laceyboi]

I have it just like you except for cross dressing. No one has explained it or to my knowledge even identified with it. We are just a small (but not real small) segment of the sexual world. There are lots of us that feel this way. Welcome. Enjoy. It’s just sex.

My attempts to understand this tend to end up being sissy gendered,however it's more complicated than the simple definitive label focusing specifically on the male genitalia focus without real physical attraction towards other men per say that results in extreme submissive worship and obsessive behaviour with zero lack of control or morals lol. Admittedly relatable in part in the moment but definitely not anywhere near my experience.
Naturally attracted to women particularly glamorous makeup and clothing and femininity/mannerisms my entire life and certainly the reason I am so drawn and comfortable in indulging this desire personally, just always focused and jealous of the gorgeous girls who I fancied and wanted to be getting pleasure and satisfaction from the big thick beautiful erections and semen I fixated and ached for obviously different to stereotypical expectations.
Cemented experiencing first sexual act giving oral and much later penetrative anal sex and immeasurably more pleasurable and intense prostate orgasm making near impossible, certainly far less desirable to have sex with the opposite gender, extremely frustrating and emotionally difficult and really guilty struggling with the realisation of hiding and disappointing the person you are in love with and committed to gradually becoming less sexually intimate.
Even if the opportunity of permissive sexual opportunities were available, sex without emotional connections is not appealing therefor unfulfilling

 

[saintcero]

My attempts to understand this tend to end up being sissy gendered,however it's more complicated than the simple definitive label focusing specifically on the male genitalia focus without real physical attraction towards other men per say that results in extreme submissive worship and obsessive behaviour with zero lack of control or morals lol. Admittedly relatable in part in the moment but definitely not anywhere near my experience.
Naturally attracted to women particularly glamorous makeup and clothing and femininity/mannerisms my entire life and certainly the reason I am so drawn and comfortable in indulging this desire personally, just always focused and jealous of the gorgeous girls who I fancied and wanted to be getting pleasure and satisfaction from the big thick beautiful erections and semen I fixated and ached for obviously different to stereotypical expectations.
Cemented experiencing first sexual act giving oral and much later penetrative anal sex and immeasurably more pleasurable and intense prostate orgasm making near impossible, certainly far less desirable to have sex with the opposite gender, extremely frustrating and emotionally difficult and really guilty struggling with the realisation of hiding and disappointing the person you are in love with and committed to gradually becoming less sexually intimate.
Even if the opportunity of permissive sexual opportunities were available, sex without emotional connections is not appealing therefor unfulfilling

You have a full mixed bag of conflicts for sure. I don’t think I am sharp enough to guide you to a balanced and happy solution. I will stick with one thought; you are not alone in this. There are many here that can relate to your condition. Keep writing and chatting. You may find that it helps you or maybe helps someone like you.

 

[PleasePeesMe]

I used to think there were hetero and homosexual people. But since having some cocksucking experience, I've come to the conclusion that there are some people who really, really enjoy sex and who they have it with doesn't matter. I completely agree with the old saying, "If it feels good, do it".

 

[PleasePeesMe]

I should probably add a caveat - I'm not turned on by men, I'm turned on by cock.

 

[BlueChamisa]

100% romantically and affectionally and socially oriented toward women. Love sex with women. Find them stunning and alluring and irresistable.

And ... I've had a thing for a big hard cock since I was 20. I love cock, I truly do.

 

[Lucien_Al]

I should probably add a caveat - I'm not turned on by men, I'm turned on by cock.

My feelings exactly. Having one in my mouth is surely one of the most erotic things I have tried.

 

[Belong2Her]

+1 here too.

I'm in my early 40s, however I can relate to almost all of the topics in this thread...early onset guy interest, the girly side of life, growing guy interest, cuckoldry interest, primary attraction to women, finding guys attractive, etc.

I have found this to be a recurring discussion across a plethora of platforms over countless years.

There is definitely a commonality, yet I've never come across any studies, firm theories, etc.

i have many of those same feelings. Most of them are stirred by submissiveness to my Wife and "real masculine Men."

 

[chapter6plan]

i have many of those same feelings. Most of them are stirred by submissiveness to my Wife and "real masculine Men."

'Real masculine' men intimidate me, but I get so turned on by the thought of a beginner top. I have almost no experience with men, but I'd love to be the first bottom for a nervous top. We could spend hours exploring each others bodies.

 

[Belong2Her]

'Real masculine' men intimidate me, but I get so turned on by the thought of a beginner top. I have almost no experience with men, but I'd love to be the first bottom for a nervous top. We could spend hours exploring each others bodies.

That sounds so exciting! But in defense of the real masculine Men, even if they are intimidating, that makes it all so much more exciting when you are a submissive like i am. i like to be taken.

 

[chapter6plan]

That sounds so exciting! But in defense of the real masculine Men, even if they are intimidating, that makes it all so much more exciting when you are a submissive like i am. i like to be taken.

I'm a bottom, but not really submissive. I want a man to take me the way a physical therapist takes a patient ... gently but with clear intent of action. It can hurt, but in a way that moves me closer to full pleasure.

 

[Britva415]

I'm a bottom, but not really submissive.

I wish more people could separate topping and bottoming from domination and submission.

The two things don't have to have anything to do with each other.

Well, it seems like they do, for a lot of people. Too bad for the rest of us who don't want a D/s scene.

 

[chapter6plan]

I wish more people could separate topping and bottoming from domination and submission.

The two things don't have to have anything to do with each other.

Well, it seems like they do, for a lot of people. Too bad for the rest of us who don't want a D/s scene.

The videos available reinforce this dynamic. I'd love to find more vids of guys working together to have great sex. Lots of FF videos like that, but not MM. MMF videos are more balanced than the MM, I think.

 

[Shaglus_Ziegler]

I’ve had a decent number of male experiences but not since marrying my wife. She knows I like it and is open to exploring but finding a man organically is rare it seems. She has fucked me numerous times and it has been amazing. Would really love to be inseminated at least once before leaving this realm. Lol. We shall see. We’re in California. Charisma and energy are important! Cheers

 

[Hotpassion66]

I really love it when I can suck during the 69 position. Sloppy sucking and licking balls.

 

[TinaCole]

When I was in high school soooo many years ago I was the classic whimpy kid. The girls in school were worse bullies than the boys. So I had no social life to speak of. Until one day I met a this boy who who treated me nice, we would meet after school, and hang out. I was so dense that it never dawned on me that he thought we were dating, I eventually gave myself to him one night and never regretted it. Mom just thought we were best friends, never suspected that when we were left alone in the house we were like two bunnies heat. I would sneak into some of mom's clothes and dress up when he would come over, even ventured out on occassion to a movie or the drive in for an ice cream.

 

[Curiousforcock24]

So I’m sure my story is not uncommon. I’m 48, married, but I’ve always wondered what it would be like to be with a man. The desire has been their since I was a teenager and has only grown stronger over the years. I’ve never had any gay experiences, I’m not looking to cheat and I’m comfortable with myself. The thing that I can’t wrap my brain around is that in real life I’m completely attracted to women. I’m constantly checking them out as I always have. But when I’m alone my thoughts only go to men. Of course the easy access to gay porn has only helped fuel this fire. It’s just strange to me that I could be pulled toward women on one level and yet be obsessed toward men on another level. It seems like, given how strongly I’m turned on by gay porn and thoughts of men, that it would translate to the real world. Yet I don’t find myself checking out men like I do women. Does anyone else feel this way? I don’t just obsess over cock, I fantasize about being with a man completely. The first date, flirting and kissing. The body contact, and feeling his strength and and energy, so different from a woman. And of course the sex, but hot and sweaty and slow and sensual. I sometimes think it’s just a kink and curiosity, other times I think I must be bi, and then sometimes I wonder if this is what it’s like to be in denial and in the closet. Would love to hear any genuine feedback, any thoughts about all of this. You can pm me as well. Thanks

This is me with the exception of kissing. Just can't see myself kissing a man the same as a woman.

 

[TinaCole]

This is me with the exception of kissing. Just can't see myself kissing a man the same as a woman.

I used to think that to until it happened, it was warm, romantic, arousing. It works for me.